Is it me or...

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does anybody else been in the situation where you taught someone the ins and outs of a certain domain, and a few years later you’re getting a weird passive-agressive attitude from that person, perhaps because of the fact that at the moment there more successful -financially- then you?

Usually I’m not really bothered by what others may think, or how they want to behave towards me, but this is a confusing one for me...
 
Yeah, I've been there before. I used to teach computer hardware and troubleshooting to teen guys who comes to my shop to play games. A decade later, I was questioned about my AMC(Annual Maintenance Contract) from one of my elite clients. That is the first time someone is questioning my experience in the field and in fact challenged me that they found some better person for the job. I wondered who's that new guy in the town as I know every nuts and bolt in my trade and low and behold it's one of those teen guy babbling too much wrong info and stupid clients believed all that he is blathering. I simply asked "Do you remember the name of the game you used to play on my PC?" He nodded "yes" and then I continued asking a series of questions about the Computer he is about to undertake. He's got no-clue as he's still half-baked and don't know shit. I let him continue his drivelling and moved on from the spot. There's nothing much we can do in a situation like that.
 
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a lot of story like that happen
do you think valentino r teacher more expert than valentino r?
do you think michael j teacher more expert than michael j ?
do you think donald t teacher more expert than donald t ? etc etc
think again, man ! it is all about luck and hard work
 
@dodoboy This is not about the student surpassing the master.

This is about a person who, when he or she was in a bad place, took all the advice and help they could get, asking me to help solve problems he or she couldn’t fix.

Now that the tide has turned for said person, the attitude towards me is changed. That’s my gripe, and at the same time the cause of my confusion.

Like I mentioned earlier, normally I couldn’t give a flying ef how someone acts towards me. But this is a weird one for me.

Guess it’s time for some introspection.

Still appreciate your contribution though.

Thanks.
 
Sometimes you have to now what type of person your imparting knowledge to as some people will turn right back and bite the hand that helped them:(...but dont worry op karmas a bi@#h and those kinda people get whats coming to them eventually;)
 
@dodoboy This is not about the student surpassing the master.

This is about a person who, when he or she was in a bad place, took all the advice and help they could get, asking me to help solve problems he or she couldn’t fix.

Now that the tide has turned for said person, the attitude towards me is changed. That’s my gripe, and at the same time the cause of my confusion.

Like I mentioned earlier, normally I couldn’t give a flying ef how someone acts towards me. But this is a weird one for me.

Guess it’s time for some introspection.

Still appreciate your contribution though.

Thanks.

Cheers mate.
 
I haven't had this happen in business because I know better than to train anyone who can be a future competitor, but I've had a similar thing happen to me personally back in high school. I was fairly popular my freshman year, and there was a kid who had no friends because he was really short. I befriended him, introduced him to my friends, helped him make some friends of his own, and showed him what I was doing to make friends. As soon as he became popular, all of the sudden he started getting passive-agressive when I talked to him, then he was running his mouth about me to turn our friends over to his side only. He fell out with everyone once they realised what a twat he was, but it was the last time I helped anyone like that. Edit: correction, I made the mistake again my sophomore year.

I'm sure there are a bunch of other members here who have some horror stories about people doing something similar in business. I recall reading a few in the past.
 
Nope, never happened to me. Everyone I helped (not only with websites but with any device or related to it) or give advice or suggestions always give me their thanks and respect (accordingly).
 
I'll tell you the moral of the story first! Moral of the story I will be telling you is, KARMA bites, and bites real hard to the cheater AND his innocent family. No one gets spared really. They all must wash the sins together and face all the consequences of being a rat in human form...:D

Now the story:
One of my uncles, a real nice man who I'll call uncle in this story, and one of his paternal cousins, will call him cousin, who cheated the uncle big time in past.

It so happened...

My uncle was a big commercial artist and during the 1960s, he designed a lot of great graphics and artworks, including very famous logos, which became the great identity of those big companies. He still lived very humble and helped all.

So one day down the line, about in 1970s, the cousin came to him and begged the uncle to make him his assistant. My uncle readily made him the assistant. The cousin was also a good artist. While the uncle concentrated on the production side, the cousin began taking interest in the marketing aspect...

In few years, the cunning, :D err... the cousin took over the big contacts my uncle had developed over the decades, and became very friendly with them all. No body suspected anything... This cousin then formed a company of his own, took the best artist my uncle had with him offering a crazy salary, and began his independence business with the old clients of my uncle. When the uncle got the news, it was too late for him and his business.

My uncle went to Africa with his only son and began doing a new business in Nigeria, Tanzania, and other places. But the locals went after him because he tasted big success there. So he had to go from one country to other, facing similar problems after getting some success. Later he moved to South Africa, and as his age grew, his son took over the business. The son of this uncle was tremendously business minded and became very very lucky. I heard even the President of SA visited his home very frequently. This son is now a tycoon, and has businesses in Dubai etc., and has tremendous clout among the top people like company and MNC chiefs, Police, politicians, and even Arab rulers....

In the mean time, the cunning cousin got some luck because he had the best artist, and also the best of clients for whom he worked... The client never knew that he had cheated my uncle because my uncle, the kindness personified, never told the sad backstab story to anyone else. He only said those things to my mother who is the oldest among the brother and sisters, cousin or not, and they all came to my mom to reduce their stresses in life! So we children also knew. My heart really bled when I saw him with tears in his eyes as his world was broken, and he spoke softly to my mother, who too had tears flowing freely. Will never forget those moments even after my death...

The cousin's luck began fading slowly. A few years back when I last leaned about him was, he was not doing well at all, and his children too suffered. One of the children is somewhat retarded mentally. And for the other, he, the cousin, was heard asking for a job for this another child of his...I was even told that the whole family wipes a local temple floor regularly to have their sins washed!

The Karma: it is not impressed and will do what it has to do to such rats.

The Uncle: He has been passing his days as a old man who has seen only backstabbers in business. Old age distresses are bothering him big time...

His son: He is real big, a tycoon with a very powerful Jew wife from Israel, who herself has very big politicians and are people who really matter there in Israel, and all are great people btw, and she is a great person herself nonetheless, but the son is totally anti-human having seen his father running from place to place because of cheats.

He stays aloof, and very angry inside. Outside he is a thorough gentleman and a shrewd successful businessman. Looks like he distrusts all people completely, and I do understand why. He has all the money and power at his feet, but he cannot give a good golden life back to his very beloved and a very gentle father. Has money and power, but his heart is torn apart.

I have seen it all. The aunt stayed back in Mumbai, first with her dear daughter who already is married into a great family and has cute children of her own. Her husband is a gem of a person and a big businessman. The dear aunty is still the very best aunty I ever had. She is so mature, so beautiful even in her old age, and so very right in everything so does. She is very kind and very loving, to me even so much more! I don't travel these years, so I'm missing her so much.

She has stayed away from her beloved husband and son for the best years, decades of her life, and she was compelled to do so because of the rotten circumstances. Theirs was an intercast love marriage, and it was not common in those days in 1960s, especially among our small community! see how much they must have loved each other... as they, the husband and the only son had to make sure they themselves get established and secure first in foreign lands, before they take their women to their new motherland.

I guess the male members really hated the people of my country because everyone showed their backs to them when they most needed them...

God bless them.

I really feel for that family...

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Moral: I have mentioned it already at the top...never ruin someone who has been so kind to you! It's as if you are backstabbing God himself. The God may forgive, but His subordinates will never... Remember that always.
 
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Have been there many times but never lost my temper and given them a smile instead ... I'm a person that strongly hopes "karma will hit you back"...
 
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