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[INSPIRATION] 20 Things That Mentally Strong People Don't Do

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  1. Tensegrity

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    http://elitedaily.com/life/motivation/20-things-that-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/

    1. Dwelling On The Past
    Mentally strong individuals focus on the present moment and on the near future. They understand that the past is out of our control and the far future is about as predictable as the weather this winter.


    2. Remaining In Their Comfort Zone
    The comfort zone is a dangerous place, a dark abyss where anyone who remains there for too long loses his or herself entirely. Staying within your comfort zone is giving up on life.


    3. Not Listening To The Opinions Of Others

    Only the foolish believe themselves to be sufficient in all regards. When it comes to brainstorming, ideas can?t so much be forced as they can be caught. A good idea is a good idea, regardless of whether or not you came up with it. Don?t let your ego get the better of you; if someone has great advice to give, take it.


    4. Avoiding Change

    What the mentally strong understand that the mentally weak do not is that change is unavoidable. Trying to avoid the inevitable is pointless. Therefore, trying to avoid change is pointless; it?s a mere waste of time and energy.


    5. Keeping A Closed Mind

    You don?t know everything. Even the things you believe yourself to know are likely to not be entirely true. If you keep a closed mind, you are preventing yourself from learning new material. If you stop learning, you stop living.


    6. Letting Others Make Decisions For Them

    Only you should be making your own decisions; you can?t allow others to make them for you. All this does is shift the responsibility from you to someone else, but the only person failing in the end is you. If you don?t have the courage to fail, then you don?t have the courage to succeed.


    7. Getting Jealous Over The Successes Of Others

    When others succeed, you should be happy. If they can do it, so can you. The success of others does not, in any way, lessen the chances of you succeeding. If anything, it should motivate you to keep pushing forward.


    8. Thinking About The High Possibility Of Failure

    Our thoughts control our perspective; our perspective controls our results. The mentally strong understand this and use this to their advantage. There?s always the chance you may fail, but as long as there is the chance you may succeed, it?s worth trying.


    9. Feeling Sorry For Themselves

    Sh*t happens. Life can be hard. People get hurt; others die. Life isn?t all roses and butterflies. You will fall off that horse again and again and again. The question is, are you strong enough to keep getting back on it?


    10. Focusing On Their Weaknesses

    Although working on our weaknesses does have its benefits, it?s more important to focus on banking on our strengths. The most well-rounded person is not the person that gets the furthest in life. Being average in all regards makes you average. However, mastering a certain skillset or trait will allow you to beat the competition with less effort.


    11. Trying To Please People
    A job well done is a job well done, no matter who is judging the final product. You can?t please everybody, but you can always manage to do your very best.


    12. Blaming Themselves For Things Outside Their Control

    The mentally strong know the things they can control, understand the things they cannot control, and avoid even thinking about that which is completely out of their hands.


    13. Being Impatient

    Patience isn?t just a virtue; it is the virtue. Most people don?t fail because they aren?t good enough, or aren?t capable of winning or succeeding. Most people fail because they are impatient and give up before their time has come.


    14. Being Misunderstood

    Communication is key in any properly functioning system. When it comes to people, things get a bit more complicated. Simply stating information is never enough; if the receiving party misunderstands you, your message is not being properly relayed. The mentally strong do their best to be understood and have the patience to clear up misunderstandings.


    15. Feeling Like You?re Owed

    You aren?t owed anything in life. You were born; the rest is up to you. Life doesn?t owe you anything. Others don?t owe you anything. If you want something in life, you only owe it to yourself to go out and get it. In life, there are no handouts.


    16. Repeating Mistakes

    Make a mistake once, okay. Make a mistake twice? not so okay. Make the same mistake a third time, you may need to consider giving up alcohol and drugs. You?re either stupid or permanently high.


    17. Giving Into Their Fears
    The world can be a scary place. Some things frighten us with good cause, but most of our fears are illogical. If you know that you want to try something, try it. If you?re scared, then understand that being scared of failing must mean that succeeding means a whole lot to you.


    18. Acting Without Calculating

    The mentally strong know better than to act before completely understanding the situation at hand. If you have time to ponder over something and cover all your bases, then do so. Not doing so is pure laziness.


    19. Refusing Help From Others

    You?re not Superman; you can?t do it all. Even if you can, why should you? If others are offering to help, let them help. Be social. Listen to their ideas and watch how they do things. You may learn something. If not, then you can teach them something and do what humans are meant to do: socialize.


    20. Throwing In The Towel

    The biggest weakness in all of humanity is giving up ? calling it quits, throwing in the towel. The mentally strong go about things in such a way. Only do things if they are important to you; forget the things that aren?t important to you. If they?re important to you, then pursue them until you succeed. No exceptions, ever.
     
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  2. ChapoGuzman

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    basically you dont know what you dont know.
     
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    i strongly agree with No *8
     
  4. TheUnicow

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    A good thing to post on to this would be how to become mentally strong :p I know some might say you can simply just stop doing these things but it's not easy. I've tried to overcome it myself but I've never been able to do it.
     
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    Strongly disagree with being patient. I want to see results and I want to see them NOW!

    Keeps me working hard. Being persistent is key though no matter if you see results or not.
     
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    I think that on item was not thought of, disregarded, or forgotten: "Adversity is your friend, mentor, and teacher."

    You grow from making bad decisions and learn to make good ones.
     
  7. Tensegrity

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    I gotta disagree, bruh. Haste makes waste! Spend your time checking reports and going over analytics all day and see how much actual work you get done. Put things you have to wait on aside and only once a day and you're going to be 100% more productive!
     
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    It's not a bad article but it seems as if it has just been written for the content. Dunno, maybe it's just me.
     
  9. YesAdvertising

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    I could see how both Beven and Tensegrity have their points. For Beven, it's not so much as rushing things as to take action to ideas to avoid missing opportunities. As for Tensegrity, it's more of be careful to have a plan in mind, and make more efficient use of your time since it's a limited commodity. Anyways, I think this is a awesome checklist to go back to from time to time, just to keep myself in check.