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IM is a lonely road...until you make it...and even then...

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by bigballin6161, Oct 10, 2012.

  1. bigballin6161

    bigballin6161 Jr. VIP Jr. VIP Premium Member

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    Just venting right now but chicks will never see IM as anything straight up. They couldnt care less about any of this shit...unless you are making some big time cash.

    And even then look at Eban Pegans wife...not even that great and hes worth millions. Im like alot of guys here for sure thinking once you get the cash you get the chicks and is true to a point until they find out how you got it. I just know I sittiing here for hours infront of my comp and I like it for sure...but they will never really understand...chicks that is.

    I have an offline business and I go out lots but for you guys who do this 24/7 it could be tough...very tough. What I want to know is how many of you guys either have gf's that are down with IM or pick up when you tell them what you do. Btw I love this shit but chicks will never understand and I know that. Worst way to make money ever for picking up chicks and I have been with 150+. Thats my rant fuck!
     
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    If you work 24/7 or like that it will be a problem, no metter is it IM or offline job.
    And if you spend about 8-10 hrs per day working then it is not important what you do, IM or offline stuff.

    It is not important what you do as long as it brings you some good money.
     
  3. 75INZ

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    I got girls before I even got cash. You must have a terrible, terrible personality or are a hideously looking person (And even that isn't a real excuse, I know a lot of extremely ugly people who still get girls)
     
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    No actually im very good with the chicks but u talk IM to them and they are gone!
     
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    My GF is extremely supportive of my IM. I just try to spend evenings with her and get a lot of work done after she goes to bed (it's now almost 5am here and I'm just taking a break to browse the forums before finishing up for the night lol). But chicks dig nerds from what I've found--or at least "savvy" nerds (oxymoron?), brain is the new brawn, and chicks dig entrepreneurs... at least all the one's I've met ("oh, you own your own business??").
     
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    Maybe you should stop calling them 'chicks' first of all.

    I doubt you've been with 150+, I really do, especially since you sound young(Under 30).

    Just looked up Eban Pegan's wife and she looks pretty enough to me. Don't be so damn shallow. In my late teens and early 20's I was with a *lot* of women and the thing I learned was that how you perceive someone's beauty changes based on their personality.

    A lot of guys are very insecure and want a trophy girlfriend to make them feel better about themselves, so they probably never experience that since they're always thinking about themselves.

    I've experienced SUPER hot girls suddenly seem ugly to me after spending time with them. People can become repulsive regardless of looks. If you don't get on with someone then there's just something that makes your skin crawl. :) If you're super shallow your boost from having a hot girl will probably outweigh that though and likewise you feel too insecure with a normal looking girl.

    I'm obviously not saying you're going to find some absolutely ugly girl with a heart of gold gorgeous. Some can, and they're better people than me!

    A normal, nice looking girl who takes care of herself is going to be extremely appealing to you if the 2 of you click. You look at Eban's wife and obviously see an ugly girl, so that tells me you're quite shallow and prefer trophy girls. I see a normal, pretty girl. He probably sees his beautiful loving wife.

    You need to just stop taking life so seriously. The whole looks thing really is just society. Whether someone's a 10 or a 6-7 makes very little difference to anything except your ego. When it comes to women it's just about finding someone to share parts of your life with and have fun.

    What you do for a living is pretty much irrelevant. So is how much money you make. It's all about YOU. How YOU feel about your business. If you feel that its sad to sit in front of a computer then you give out that impression.

    People are extremely malleable. :) In the absence of a strong leader they'll follow the pack, ie, go with what most think is cool to wear/do/work as. If you're a natural leader then you can walk around in a bin-bag and make it cool as fuck. :)

    Really, the only thing women like is confidence/fun. It just so happens people who have a lot of money are confident. It's not the money women like, it's the confidence, success, drive etc. All the things that make you good at business are things that women find attractive.


    Besides. Why the fuck are you telling girls you do "IM"? Dear god. I don't say "IM" to anyone except people on bhw.

    I say I run an online advertising business or an online media company. You can say anything you like. If people ask what it involves, which they don't usually I just say I buy and sell online advertising.

    The next thing is, why are you sitting in your pajamas in a dark basement on a computer? Get a small office, wear a suit and act professionally. If you get up in the morning and head to your basement(lol) in your underwear then yeah, some girls might think "hmm". If you get up, shower, put your suit on and head to the office then you just look like a bad-ass business tycoon. :)
     
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    Good points bro but I have been with 150+ chicks. I know how to pick them up and when I start talkin IM they fuck off.
     
  8. cocococo

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    I dont want to quote blueturkey as your post is quiet long, Bravo to you sir, you said it all, service office are not that expensive, if you make so much to stay home, get a small office and go out, you will feel good about yourself man and want more for whatever business your doing, trust me.

    beside you get to meet other people in the office building, also you don't have to say IM to chicks you meet, you can always say your a marketing consultant. simpless
     
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  9. cocococo

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    Talking nerdy talk to some girls scares them off, don't even go there, unless the chicks really wanna know what you do, I find it hard explaining to people what I do, once i said summat technical they shut up.

    As blueturkey said, simply make it simple man, just say you own online advertising. Better still, get your phone out, search something on google, and look at the adwords section, and tell them your job is to put peoples ad in that position.
     
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    if you are finding telling girls you do IM then don't tell them... give it a glorified name i.e digital solutions, digital agency, digital marketing and advertising etc.
     
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    Maybe your girls got a wrong image of IM?

    I don't have problems with that. Maybe it's because I'm very young, but I'm allready earning a lot of money. If i get it right the girls aren't interested in what I do, or that I even got money.

    You can't buy them (except per night), it's all about love. Even if you're rich or poor.
    Surelly money can controll you(!). If you get snooty and change your personality it's very very hard to get good girls. I've done the same, but into positiv, after I was ill for a long time... Now, I have a lot great girls that wants me :) If I left my office it is like I forget what I do.

    Many people ask me what I do and want to learn more about that. I dont tell them much. I tell them what they want to know, but I would never ever tell them freely that I got much money or even anything about my work. Make a border between life and work.
    It's like telling them you're James Bond. Your cool, have much money, but for the girls it sounds like you could die every minute and you're never at home ;)
     
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    This is going to sound real bad, but I can't see myself in a long term relationship.

    Have been in Chuck N' Fuck mode for the past 4 years or so.
     
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    Look! a blue turkey

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    Well, if you insist it's 150+ then I'm not going to dispute it, but that is a LOT :) Usually the 150+ is reserved for DJ's ;)

    I've probably been with around 70-90 and I was partying a looot in my early 20's


    They're heading off for several reasons..

    1) You now believe they'll head off when you talk about it, so I'm sure the tone of your voice, body language, the works will change when you start talking about. People get uncomfortable if you're uncomfortable.

    2) You might be rambling a bit and being a bit geeky because it's a subject close to your heart. Combine that with 1 and it's a recipe for disaster :)

    The simple solution is just getting the office and going to work in a suit(don't need a tie, just trousers, shirt + jacket) -- That in its self will change *your* perception of what you do. The problem here is how you feel about what you do rather than others so the office + suit will make you feel bad-ass.

    Additionally talk less about the business. Women love that you love business, but they don't generally love the business its self. (I know lots do! Don't attack me bhw girls! I see you all lurking in the bushes there! ;) )

    Just say stuff like "I'm an entrepreneur" or "I'm a bad-ass business tycoon" <--- Hahaha, not the last one ;) Unless you want to throw in a bit of humor :)

    Then when they probe more just say "I run an online advertising company" -- It's a great one. Everyone knows what advertising is and when you say it they think "facebook, amazon, google" rather than "geek at home in underwear"

    Don't go into details. Don't mention affiliate offers or any of that. Talk about how you love the freedom aspect of business, how it gives you more time, the ability to take holidays when you want or just go and hang out with your friends whenever you feel like it.. That puts a positive spin on it all.


    Even if you find the love of your life, STILL don't tell her what you do :)

    Most millionaires wives have no clue about the day to day running of their business. It's your business, so keep it your business. :)


    Good luck :)



    lol, what the fuck :)

    Stay the hell away from me come Christmas!!



    The same goes for you! I'm going into hiding this December!!
     
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    Stop talkin' about IM then. Problem solved.

    P.S: Bitching isn't one of the things the opposite sex likes in an alpha.
     
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    BlueTurtle just keeps rolling! I'm becoming a fan... lol
     
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    +1 to this. Also saves you from million plus one headaches for all the stupid bullshit bitches put up for no reason. You're going to waste the same amount of money regardless paying upfront for their company or other costs of living, then why not just make it easier for both of you?

    And I don't know who is this Eban Pegan, but Google Images only show him hugging other dudes, so...
     
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    Haha know that feeling, when I speak to mine about IM you can see the interest just disapear from her face. Working on it 24/7 is a sure way to lose her though. I tend to make atleast 3-4 hours a day free for spending time with gf/friends/dog :p. Working on it 24/7 is a sure way to lose everyone around you not just your gf but friends and family alike. Not only that but sooner or later you will burn your self out mentally.
     
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    Oh boi you not running away or hiding this time, am having your juicy meat on xmas day with a nice good gravy on top hahha
     
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    So so.. I don't entirely agree.. All the multi-millionaires tend to work 16 hours a day and love it.

    I'm personally not a huge fan of marriage. It's just a piece of paper that usually puts more pressure on a couple. If you want to be with someone you just do it and I actually think having multiple relationships is good if you can handle it. We all have different sides to us and different parts of our lives so it makes sense to have multiple relationships. It works if you're not the jealous type and just like to have fun/spend time with people in life.

    With that said the important thing is that you find a person/people that match your lifestyle. If you're a 16 hour a day multi-millionaire that's never going to retire then you won't work with a needy partner who wants to sit in front of the sofa cuddling with you all day.

    You'll work better with a more independent partner who has a busy life, but still enjoys having someone to share the journey with, sleep beside, talk to, eat with, spend some time off with etc. In actual fact I think the most successful couples are the ones who don't spend too much time together. You can become sick of people, especially when living together in lives where you're both struggling with bills/crap. When you both have busy independent lives, say an entrepreneur man with a female that's a researcher then you can have a really strong relationship that grows over the years because you both love your lives, but you also love having each other there along for the ride.

    The problem is most people are kinda brainwashed into thinking the best path is "get married, have kids, get a house, get a 9-5". Marriage is just a contract between you and the government. There's nothing romantic about it. What's romantic is committing in a loving relationship without needing to 'seal the deal' with a contract IMO.

    If you can snap out of the propaganda you'll realize that there's so many options and so many different types of relationships/lifestyles out there. At the end of the day, romantic relationships and regular friendships are just about human beings sharing parts of their lives/journey with each other. There's a million ways we can all share our journeys with each other..
     
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