My wife of almost 11 years recently told me she thinks of me as her best friend, but she doesn't love me as a husband anymore. I would do anything to save this marriage, but she doesn't want to try anything. She's refusing counseling. She says she's felt this way for a few years but she's been hoping it would pass. It hasn't, so now she's just done. Honestly, at this point I'm done also. I'm done trying to convince her to work on it. I'm giving in. Time to move on. We have three children together, 8 years old and 4 year old twins. This is going to devastate them, but I know they'll be ok in the long run. There's no fighting or tension between us. We will probably always be good friends. We both agree that the children will always come first. I've already been taking steps to protect myself and my rights as a father. I've told her that I'm not moving out. She can if she wants to. We've already agreed to joint custody. She doesn't want any child support or alimony. She knows I'll always take care of my children. And I will. They come first, always. I've also told her that as part of the divorce, I want it in writing that neither one of us can move out of state with the children unless the other one agrees to it. In the beginning, she promised me there wasn't another man. One day I noticed Yahoo IM on the computer, I knew right away what that meant. I did some digging and found the logs to her chats. But I didn't confront her. I did some other stuff and got more proof. The craziest thing is, the guy she's been chatting with lives in the UK. We live in the USA. When i finally confronted her, I basically told her how stupid this relationship they've been having is. She's got a family here, he has a son there. Why bother continuing. I made it very clear to her that if she ever wanted to move there, the kids wouldn't be coming with her. I don't want to screw her over. I'm not that type of guy. Shes in my life forever because of the kids, so we might as well get along. But now I'm more motivated than ever to succeed online. I want to make enough money to quit my job and do this full-time. I want to make enough money to take the kids on vacations. I want her and her pathetic loser boyfriend to realize what she gave up! So instead of continuing to let this get me down, it's time I let this empower me!