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Lonely, Depressed, and Unfulfilled from Internet Marketing.

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by pringlez, Aug 25, 2014.

  1. pringlez

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    Hi guys,

    I was wondering if anyone has experienced what I am feeling at the moment.

    I have been doing Internet Marketing for a couple years now, working full-time from home.

    Although I make decent money (as much as a normal job - if not more), I feel unfulfilled, depressed, and lonely from the work.

    I regularly stay up late, wake up late in the day, and see few people throughout the day. I find now, the work is becoming so boring and tiresome that I have become less motivated to do work.

    I feel like I just locked in my house while the world passes on by. Everyone is getting things done, making a contribution to the world, while I am just doing boring unfulfilling crap.

    I was thinking I should open a SEO firm and hire a few employees, but are they profitable ventures? Will this expand my horizons and allow me to interact with more people? Or maybe a web-design firm? I can imagine dealing with clients who want minute details changed would be a massive pain in the a$$.

    Some advice from people who have been in similar situations would be appreciated.
     
  2. bigballin6161

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    I can see where you are comming from. Luckily my offline job keeps me busy all day interacting with people. I think in full IM the whole goal is to have some sort of strategy so that you accumalate wealth, so you can have many different income streams then start outsourcing alot of the work so that you actually work less. I think you must also set some time to get out amongst people and do different things.
     
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  3. MarketingFist

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    Get a girlfriend, travel on a new place, visit new countries, move to a different place, experience something new, do mountain climbing, break up with a girlfriend and find new one, have a one-night stand etc...

    To make it simple: Change. Do something new. You are in a slump. I'm guessing you are not getting laid a lot... So start from that. :) Start getting laid and you won't feel depressed any more. :)

    On a serious side:

    There is always enough time to change your life, to start doing what you like. I'm in the IM because I hate all the crappy unpaid physical work I'd have to do if I'm not doing Internet Marketing. What I'm trying to accomplish is to have a great combination of IM and personal life. When I'm with my friends, I'm hanging out with them and I just totally forget about my job. But when I work, all I'm thinking is work and how to get it done.

    When you score that combination, your life will look way different.
     
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  4. shezboy

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    Been there, felt like that and more than once. Yeah, it can be a crap feeling but that's all it really is. You can let it eat you up from inside and then it starts to compound.

    The easiest way out of it is to get yourself one or two decent outsources and hand over the actual manual stuff that you're doing. When you step back from what you're doing you can get a better focus on things and it becomes clearer. Since I've been full time online I have been at my computer at odd times of the day and night. I think we all do it to some extent really.

    For me, I find that midnight to 4am are the hours that I can really get things done. It can be difficult to juggle a family life around those kind of hours but your next goal should be to make a system of what you're currently doing now and teach it to an outsourcer.

    It's an easy way to have less stress and grow your business. If you think you can't afford an assistant right now then prepare to pay out for one and leverage them. Carry on working like you do when you have your outsourcer and, in theory, you should have created more money that month which will pay the outsourcer without it affecting your income that month.

    Don't give up. Going back to working for an employer will destroy your soul and kill your dreams.
     
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  5. euros123dotcom

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    pringlez: I often feel the same as you. I can totally relate to what you are saying. But I don't want to have contact to people either. I come from a corporative environment and people (work colleagues / customers) can be total assholes. I spend most of my time with my cat at home (the more I know people, the more I like animals). But, I don't want to discourage you! MarketingFist probably gave you the best advice. Good luck to you anonymous friend of the Internet.
     
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  6. TrafficWizard

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    you better update your thread what was it 700 per day ?!

    I make that in A MONTH I work 9-5 ! 5days a week !

    OP get your motivation going and make push to 1k a day ! If you feel bad just go out take few days off party get drunk/high whatever f*** something dont give up !
     
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    You know.. what I suggest you to do is try to get your work as automated as possible so you will have shittons of free time.
    Then you can go anywhere and do everything you want and you still earn money.
    That's what I did when I felt lonely years ago.. now I have so much free time that I can do whatever I want and money keeps coming in :)
    I can meet new people, try out all kinds of funky things.. and having a girlfriend is a bonus too. Then you can do things with somebody if you have lost your friends during the process (it happened to me.. I lost around 3/4 friends :/ - that's how dedicated I was.. pretty fucking stupid mistake tho)
     
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    Once your business grows to a certain level human resourcing should be the next step.

    -RK
     
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    Go back to a 9 -5 for a couple of months and then come back and update this thread on how you got your mojo back!!
     
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    I work as an seo consultant also and from home also doing IM and most of the time,i'm out meeting potential clients so i'm never bored.
     
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    Every time I get some such feeling, I just recall the years and years of slavery where I had to ask a permission to smoke a cigarette, a permission to take a break, have lunch, put alarm clocks and wear fucking "uniforms" not get enough sleep.

    And then I lay back, and I keep on keeping on :)
     
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    I am not sure why OP should feel like this... I believe everyone gets into that small depression slump in their lives until they remember the old days before they were successful working online. I know I was feeling depressed before my work now because I didn't have "money" to do much. I was going thru it a lot! Then my time came and I am rarely depressed! I make 6-7 times more than what I usually do. I still have a part time job to keep me in the loop of working with other people but I make way more on my own! That's the best part! That reminds me to be thankful for the things I have so GOD (or whoever you believe in) will bless you with more in the future!

    OP, what was your life like before you made money full time via online? Maybe you need to think more positive and be thankful overall. That might be your problem! You are not thankful! If you want to see more people, go out with friends or make new ones! Go to a club or lounge of your choice and just low key network and socialize with any type of woman you may fine attractive! Definitely TRAVEL ALSO!

    Since you have "money", take a moment and budget for fun stuff! Life is too short to be depressed when you are already doing well! In the real world, most people hate their jobs and don't make enough! Remember that! :)
     
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    Don't start a company unless your heart is 100% into it otherwise you probably won't succeed.
    You sound like you need a little break.
    Maybe get a part time job, even bar work or something like that.
    It will refresh you or at least make you realise that you prefer working for yourself.
     
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  14. radiant13

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    If your IM is "boring unfulfilling crap" then you need to find another line of work. Time for some self assessment. What makes me happy? That's the kind of questions you want answers to.
    You can try something and see if it bring you some happiness and fulfillment. For example go out and do some voluntary work at your local community service center helping other people out and see if you get some "feel good" from that. I do exactly that every Monday afternoon distributing food to the needy. That will get you out and get some human interaction and maybe even some personal satisfaction.
    Try it. Works for me, might work for you too.
     
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    There are offices that you can rent where people in your area go to get work done who want to get out of the house. Rent one and you'll make friends and have a routine.
     
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    Starting a company when you're working a lot of hours and making slightly more than a 9-5 is a recipe for success. Most businesses don't turn a profit for the first year and you need to be financially prepared to weather the storm for 12 months. Do you have 12 months of reserves where you can continue to pay the bills for the business and employees? On top of that, you're starting a business for the wrong reasons, making friends isn't a good reason to start a business.

    Have you considered volunteering? In every city there are opportunities to volunteer, serve the community and meet new people.
     
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  17. lord1027

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    This. Also, set yourself goals, take a break,travel, meet new people (it would be best to meet people with similar interests). Go to the BHW conference :)
     
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    Rent an office, hire 1 or 2 people, and scale up what ever you're doing right now. Or start an SEO company like you mentioned in your form. Your income will increase and you will keep busy. Not to mention you're going to be interacting with more people.
     
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    As someone who works from home and has dealt with the whole managing clients/employees side as well...

    Be forewarned, if you do expand and do somewhat well that dealing with your own clients is one things, dealing with your employees clients is another. Although I do a decent job with it, managing client/employee expectations and communications is a pain.

    If I were you and could afford it I would grab a wireless plan that works overseas and travel the world while doing my job for a bit :)
     
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    actually, every job will make you feel this way if you stay at it too long. dan kennedy wrote about this in one of his business books.
     
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