My childhood best friend is now a meth addict

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This has been bothering me for a while. Figured I'd share here for entertainment, also - it'll help me get some perspective lol.

Before getting into the meat of the story, you gotta know some background info.

I am from a third-world country, our school systems are probably different than the west. We have grades 1 - 13. There are three island-wide exams (big exams) in grade 5, 11, and 13. These exams are very important when changing schools, getting to universities, etc.

I went to three schools.

School A (grade 1 - 9)
This is the definition of a "shitty" school. Anyone from a third world country would know what I am talking about. Kids from the poorest family went here. My parents were broke as fuck - so this was my only option.

School B (grade 9 - 11)
A middle-class school.

School C (grade 12 - 13)
Elite school where almost all the parents of the kids are surgeons, engineers, and whatnot.

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So this friend (let’s call him Sam) is from school A. We were best buddies. Our parents knew each other very well. We (me and him) were the brighsest kids in that shitty school. The whole school knew us. I was always the class first, Sam was second. I was a fat c***t, but Sam participated in some sports too. Well in grade 5 island-wide exam, I was the only kid who passed the exam in that school in 10 years. Sam was a few marks behind the passing cutout.

So, when I was in grade 9, this teacher asked to meet my parents. She had mentioned to my parents if they want a good future for me, they had to change school. At the time my parents had known a local politician somehow. With some effort, my parents managed to put me in school B (a different city). Long story short, I aced the grade 11 exam, moved to the elite school, aced grade 13 exam, went abroad for my bachelours, came back and got a good job, and later quit. In that time, I lost contact with Sam.

So a few months ago, I saw him in a small electronic shop - working as an assistant. He looked very weak. I knew something was wrong. Well recently found out, he is using meth (ice).

I know there is nothing I could have done to change it. Life sometimes works in mysterious ways. But I can’t help but wonder - if I hadn’t changed school, would this have happened?
 
Setup better School in your area :)
Wish a new Sam is not born.Let's make society a better place to live in.

I m sure if Sam was your true friend and if you were in his condition, Surely he would have done something to help you. May be teach him some IM.

Save his life,That's what I have done if I were you.In fact,I have taught 20+ people about IM in my life who were having financial crisis.Teach him about blogging.He would earn decent cash than his salary.Maybe later in life he may invest that money to earn more,who knows.

But one thing for sure,if you can change his life, he and his entire family will be grateful for you,their entire life,Do it for your personal satisfaction. :)
 
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I feel you bro. I can't publicly say how exactly, but I know exactly what you mean. Hopefully, it's not going to end in the same way as I experienced. Good luck and positive thoughts from me!
 
Everyone is responsible for themselves. Their life, their decisions. Nobody forces them to take any kinda substance. You don't need to save someone from drowning if they decide to jump into a river by themselves.

By the way: It would be way more likely you would be a math addict, instead of you "rescuing" him. That's human behavior. People are way more likely to adapt to the bad behavior of their friends (laziness, addiction, partying, playing video games many hours per day, etc.) than they are adapting to your good behavior (being ambitious, working out, working hard, etc.)
 
You choose what you do in your life. You either choose to be good, or bad. I am afraid, you can't do much about your friend's fate. If he listens to your advice, then tell him to stop using it. Otherwise...
 
Do you want to feel guilty for your own success? Does your success reduce someone else's?
The answer should be "No".

Potential is useless if you don't use it. You did and he didn't so you have something and he has nothing. That's how that works.
 
You have choosen ways that will make you a better, educated and responsible person. Look, you are not being selfish as everyone has their own lives and we should always put some value in it to make it worth living.
However on the other hand your friend choosen something which is not right for his health and career. And it is not in any way your fault that he ended up like Walter White (well ur friend is not selling it I guess). Even rich people having luxurious lives sometimes end up wasting it in this drain.
Praying for some enlightenment for your friend to do the trick.
Good luck.
 
Nope it would not have made a difference. I have realised it the hard way you cannot change people and should stop blaming yourself for their actions
 
I feel you bro. A couple of my friends have become an alcoholics, even though they're still 22-27 years of age. It always make me sad, I've tried to help them a lot of times, but always failed.
 
Damn that's though. Went through the same thing a couple years back. Stay strong and don't blame this on yourself.
 
Setup better School in your area :)
Wish a new Sam is not born.Let's make society a better place to live in.

I m sure if Sam was your true friend and if you were in his condition, Surely he would have done something to help you. May be teach him some IM.

Save his life,That's what I have done if I were you.In fact,I have taught 20+ people about IM in my life who were having financial crisis.Teach him about blogging.He would earn decent cash than his salary.Maybe later in life he may invest that money to earn more,who knows.

But one thing for sure,if you can change his life, he and his entire family will be grateful for you,their entire life,Do it for your personal satisfaction. :)

I just read your username after reading your reply :(

Also teach your friend IM but are you sure he won't use that money to get some more ICE.
 
Why did you mention the part about your parents knowing a local politician? Was that relevant to the story? Do you feel that this relationship had something to do with being able to transfer into a better school system? And if so, do you feel that you should have requested your parents to put in a good word for "Sam", and because you didn't, now you feel guilty, as it would have meant him having the same opportunities as you?

Just looking for a bit more clarity inside this butterfly effect (plus taking it into a different direction than everyone else).
 
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