I'm drinking, broke up with GF, in debt, life is hopeless

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  1. Sombrero

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    Me, sitting in a $17 dollar chair in front of a $10 dollar desk drinking bud light 30-pack $17.99 waiting to stream illegally Chuck Liddell vs Tito Ortiz 3 on a saturday night.

    From having hundreds of PayPal monkeys to basically negative balance on my bank account, in debt $17k+ with the IRS, $10k in credit cards, $23k in car loan and recently broke with my GF.

    Today I want to share my sadness to you all.

    Thank you
     
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  2. lacifitra

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    It's gonna get better, man. I've been a pessimistic fuck my entire life and through the same situation you're in right now, so take my word for it.
    If you have the chance, spend Christmas with family, then get back on track as good as you can next year. Don't expect to get over the breakup too soon, take your time and don't try to solve your problems with alcohol. It's one of the worst mistakes you could make, aside from drug abuse.
    All the best.
     
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  3. The Curator

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    Many of us have been there or worse - just means it's time to put your nose to the grindstone and work your way out. Fortunately for you, you have a reason to rise to the occasion while others sit there twiddling their thumbs with no impetus....
    Good luck!
     
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  4. Veil123

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    Hey! You still alive aren't you?
    You have been there, seen that.
    Don't be a p*ssy. Sit down, turn off your PC and mobile and get a paper and a pen. Make a plan - a detailed plan! In addition to that plan, make several B and C options, if necessary.

    - A mighty flame followeth a tiny spark.

    P.S. Don't give up buddy!
     
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  5. davids355

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    Work on your problems one by one and with time it will get better. And you good thing is: when you have nothing, you’ve got a blank canvas to build something better for yourself.
     
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    You are going to feel like this a couple of times in you life until you become immune to this shit. Went through it myself at the early stage of my life, felt like I won’t be able to re-establish a better life and even though everyone said otherwise I didn’t bother to listen.

    But hope comes back, time fixes everything. You will get back up on your feet and you will be wiser than ever and more mature than before. You will be ready for real life.
     
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  7. v!p3r

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    ok so there are a few points to do now:
    first: realise that pain is send to you not to break you but to MAKE you!
    second: stop drinking at the very moment you read this! Throw everything you have away! NOW!
    third: go to youtube and watch ppl like simon sinek to get you back on the right road!

    I wish you the very best and hope I could help you maybe just 0,1% GOOD LOOK!
     
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  8. pm me cheese

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    it will get better mate
     
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    That is really not much debt at all.

    GF leaving you is not that big a deal - I lost track of the # that left me ages ago and lost track of who they even are.

    The IRS may even do an offer in compromise for you depending on the whole financial picture btw.
     
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  10. deal with it

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    only dog can understand dog problem. @Neon
     
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  11. frizenking

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    This is so true.
     
  12. kasumi009

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    Get your balls together and get on task, do what you've been doing to make your living. If you work online duplicte what you do as hard as you can and if you're running out of time there's no shame in seeking help. Life will strike you again and probably even harder so get through this and get ready for next. What doesn't kill you makes you weirder buddy. If you think beaking up with gf is pain you're mstaken, i've been through the worse and trust me man it really isn't worth just freez your feelings and move on.
     
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    Well, there's a good news - you'll get a new and better girlfriend
    Debts - it's not that bad and nothing you can't figure out

    Before new years it always go down and then up again - cheer up
     
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    who cares dear, come with me to live in jungle me kiss you there

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    People like me dream to live in USA and Canada and you crying as a citizen.

    If i was you I take 2 jobs and work like a mad, not fucking drinking cheap rice beer and wait for the magic.

    I am pretty sure all Eastern European and Asians agree with me.

    You have no idea what hard life is. My father work whole life just to grow me up as a single father, all my childhood. This is hard.

    Stop bitching and go do something for your future.

    Nobody cares.
     
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  16. Veil123

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    It is easy for you to say that. Working for a summer or two through the 'work and travel' program and making some money is one thing, but going with the same tempo for the rest of your life is a no-no.
     
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    No it's not. 8 years ago I go with a backpack in London and 300 pounds.

    I was leaving in share houses with rubbish noisy people, scam bugs every step and so on.

    I do jobs I don't even imagine before I was able to do. I struggle, a lot, for years until I become stable.

    I know a lot of people who struggle even old women's look after people with mental illness as before they was high school math teachers. The system broke them up,but they don't give up.

    I don't drink but I know things. ( game of thrones :d )

    Peace! I am out!
     
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    I'm curious, how did you get there and why she left you?

    P.S. finish all beers tonight and stop taking alcohol from tomorrow. It's not solving any problems, just delaying and doubling them.
     
  20. EternalFun

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    What happened to that money you made? Did you incur a loss?

    And if you think feeling sad for yourself with beers and some tv shows is the way, your debt in figures is just gonna climb up.

    You mean you had a bigger debt before your successful business and you used the profits to clear those off?[/QUOTE]

    This is correct tho. A new look is necessary to start something new and embark on a good journey.
     
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