I'm drinking, broke up with GF, in debt, life is hopeless

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  1. dnice2012

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    Life is filled with set backs , at least its not famine for you and you are not in war . There are millions of people who have it worst than you .

    You will bounce back , be patient and with endurance walk through it and when you bounce back you will be more successful
     
  2. Determined Diva

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    I wish you feel better soon. My mother suddenly passed away last new years day when the last time I enjoyed her company was on the day before being new years eve. My dad lost his mind over the death of my mother and hasnt spoken to me since. My sister left home and hasnt kept in touch with anyone. The same year my husband tried to use me to get his business on track by offering his wife to potential investors. He called me a strategy.
    I was pregnant when I left home at 1am while there was a potential investor waiting in the living room for me. I gave birth all alone holding on to just my older daughter's hand.

    I have a 9 year old who doenst go to school because I can't afford it and a 4 month old girl who hasn't had her shots yet. I live with my aunt who allows me to stay with her in exchange for housework and you know how tough it is with little ones. My piece of shit husband then went ahead and sued me for money and custody of the girls saying I was corrupt and immoral. I am under investigation by the local police to make sure I'm a 'good mother' who has 0 contact with any men. No child support is given to me.

    I have picked up the pieces of my life and now I am finally beginning to see the light of day. Life is shit but you're alive! You have a chance. Don't dwell on the past please.

    Life is all about moving forward and if you look behind you'll fall. Don't look at your past think of the future. We all come alone in this world and we go alone. Love yourself and then you'll be surrounded by those that will complement you. Love you first. Fuck everyone else. Not worth it.
     
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  3. IamNRE

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    You seem irresponsible. Someone on your income shouldn't have a girlfriend (my opinion), you should work, work, work... 24/7... just work, eat, sleep. NOTHING ELSE.

    I understand you live in US, so you probably need a car to get to work and such - but there's no reason to drive a car worth $17k. Sell that shit and and buy something for around $3k - $5k. Focus on the smallest debt pile (CC), and pay it down as quickly as possible by living like a monk, working 12 hour shifts 7 day a week and killing your social life (i.e no gf or going to any events or activist that costs you money) and selling your car.

    Get a room mate to split the bills with ya.

    12 months from now, you should be able to be debt free.

    You probably didn't want any advice - especially from someone that doesn't know all the details, but hey - we're men... we are given a problem, we try to fix it :D

    Have fun tonight though, drink your sorrows away, take the day off Sunday... then go strong Monday morning with a battle plan!
     
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    Hang in there friend!
     
  5. Nut-Nights

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    This guy is smoking some next level shit.
     
  6. Sandie2018

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    First of all, if you were financially successful at some point, you know you can do it again (and again).
    Second, if your gf has left you, she just wasn't worth to be with you. You'll get another one (and another one).
    Third, you have one life to live and you won't have another one, so hurry up and get going.
    Good luck!
     
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  7. FabioSelau

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    Do you live in the US?
    You are in paradise!
    I live in Brazil and here we are fucked. + 60% tax on any product, education, health and safety of shit and much corruption
     
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    Breakup + alcohol (or any drugs) is just like putting shit on your wound.
    It gonna fuk up your mental, and it gonna make your mental even worse.

    Accept the pain, embrace the suffering (without help from any substance). And you gonna receive the reward once this suffering end.
     
  9. scythe876

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    If you live in USA - 50k probably is not very big numbers. You need just work and pay ur debt.

    My option: to make money not need to have big investments( if need big investment - probably other ppl make money on you ).
    Business when +1000% profit and you could re-invest. from 100$ make 1k$, from 1k$ 10k etc.

    Some ppl say credit is necessary sometimes but I would be borrow from friends instead from banks. Friends can "forgive" debt - bank never.

    Good luck
     
  10. Sombrero

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    I'm in tears right now reading all the replies.

    Thank you all :')
     
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    Can u tell me what's your birthday?
     
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    What have you done since July 1st to make your life better?

    " Ok this is my shitpost of the week, I haven't been here lately to be honest, my projects are paused because I'm driving for Uber and selling stuff on eBay just to pay my bills.
    I feel very lonely, I got a few beers and bought some chips so I'm kinda ok I know people are less fortunate than me u know? I'm in a long distance relationship and in deep debt u already know me I'm that dog.

    What else can I say? "

    You haven't moved on in 5 months almost by the sound of things. You can't sit around moping and letting months pass you by.

    Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get your arse in gear and do something mate.
     
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  13. belallama

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    Hey mate, you still got your health! (knock on wood)
    you can still get up, physically walk,see,think and come up with solutions to your situation - might take time and not gonna be easy but think about the fact the you are still able to do that.
     
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    Noone said to you bad words.
    Solution for you is to find good work and pay all. May be it take several years. Or move to Jungle:)
     
  15. popoloko23

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    Go crying mate its make your heart feel better. I do that sometime if i cant take pressure any longer.

    I 21 and pay all my family bills included my mother diasese is hard but i can do it!

    When i know my mother got diasese and cant working, i stuck at the moment because my earning is small, but it make me work harder cause i dont want to running from the problem/life.

    Face it bro after you beat this problem you gonna cry with joy what you accomplished!

    Its good you're in debt you must work smarter and harder bro. Believe to the god they just testing you to achieve more better that before!
     
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    Alcohol and drugs are not a solution.
     
  17. nakamura

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    If you are in such a deep shit and you are sitting at home and the only thing coming into your mind is streaming Chuck Liddell vs Tito Ortiz 3, you probably deserve to be in this shitty situation.

    In BHW since 2011 and $17k in debt? Seriously? What did you do all those years?
     
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  19. IamNRE

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    If you're doing Uber, could you maybe find someone else to drive your Uber car while you're resting - say you do 10 hour shifts, and while you're resting the other person does 10 hour shifts and pays you $200/week or something like that. If you live in a house that has spare rooms, rent the rooms. Work out / jog, it helps to improve the state of your mind - you def. don't need to drink & take drugs.
     
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    well if you think of it this way, nowhere to go but up
     
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