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Lazy and hence broke....

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by neol, Jan 29, 2013.

  1. neol

    neol Junior Member

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    I know this will sound pathetic but here it is... i just cant work consistently.. i dont know what to do.. i started almost over 4 years ago still havent achieved anything significant. i used to build small niche sites buying dropped domains and sell links on TLA and other sites.. why because it was easy.. with all the new updates google put up recently.. i got hit and lost all my sites. here is the killer, i knew it was due sometime..

    here is the thing.. i am good at RnD or so i think. i dont mind spending hours at a time reading all those pdf files and watching all those videos downloaded from the downloads section. i have also created quite a few projects in MS Onenote but just cant implement on it !!

    I just keep making on making notes and developing that so called "perfect plan of action" but never act on it.. just read and read and read

    i am so angry with myself.. how do i make myself act on those plans ?? i start with searching and downloading material, reading and making notes in onenote and evernote and well thats about it.. no action.

    all the information is here and i know it.. but i just dont take action. i think like.. i will start from tomorrow.. or next week or even next month sometimes... slowly days are passing and i am stagnant.. finally because of my inability to act i am broke because i dont have a second source of income.. never created though i know how important it is.

    i just dont do anything but talk big it seems.. sometimes i feel disgusted upon myself.. how can someone be so lazy and stupid and ass.. i i am not good at getting things done even though i dont have anytihng else to do.. its not like i have a bloody busy schedule.. i just roam here and there with friends or watch movies or listen to music... basically i am wasting time and the killer is that i know it.. and it makes me feel stupid and loser maybe

    i know i am wasting time but dont know how to make myself responsible and and make myself act and do things rather than imagine things.. i dont know if i making any sense but if anyone understood my problem can anyone help me out.. tell me how to overcome it.. is it laziness or some kind of disease man.. maybe i need meditation or something ? or should i consult a psychiatrist ? this is driving me nuts and i feel so stupid and stupid..

    pls help me get out of this situation.. its like a blackhole sucking me inside destroying me and everything i have..
     
  2. steelballs

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    After 4 years here and 80 plus posts stop torturing your mind and get another job!

    This is not for you and the sooner you accept that, the quicker your fortunes will turn around...
     
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  3. neol

    neol Junior Member

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    i cant get a job.. u see the reason i came to im was this..

    i am a CA dropout..
    i have no experience bcoz never worked before
    i have a slight speaking problem.. my voice is not clear so its hard making people understand me... (this is probably the main reason i came here)

    i am not saying this to get sympathy or anything.. its just true thats it..

    and its not like i am not intelligent enough. i was good at studies before i left it and my mind works in im just as well.. i am just dying because of inaction.. its like i am a dreamer or something only that i know its real and its killing me.. just cant make myself work !! this is crazy and stupid...
     
  4. HoNeYBiRD

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    pretty simple, spend/donate all your money or maybe not all, but leave enough for 1 month to live (basic needs), because whatever you do most of the times you need that time to get paid
    trust me, you'll be motivated, if you know that you won't be able to pay your bills, let alone feed if you don't earn something
     
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    You are exactly like me an year ago. Details match too.. I was into niche stuff in JAN of 2012. Only after i started networking and stopped being a loner I achieved something i never dreamt of. I know this phase very well. I would suggest get off the slow money making niche/methods and get on something that will help you make quick bucks. I hope this will help you bounce back and put you at the right path. Money is the best motivator bro, if money can't motivate you nothing can.
     
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  6. neol

    neol Junior Member

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    u know i cant do this.. i have a family (not married) i cant even imagine risking them with this.. but i think that was on a lighter note :)

    how did u came out ? where did u started ?

    u know i was reading this book by tim ferris - 4 hour work week which suggested the same. i will start joining groups right here on bhw and other forums.. can you suggest other places where i can find some good groups or maybe mentors ?
     
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    yea, i forgot the family part, needless to say that don't do this if you have somebody you need to take care of
    it was an extreme example, in case if you can't think of anything else :D
     
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    your obviously not fed up yet. you THINK your fed up. but your not really fed up.

    I had a similar problem, i hit rock bottom(multiple times) , was homeless on different occasions, family and friends ostracized me because of my decisions they just didn't understand, my significant other left me when i was already down on my luck couldn't hold on to any job i got for sh*t and throughout all that i repeatedly told myself i knew what to do but just never really did it.

    Eventually I reached a breaking point and just started doing it. you feel bad for yourself and know you can do better, thats great, but get uncomfortable with yourself, get uncomfortable with your way of life and let your vision for yourself be the only remedy. keep focused and you will make it.

    P.S - if you have people relying on you for income, make things easier on yourself and get any little temporary job even if its bagging food at a grocery store just to have $$ coming in and you can invest as well.
     
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  9. lonny41

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    It'd because rather than start with one small thing you think of everything that needs to be done and you overwhelm yourself and then procrastinate.

    Think of one small thing or step you need to do each day. Do it. Then write down one small thing that needs to be done the next day. And the next day do it.

    your problem is you dont start because you see all the work that needs to be done and that prevents you from taking one step to start.

    Each day when you do that one small task it wont stop there, youll end up doing a bunch of shit. starting is the key, the rest will take care of itself.

    the problem is you're too fucking smart believe it or not, you can see the whole big picture and it overwhelms you.

    you have to stop thinking. do one small task each day, make that your goal, and you will get a lot done.
     
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  10. neol

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    @lonny41

    u know i have so many plans.. being an amazon affiliate, start a clothing line (i have fortunately discovered a USP - emo factor that will drive sales and give me free exposure), start a web solutions company and provide various services, start a mobile solutions company and integrate it together and some more...

    i have entire projects with details and data on my drive but thats all there it is to do... you are right.. i think more and do less..

    i just downloaded getting things done by david allen.. i am now trying to come up with a daily do to list for each of my projects and synchronize it with my cell phone in one place so i can follow a routine of some sort and make things happen..

    how do you guys manage your to-do list ? most of you work on multiple projects just as i am thinking to do.. so how do you manage it ? whats your secret ? have a separate to-do list for each project and sync it in one place ? any tools you recommend ?

    @shailzrocks - thx for invitation at skype.. much much appreciated :)
     
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    There you go complicating the shit out of it again. One small task......one step.......you dont need to think beyond that.

    you're exhausting yourself with all that thinking.....nothing will get done.

    Just do what i said.
     
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    Just note on a paper some things you know can be accomplished today, even very small, and start doing it one by one. This will get your train going, but you must never stop it completely or else it may rust again on the tracks.
     
  13. neol

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    make a to-do list and and concentrate on one thing at a time... one project at a time..
     
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    Op. I don't think it is that you are lazy. I think you are probably suffering from a form of depression. The reason I say this is because I have too been in your shoes before. Before you can begin to make money, you need to analyse yourself. You need to find the root of the problem, pour gasoline on it and burn it out of the ground (unless the root of the problem is under your house :D)

    But on a serious note, you just need to find what makes you happy, and roll with it. You have to beat depression, don't let depression beat you.
     
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    First of all, this thread should have been posted in the Lounge, it has nothing to do with forum suggestions.

    NOTE:
    I won't try to be your friend or be friendly, but I will give you the harsh truth, if you don't want to hear it then don't read past this sentence.

    You suck, there I said it. You are LAZY... you know you are lazy, there is no quick push button. You are SCARED of failing. You want the good life, but don't want to put in the work to get it. If you are facking broke, get a fucking job. Don't BS that there are no jobs you can do where you don't have to talk. Deliver news papers early in the morning, clean W.C, shit take care of animals (clean up animal shit or something). Stop looking for the thing that will change your life... its not in any book, you have already read everything. BTW, how can you have friends when you don't speak "properly".... hmm another lame excuse because you do not want to work.

    Okay, now that that's out the way I will give you a tip on how you can take action.

    1) Make a simple 3 step action plan for the year. I.e get a job, make 1 good website, do something about your speech problem/insecurity ... what ever.
    2) Give each step a deadline (i.e 2 months for this, 3 months for that, 3 months for that).

    Now on a different form/note take the 1st goal and split it into smaller actions that you will do each week. Focus on 1 step until it is done, complete it, then move on to the next step (im talking over the course of the week), make sure you finish EVERYTHING you need to finish that week. Learn to discipline yourself. So no TV for the day until you have finished what you need to do that day, No hanging out with friends until you have done what you need to do that week (you can hang with your friends on the weekend).

    Keep doing that week in, week out, soon you will build up momentum and you will be able to complete things that took you 2 weeks before in 1 day....

    Reward yourself when you have completed a goal of your action (even a small daily goal) - but let the award be fitting, i.e don't go fucking partying all day long just because you sent out 5 C.Vs. But, maybe take a 1 hour break and go for a walk or something.


    If that shit does not help you, I am sorry but I think you should give up. Go become a lazy fuck somewhere in the woods and live of welfare. SMH
     
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  17. neol

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    i appreciate ur thoughts and understand what you mean... u r right.. these are just excuses and no more... need to pull myself together and get my act going i guess... motivate myself.. just do it..
     
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    OK Neol,

    You have said enough. Now let's get your a$$ moving. :)

    Now in 1 hour only, begin working. Pick up a method. Any method that you like. Pick up the method that 2011nfl had just recently suggested -- about Amazon and the other 'famous site'. And begin doing exactly as he has taught. Everything is there on the thread.

    Your first aim will be to find that thread -- within 1 hour from now!

    Once you find that, start a 'My 7-day Action Journey To Overcome My Laziness!' or 'whatever you wish to call it' thread (new thread, or this one -- it doesn't matter. The goal is to make the butt move from here and form a habit or taking actions).

    Then begin...


    Getting me?

    Should the time start now?

    :)


    How many days you want to complete that initial setup stage and the stage where you actually make some dollars? 7 days max? OK... Make it 3. J/K... :D

    Take your time but begin it TODAY! Remember, you have only 1 hour! lol

    And get ready to be 'kicked around by members' if you don't work on any day.

    Your goal is not to get kicked around. This will make you active. You will begin taking ACTION!
    The goal is also to impress members (more than others, it will be to impress yourself first when you discover your latent capabilities) so that you get help when you're stuck somewhere... but don't depend on that! You may or may not get help from anyone. The point is: You are going to help yourself!


    Later, this will also help you begin any project and complete it.

    What do you say?
    :)
     
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  19. jonvital

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    I'm the same way, some1 here said it, the problem is your too smart.

    What can help that situation, start your own IM services website. make it an umbrella of all the different services that you know you can offer and whenever you feel like pushing a particular service just gear your website towards making that service more attractive.

    That particularly was the turning point in my life, when I created my own local marketing business. Its sh*t easy to sell locally because these people that are buying don't know about your product nearly as much as you so your like a god in a sense to them.

    go to odesk, freelancer and other sites you can outsource work to and get busy.

    I think having an umbrella site that covers everything you want to do would be the best solution in your situation.
    promote and sell whatever whenever you want.

    you want to get into ORM?, just add a page of ORM service on your site and go chalk up some business. its not that hard
     
  20. neol

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    thank you all.. i will start a journey thread (again) only this time will update regularly. Will start right after lunch. a plan of action broken into smaller pieces and make sure to do one thing at a time...
     
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