I'm drinking, broke up with GF, in debt, life is hopeless

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  1. ss_social

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    If you want a hopeful story, I had 30k debt this year and things picked up for me from July, I paid all of my 30k debt in 2 months and made enough profit until October to quit my average day job and focus solely on my online business.

    When I had 30k debt, I didn't really feel all that overwhelmed because I believed that I could pay off. I just didn't think it would happen in the course of 2 months. I was just very lucky and believe fortune was on my side.

    I hope that it will be the same for you and you get all your dues paid and things will settle down! Sending you best wishes!
     
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  2. iloveubanij

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    same here!
     
  3. BeastMoney

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    First of all, stop pissing away your health by binge drinking. While you're there feeling sorry for yourself drinking away, your ex is now getting railed by another dude who she had on the backburner before breaking it off with you.

    Get on your purpose now. Your debt isn't even that bad. I know people who owe hundreds of thousands . This is just a small blip in your life. Eventually, you'll look back and forget about this moment. It's just human nature man.

    You're not the first guy in the whole of mankind who got broken up with. Everyone goes through that shit. Just focus on stacking money and everything else will fall in place.
     
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  4. Stitches and Burns

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    Just declare bankruptcy man. It's not like you're going to jail due to debt.

    And forget that bitch. There are tons of bitches out there.

    Stop drinking, it will not solve any of your problems.
     
  5. noctropolis

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    Drinking is not a soltion, I stopped to doing it. Antidepressants are better :)
     
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  6. Speedlearner

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    it Happens to me 2 years ago but my situation is more difficult because i have 3 kids to feed and i was totally broke really 0. in your situation you still dont have kids when you have kids just believe me you will do everything to recover. i was lucky my mothers did support us, while i was doing the IM thing until i recover but it takes 1 year now i recover 100%
     
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    You might not realise it but you are actually in a great position to turn your life around.
    Stop drinking, stop watching anything that doesn't let you focus.
    Start creating a repayment plan for your debts.
    Sell you chair and desk for $30, see you now made a profit, repeat, scale.
     
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    Same here man, broke, no job, huge debt and yeah, trying to not to think about those life ending thoughts.
     
  9. hazzi

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    All I can say is sorry but I now I know why some say there is always someone that’s has worse than you , hope u get thru this as well as anyone else. All these stories open ur eyes that people around us may be going thru the shittest moment of there life but hiding it with laughter and smiles :(. This has changed my mind set just like that in a good way I’m going to start loving my self which Suprisinly enough have never than cos I have been too nice to some dickheads in my life. I’m only 17 and have a lot to experience like some real deep shit but I will always keep these stories in my mind especially urs. Once again sorry and u will get thru this.
     
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    1. Don't be upset about break up with your GF. If she leaves you in such a hard time, then she can be with you only in the shiny times. She won't be there for you so you DON'T need such peoples in your world.
    2. Well, I live in Eastern Europe, in the small-small Shittsville. Whole desperation city. An average salary in this city is about $200. Yes, this is a monthly salary. And it's my dream to live in the USA/Canada/UK or Australia. However, I know this dream will never come true. You need to break your back every day, besides your shitty-bosses treat you like a doormat. So what? The only one solution is to create a plan. Look around - you're on the BHW! There are a bunch of different opportunities for you.
    3. Don't drink. You'll get nothing from it.
     
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  11. loggerhead

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    so you are about $50k in debt, thats the average student loan debt that most people have, you aren't so bad even though it seems like it. For the IRS there is a way to make small payments, for credit cards you can find CC settlement companies that can give you a better deal, your car payment i would sell that car and cheap a very cheap car that can get you to your job and back.
     
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    BTC is at $3,700. Everyone here is crying and depressed okay. Rice beer does not help. You need malt liquor and good hashish. Believe me when I say it.

    Rice beer makes my tummy hurt and gives me nightmares


    Godspeed sir
     
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  13. AAW

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    We hear you! first drop the alcohol from your list, find a family member to live with for the time being so you can save on living expenses and if you can sell off the car as this loan is not worth it unless you live in the desert, the car loan is too high for you now at this stage providing the fact you have IRS to deal with!
    Call the IRS right away and strike a deal with them, a friend of mine was surprised when he owed the IRS $35K and call them to explain his situation they had him on a payment plan of $400 a month only which is not too bad for $35K! don't ignore the IRS these are your top priority now. Find a part time job to get busy with it and to at least get some money and meet people outside your home. You don't want to stay alone and feel miserable and I would not worry about the GF! its her loss, she is not worth it even though its too hard.
    Get a pen and paper and write down what success you made and how did you do it and then go again and pursue these if possible, you did it once or more, you can do it 1000s times again by not giving up, if you could it at a time when you had no experience then now you can do it much better.
     
  14. Writer7

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    A lot of good advice here! Hear what those dudes are telling you - make the deal with IRS. I am depressed myself and I am telling you, OK, there is time for feeling bad and drinking, but after that evening there is time to rise up and fight again!
    There are IM guys who are blind and in the wheelchairs, who suffer from various illnesses,.. and still working, still fighting.
    And about your ex girlfriend - there is an excellent cure for breakup - another girl, much better than she was!
     
  15. danmrsn

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    if you feel that you already hit rock bottom, you cannot go lower.
    so smile! tomorrow might be worse. at least if you keep doing whatever you did that brought you here.
    no one knows better what you need to do except you. when YOU are ready, just start. action.

    i would like to close by wishing you "good luck", but you already know it's not about luck.
     
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  16. allforcrypto

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    That suck try to stick with good German/Belgium beer for your health sake.America beer is pure poison
     
  17. Green192

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    change ur s**** avatar first...
     
  18. Harry2018

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    Never give up just think positive and think there is some better things coming to u cause after every down side there is upwards for sure ...
     
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    Try to trip in some eastern Europe, that's great idea to understand that your life is AWESOME
     
  20. TigerShadow

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    Sometimes in the mist of darkness it can be hard to feel/see the light of life. But just as night time becomes day time if you wait and be diligent that light will return. Seek those places that make you feel the light of life when things become dim. For me its being with family, going to church, being involved in my community like through volunteering and just praying/meditating for strength for my day and focus. Everyone gets that light in different ways. Keep pushing you got this bro, this is just a phase to make you stronger for bigger things!