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IM is fucking up my life socially :(

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by rulingim, Dec 22, 2012.

  1. rulingim

    rulingim Newbie

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    I'm making enough money to live a life as of now but the problem is that I feel like a loner. Ever since I left my job, I am all alone. I work, sleep, eat and go out alone. I don't have much contact with my friends too because they are busy working 9-5 and building their social circle, visiting places in groups etc.

    I just wanted to get this out of my mind because its spoiling up my productivity. Its playing mind games with me and life has become very monotonous too. Travelling is an option but I am too shy to go around and those whom I choose to go around with are always busy.

    Help me bro''s. Now i am really starting to feel that money ain't everything. You need to have a life too. Now if you will say "Go and join some clubs etc". I can't because I am so f****ed up that its causing me problems to mix up with others too(maybe social fear). I dont know what to do.
     
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  2. Mr Stark

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    It's how you do IM and organize your time that's fucking up your social life, not IM itself..

    Start scheduling your time, join some local clubs, start doing some new activities, hang out with your old friends etc..
     
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  3. steelballs

    steelballs BANNED BANNED

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    Can you please use the F word a few more times so we can all really understand your problem:eek:

    Thanks Merry Xmas...
     
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  4. SUPER CHAMP

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    Why are you scared of them, they wont eat you..

    Try interacting on a phone call (you are not face to face) then when you get to a comfort level try being social..
     
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  5. SEO_Alchemy

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    Delegate your time friend. I think we all spend way too much time in front of the screen. I know I do anyway, but hell work isn't everything. Take a day or two off from time to time, enjoy life. Enjoy the money. Why else are you doing IM in the first place!
     
  6. birdy23

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    Why can't you spend 2 hours every night with your friends?
     
  7. Abstroose

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    Dude, it's not IM, it's you. I've been doing IM for 6/7 years and I have time to run a network of sites, teach and compete in professional Thai Boxing, travel, learn a language, learn to play the piano, see friends, get drunk, have a girlfriend, play video games, watch movies, eat, shower and sleep. It's time management!
     
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  8. Orbit143

    Orbit143 Senior Member

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    It's one of the benefits of IM, you dont have to socialize anymore.
     
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  9. unclemike

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    Nothing a blow up doll cant fix.
     
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  10. audioguy

    audioguy Power Member

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    Some people just enjoy being alone. But if you don't...

    You're not yet there, at least not yet.

    Isn't one of the benefits of an online business and internet marketing to work anytime you want and anywhere you want?

    Now scale it up if you want to, but quickly create systems and delegate. Sounds you really need that.

    Find a group of new friends who share the same lifestyle as yours. I have friends who hang out on weekends.
     
  11. acotut

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    I don't see that as a benefit,we need socialization :D
    Thanks god we have Facebook ...

    :soapbox:

    On the other hand,as other people above me said,it's all about time management.This happens mostly because you haven't set a schedule to work on.On the begining is always important to spend as much time as possible,but after things starts working,we often forget that we need to spend time on other important things,like friends,familiy and so on..
     
  12. fuhrer1

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    Rent an office and u gonna make some decent friends
     
  13. LatteGrande

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    What are you afraid of? lol Don't worry, they won't eat you...
     
  14. krishnaverma

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    It is happening with me also currently. Here are some solutions to this:
    1) If you are making good money and enough work, you can keep employees. This can be further expanded to a company as per your goals.
    2) Another option is to start some courses. Suppose you are earning through website advertisements. You can then learn web designing or Photoshop. You will interact with others and learn new things.
     
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  16. eransacked

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    Welcome to N3RD LIF3. While other idiots are out blowing their money on booz and partying, you're lampin in pajamas making a fortune on the nets. Plenty of time to have fun if you grind hard now, cake up and retire by 30.

    Thats how i look at it anyways. :)
     
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  17. west13

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    Maybe your just blaiming IM. is it posible you are shy or have some kind of a anxiety problem...?
     
  18. Reyone

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  19. bertbaby

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    I have to agree with the others , your issue go far beyond IM. Get some help so you can learn to socialize. I mean really did you go out with friends and party before IM?
     
  20. KeyzDT

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    I have the reverse problem. People tend to cling to me. I was always the "leader" of the group when I went out with friends and I'm pretty charasmatic. Never had a problem with women. I pull a girl every now and then (currently have a girlfriend) IM is a break away from my social life. I can actually use it as an excuse when people want to hang out and im not in the mood as people know I do IM. "sorry I have to work on my business tonight something came up" lol