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I need to lie to my family help!

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by farfetchedmoney, Jun 24, 2010.

  1. farfetchedmoney

    farfetchedmoney Regular Member

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    Apparently when you can work when and how you want your family seems to think that you have free time to cater to their needs. My brother drops his kids off with me whenever he wants because he know I am home. I have told him already before that I don't want to be disturbed during business hours and during the workweek. Now I am stuck with his 3 kids and trying to cater to them and not my own business. I am pissed, what kind of lie can I tell him to keep him from bringing their asses over. I was thinking I would tell him I got some kind of on call job and wont be home during the week, but, sometimes he would see me and get back comfortable with the previous way and the cycle would start all over again. Just like it has happened now! I also need to lie to my mom because she will get involved with the kids moms and talk to the kids and set something up as well.

    What would be a good lie to get out of this mess because the truth isn't enough!
     
  2. BassTrackerBoats

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    Don't lie, grow a backbone and when he comes to drop off his kids, tell him no.

    Sometimes I work at home as well and I tell people that I will not
    accept being disturbed when I am working so don't bother me.
     
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  3. voidale

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    lie won't work for you man, Just tell him you work online and it's just like any other job and you can't do other things other than WORK! but you can at X hour! you have to set it straight about the hours X-X Busy X-X Free and they will know for next time.
     
  4. c0nan

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    Just find out what the local Schools charge.

    AND send him and invoice
     
  5. antsaoo

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    Indeed. Tell him the truth and that even you are home you need concentrate on your business and you can't watch them at the same time.
     
  6. Talsin

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    I have the same problem with my family.

    My parents turned up the other day in the middle of a very busy work day (without calling), I live an hours drive away from them.

    I opened the door, said sorry Im working just because im here doesnt mean im free, then sent them straight home again.
     
  7. XoRaK

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    damn, dude tell him to get a babysit! r u his bitch?? Don't think so...

    greetz

    XoRaK
     
  8. shawntroy

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    I totally understand your frustration. I am going through the same situation. I am the oldest of 8 so my entire family looks to me
    for help ALLL of the time and its irritating because I don't
    go to their jobs and drop off kids.

    I have been working at home for years and no matter how many
    times I tell my boyfriend, my extended family or my two daughters
    that I have to work and DO NOT bother me during the hours of
    9 to 5. NO ONE listens. The only time they listen is
    when I raise my voice and yell and you have to push
    me really hard to to so. Because I really am a calm and
    peaceful person.

    But anyway, I have started looking for alternative places to
    work. I have contacted Regus & Corporate College. Regus
    offers private office space for anywhere between $350 -$450
    per month. Or you can take the cheaper options of using the
    drop by service, but I think you are limited to only being able
    to go there certain days of the week.

    Just a suggestion, you make want to consider those options
    because I'm telling you it never stops.

    I hope things get better for you though or you find an
    alternative solution because it is very nerve recking.

    Take care,

    Shawn
     
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  9. whodi

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    I tell everyone im a truck driver. Nobody wants me to "Show" them how to do that! Plus, truck drivers have odd hours so that plays well into the long term (Dealing with family, everyone else I tell "Fuck Off" to when they want something during the workweek.)
     
  10. xplicit

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    Next time he shows up with his kids. Answer the door wearing this.

    [​IMG]

    And yell.. "I'm Freaking Working Here!"

    I guarantee he dont bring his kids over anymore.
     
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  11. chrishas

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    I hear what you're saying... I've worked from home for years and I had similar problems with my sister and her five little ones. I have a clinic in my home and see patients all day.
    I used to just go to the park or the library to write my reports, so I could do it without interruption. Now you can get free internet just about anywhere and you can forward your phone as well.
    Don't Lie - Keep telling your family you are working and can't babysit, that even though you are home, you have to treat it as if you were working for someone else. Eventually they will learn not to bother you during your working time.
    You may have to take other measures. Obviously he doesn't listen - tell him in advance what you will and won't do and follow through. Then don't be home when he normally drops the kids off. - take your laptop and cell phone somewhere else to work. I go out several times a week for a different IP address and just to get out of the house.
    Remember, you'll have to change your behavior too, to get him to change his. It will probably be uncomfortable but he'll get over it.
    Hang in there. :)
     
  12. farfetchedmoney

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    I hear what everyone is saying it just seems like over time they go back to thinking it is ok again. Like they got amnesia. I am really pissed. It makes you just want to disappear.
     
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    They won't forget over time if you always stand your ground.
     
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    What's up with your brother that he's not already working during business hours? Is he going on some drinking binge with the wife? Tell him you live next door to 2 sex offenders recently released too early and he might reconsider!
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    a mess can't be corrected with another mess.

    try to talk it over, tell him the truth and decide. im sure your brother will understand.
     
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    Put some music on, plug in the head phones, shut the curtains if necessary and don't answer the phone or door!! He'll soon get the message after a few wasted journeys!

    I have exactly the same problem with my family...especially my kids who don't really understand what I'm doing and just think I'm "playing" on the computer all day!

    Working from home was supposed to make my life easier, not harder :rolleyes:

    PS...I have also become the unofficial "parcel sitter" for my neighbours as well......
     
  17. immortal

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    You could try and take advantage of it,
    Make them do some work for you XD, cut your grass, cook food for you, wash your car, vacuuming etc
    And u can sit back and work
     
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    haha IF you FEEL you need to Lie do something like
    xplicit Said. Just Either Creep them out or let them think your weird or unreliable l

    OR just Dont Answer the door... OR Be Honest & Aggressive & Ask Oh.. Me looking after your Kids? Does this Mean your going to pay my bill's and make me money also? ok Deal, I'll Look after kid's you make me 10k a day. whatever, Seriously it'd be Stunting the growth of your bussiness if your putting up with that shit.

    Ah Seeing as your Quesiton is I need to lie to my family, Perhaps Purchase a Book of Excuses?
    OR just say everytime I have Some People coming over later in the day to Discuss Bussiness Matter's & we'll be going over planning & things together etc.
    This is a Professional Meeting cannot Have Kids around.

    Ooh or Simply Just Disown & Ignore them Completly?
     
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    instead of spending $500 / mth for an office to get away, take $2-300, spend it on a babysitter for your brother's kids. Tell him the kids are too much of a distraction and you really can't have them at the house.

    constantly remind him of what a burden he is to you because you have to pay for a babysitter for his kids because he can't.

    do stuff like show up at his house unannounced, walk into the kitchen, open the freezer, start eating his ice cream. When he says "what the?" reply "I pay $300 / mth so that your kids can be babysat, and you can't even let me have some @#$#@$@ ice cream?"

    borrow stuff from him, drop stuff off at his house, use his garage as storage, borrow his lawnmower and return it broken. all in the name of "I support you and your kids, and you can't even let me _________?"

    he'll figure something else out within a week or two.
     
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    move!