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Looking for some help getting my mom and I away from living with an addict

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by ryanisme, Jul 21, 2012.

  1. ryanisme

    ryanisme Newbie

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    I'm not asking you to give me money, but I know some of you here can leverage a lot of power when it comes to getting the word out about something.

    That's all I'm asking for. Your help to spread a web page. I can't post the link, but you can find it on indiegogo and search for Ryan Murphy. The name of the page is "Help My Mother and I Move away from our Addict Room Mate".

    My mother and I live with a pain killer addict, and have for three years. I've been working on different ways to make money online for quite some time. Most of my ability is creative, not technical or menial. I am at my wits end when it comes to the woman we live with. I am afraid of finding her OD'ed, or having her go through some sort of violent psychotic break.

    So I could really use your help in getting that page spread around. I want to get us out of here before things get worse. I can't keep working on my projects with sound mind when I'm worried about what tomorrow will bring.

    Any and all help is vastly appreciated.
    Please, and thank you more than I can ever put into words
     
  2. ryanisme

    ryanisme Newbie

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    Please understand this is not a simple situation.

    We had to move in with the addict, and it is her apartment. I am also having to deal with my mother's depression, which makes getting her to do anything difficult. My mother is disabled and has fallen into a habit of extreme procrastination with pretty much everything. I am stuck trying to be the responsible one between us, but she is the one with the money coming in. Anytime I try to get on her about doing things that need done, she gets pissed at me.

    Getting the money to move is part of why I made that page, but it's also about getting the leverage I need to force my mother to actually do something. As is I have 0 power within our dynamic. I can argue, and nag at her till I'm blue in the face, but at the end of the day it's her money and I can't force her to do anything with it, even when it needs to be done.
     
  3. jeremonster

    jeremonster Regular Member

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    Man, see if your mother qualifies for state disability and try to move to a small town where it is affordable. The unemployment rate in North Dakota is 2% .. you could fall down and get up with a job. You have to get away from that situation and relying on one website is not the answer. Even if you have 50 websites that is a long and slow ride. Do some research and find low rent rates and low unemployment. It is an adventure and every day your stuck in this situation is a day you are missing out on living a better life.
     
  4. ryanisme

    ryanisme Newbie

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    She is already on disability.

    I am primarily a music producer using what I have learned about online marketing to market myself. Not easy, and it takes time. I am well aware of all the things stacked up against me, which is why I'm trying to get help now.

    I no longer feel I have the luxury of time.
     
  5. Intra

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    I'll check out the website. I hope everything turns out alright for you.
     
  6. phatzilla

    phatzilla Supreme Member

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    man bhw is really turning to sob story central. suck it up, alot of people have it tougher
     
  7. krayzietalent

    krayzietalent Junior Member

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    Thank you OP.

    Your pathetic beggar video gave me motivation to go and work that much harder on my project, knowing that doing so allows me to take care of my mother if need be, without being dependent on anyone for help. Thanks again.
     
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  9. walandio

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    dude.. why not try jumpstart.com I guess there are a lot of active people in the community..
     
  10. peerless2acme

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    You're on the wrong forum dude. Every people has some or the other problem and if each one of us start sharing our problems and ask for help, then BHW will transform into a hub for sob stories. It will lose it's glory. So, a humble request is to try this somewhere else. I had once reached to a state where I was under $5000 debt and house being mortgaged but rather than sobbing I worked hard and got out of the misery. Take action and move ahead. Nothing beats action.
     
  11. xTiger

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    You are in the wrong forum. we bust our asses to make money, as peerless said. if each will start talking about thier problems it will never end.
     
  12. illfounded21

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    Everyone has a judgemental opinion until it happens to them. OP I will check out the link, and will help if i can.