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If you had it all to do over again..... What would you do differently?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by 2011nfl, Jul 12, 2012.

  1. 2011nfl

    2011nfl Supreme Member

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    If I had my whole life to do all over again, there is absolutely nothing that I would do differently. and here is why. Everything I have been through in my life has been learning experiences, and without those experiences, I would not have the wisdom, nor the strength or friends I have now. I have been through good times, and I have been through tough times (still going through tough times) But without those tough times, I would not appreciate the good times as much as I do. And with appreciation comes happiness and friendships, because if you do not appreciate, then you are unable to be a friend to yourself or anyone around you. I appreciate and respect everything that has happened in my life, and thank god for the good friends that have came of it.

    Here is a few friends on this great forum that I appreciate and respect very much (anyone who values friendships will agree)


    Oldsalt
    Basstrackerboats
    Tsmash

    Oxonbeef
    Bestbuyfoam
    Reinie
    Needalead
    Silenthunter
    Marusia

    Greywolf (even though we haven't conversed in a very long time :D)

    And there are many more, but that was just a few, and I thank you all for being my friends and helping me keep my head out of the water in my tough times.

    So as I said. There is absolutely NOTHING I would do different. :)
     
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  2. Chicilikit

    Chicilikit Senior Member

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    Lucky you, I would change absolutely everything, looks like I do only mistakes and never good decisionsb :) Well, the truth is that I would not have such friends as I do have and maybe all that sh.t has been worth that :)
     
  3. 2011nfl

    2011nfl Supreme Member

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    Now ask yourself these questions. Have you learned from those mistakes? How much did you learn? Now ask yourself again. Would I Really change Everything?

    Hope that helps some :D
     
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    crazedspyker Senior Member

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    I would ignore 80% of the advice I got here from bhw and test everything for myself. (20% of the information is golden, you just have to dig through all the crap)

    Then again, I guess it was all a learning experience. So thank you bhw! lol
     
  5. OldSalt

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    Honestly... I don't know. I can't say for sure that I wouldn't change at least a few things because I know that some of the stress that I've had to go through was self-inflicted. Some of our financial burdon could have been avoided if I had done things differently in the first two years when I split from my wife. Alot of things snow-balled from there. But who knows... if I hadn't done them, then maybe I wouldn't be here and my being here may be best for my long term future.

    There are many things that I wouldn't change though - I wouldn't change the 20+ years with my Ex. I have often said it was a 20 year marriage that shouldn't have lasted 10 - but if I had quit at 10, I never would have met the wonderful woman I'm married to now - NO SALE.

    So at most I would change very little... just not sure about nothing... lol

    And my friends list looks alot like yours simply because are really good people - but of course, you're on my list rather than my own 'nic'. ;)
     
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  6. Danny1111

    Danny1111 Elite Member

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    The one lesson or the one thing I would change would be this :

    Get everything in writing.
     
  7. 2011nfl

    2011nfl Supreme Member

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    That is a good point, now if you never went through a situation like that, then you may have never learned that valuable lesson, therefore, it made you wiser. :D
     
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    This is a letter to myself 10 years ago:

    - Don't take so much bullshit. If something pisses you off, put an end to it.

    - Your relationship with your first serious girlfriend will end (unbelievable, I know!) So will every other relationship with girls. DON'T FREAK OUT. It's not the end of the world. Go find another one and get back to business.

    - Start internet marketing as soon as possible. Don't waste any money on e-books touting some magical "work at home system" that promises millions of dollars a month. It's not possible.

    - Quit smoking and doing drugs. Nobody thinks you're cool because of it. You're just wasting massive amounts of money and destroying your health. Start running and working out and you'll develop an awesome body... TRUST ME

    - On July 12th, 2012, you're going to bang your head on an open cabinet door in the kitchen. Remember to close it before that happens.
     
  9. ferma231

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    If i had to do all over again, i would do anything , because i know that if i dont i will regret it :(
     
  10. liquidx

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    I would have got into internet marketing sooner like back in 05.

    Invested money in Apple when it was at <$100 per share

    Bang all of my ex girlfriend's friend that wanted my nuts but I was just trying to be a good bf.

    Did study abroad when I was in college.

    Not partied as hard in college waking up the next day asking myself what had happened

    But hey these are just learning experiences we can't turn back time
     
  11. YugiMutou

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    I feel that foreals ,I was kinda clueless I had a bunch of nice hot girls but didn't know what to do with them lol... I probaly on capitlize on 20 % percent of action when I should have been in the 80%.... but yeah. Also I wish I would have took my first couple years of college seriously.
     
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    also avoided stupid loans ... don't try to get into debit to fast.
    watch who you give money too because if they asking for it more than once that mean they are not good with it...
    dont sale expensive items even if your hungry just donate plasma and you'll will be able to eat :D
    and nice guy don't win , you can have a heart but put a limit because it will hurt you one day. Well let me rephrase that treat others how you want to be treated but don't be a doormat , or have passive aggressive behavior.
    also when your young save some off that money in the bank or stock you will be happy a few years later trust me :cool:
     
  13. Chicilikit

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    Never regret any party.. all those parties are the only thing I would never change. But yeah girls.. I will regret to the end of my life all those girl I could have but did not because was too young, shy, unexperienced, drunk, just stupid or anything else :)
     
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    Honestly, I would think twice to work with a partner which is also my best friend, even though we made a ton of money these past 2 years. I learned a lot. if I worked alone, I may not earn so much money, but I would do completely different things and would maybe be doing something that brings money in the long run. What we do pays great money, but it's short term and I don't like to constantly worry when the next "paycheck" is coming.

    That's why I'm starting to concentrate on more long term business models and I must say I learned a lot since reading this forum.

    On another note, can someone help me. I seem to be stuck on post number 7 even though I made quite a few more posts... No matter how many posts I write, they stay at 7. Thank you!
     
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  15. Wealthy Wisdom

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    I regret not sticking with IM back in 2008. I was still young, naive, and looking for girls.... found that one and have been through a lot of ups and downs just like every other relationship. Now i'm in school and doing IM as much as I can which is actually making my family proud since I was going down a really bad path doing some shit that was only giving me bad karma.

    It's a drastic difference and all it took was will power and an urge to learn!I was always good in school and nice to people but still had my inner demons and addictions...the fact that I wanted to impress the wrong kind of people put me in a very bad position for a while. All good now and looking forward to what the future has to offer.
     
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    The most important thing to remember is it's never too late.. No point having any regrets the rest of your life starts today.
     
  17. reinie

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    Thank you 2011nfl

    I have no regrets either, except for maybe putting in more effort towards what matters.

    You have a good heart, and I am happy to support or assist you when and where ever because I know you would do the same
     
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    You should try and live your life without regrets, as they will only act as a burden. You cannot change the past, only the future. For all those wishing they could change things, honestly try and let them go.

    You can only really move forward once these regrets have been let go, don't be held back by the past.
     
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  19. 2011nfl

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    Thanks Reinie, that really means alot to me. And I definately would do the same :)
     
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    I would not change a thing. Personally every mistake, failure or success made me who I am today. That is something I am proud of. Things might not work out tomorrow, and they might work even better than today - but that is life. We've all had our fair share of mistakes, but if those mistakes weren't a dead end but just an bump on the road, they will make us better.

    If learning from your mistakes makes you wiser and more successful - the more of them you make the better (and more successful) person you will become.
     
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