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I need to get over this girl. Big Time.

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by nowimhere, Jan 5, 2010.

  1. nowimhere

    nowimhere Regular Member

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    I've loved her for over three years now.
    She was the first girl who ever said she loved me.

    Any advice?
     
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    malkut81 Newbie

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    Dude, no offense but what in the hell is up with these emo threads lately?

    Yeah when you're young love sucks. The older you get the less you'll care.
     
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  3. cagefighter

    cagefighter Junior Member

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    Go out and get laid..

    But serious man the world is slap ass filled with them!

    Act like you dont give a shit about her and move on and she will be pounding down your door. Then you tell her you dont love her any more and it will drive her even more crazy..

    Then go out and get laid again.
     
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    TermsB Senior Member

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    True statement.
     
  5. theadultsplayground

    theadultsplayground BANNED BANNED

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    Easy, just find another girlfriend or better yet just work on yourself. Make yourself happy and everything else will fall in place
     
  6. nowimhere

    nowimhere Regular Member

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    Sic dude.

    I know all the theory and all.

    But the thing is... I've already gotten laid a bunch since her.....

    It almost feels like we are soul mates or somethin (yea lame, I know, trust me)

    Sorry for being all emo like. But this has really effected my life and
    my work ethic.

    I seriously still love her.

    Other Chicks are fun and all, but its this girls soul that I love.
    Way more than just a pretty face.

    God, I'm fucked!
     
  7. malkut81

    malkut81 Newbie

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    You'll be alright. Everyone has "the one" that gets away and breaks their heart. Just stay positive and eventually you'll find a replacement.
     
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  8. TheInternetHustler

    TheInternetHustler Regular Member

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    You have to give it time, maybe a lot of it, thats all you can do. I would also recommend drugs :) besides alcohol, heroin and meth because they suck...
     
  9. ericsson

    ericsson Elite Member Premium Member

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    I know how it feels.

    I have many long relationship before.

    Best is to forget her, try to be with your friends, thinking about something else.
    Try go be social on pubs, meeting new girls, etc etc.
    I know it´s a hard time now, but.. Friends, friends friends. They all helped me forget that girl i have for over 4,5 year.

    //J
     
  10. showmethemoolah

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    I'm going through the same thing mate...broke up with my girl in March and it's still hard...saw a photo of her and some guy and they'd both put it as their display pics online and I just wanted to throw up. I too feel like she's my soul mate.

    ...but the others here are right, theres always that one that gets away, just don't make the error of thinking that she's the only girl in the world. Someone will come along and surprise you one day, but that person won't come along if you mope around/don't go out there and be noticable.

    Chin up matey.
     
  11. adam.jn

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    Happened to me about 6 months ago, then the more I thought about her the more I disliked her, I don't even speak to her now.

    Just try and forget about her buddy and get on with life, all things happen for a reason.
     
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    Having been where you are a number of times one major thing always sticks in the mind. DONT THINK THAT THERE IS THE ONE AND ONLY ONE GIRL FOR YOU. That is all such crap.
    You cant see it right now cos you feel so much for her and it seems impossible, but there are multiples,thousands of THE ONES out there.
    She feels like THE ONE right now because she is the only one around you tuning right into you, BUT THERE ARE THOUSANDS MORE COMPATIBLES/SOULMATES/THEONES ETC just lined up waiting in the future.
    And hey what better place to start looking than this wonderful place we call the net :) :)
     
  13. ericsson

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    Yeah and my ex girlfriend took our son to a "friend" she said.

    The ring was laying on the table, same day i went hom from my job.
    Next day i should start working for another company, that was really painful to me.

    3 Weeks later, a couple of days before christmas day, i saw her with her new boyfriend and my son beside them holding their hands together.

    I realized that my life was ruined, i would never met a girl like her again.
    But i did, i have been together now for the last 4 years with my beautiful wife, and kids, we were married in 12 Sep last year.

    So never give up! And friends are all you need in those situations... BELIEVE ME.

    //J
     
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  14. cagefighter

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    God,

    You know you really setting yourself up for abuse on this board.

    And u seem like a generally a good person, be so easy to say get over it you sound pathetic

    But im even having a hard time with it..

    All i can say from experience im pushing 40! been married once before and she not only ripped my heart out took my kids and my house, my car and 50k in cash, and 1000 a month in alimony and 1500 a month in child support, you begin to say FUCK EM! I HATE EM!

    then i met a new women that i feel in love with and its all awesome but you will never forget how the 1st 1 hurt so bad and never let your guard down again.

    So in time you learn, and i think one person said it on here start loving yourself and put all this time into making money, working out become a better person, Travel hang with you buddies and ENJOY Life! and tons of them will pop in your life, then you will pick the one that is right for you.

    Life is short bro.. Can be taken from you any day. So dont let ONE person destroy your day!
     
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  15. cagefighter

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    Ouch bro! that one would hurt!

    Glad your happy now, what every doesnt kill us makes us stronger!
     
  16. xhanuman

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    Like Adultsplayground said, take care of yourself now. Get to know yourself and what you want out of life... happiness comes from within - not from external things that can vanish through no fault of your own. Also pushing 40... been thru plenty like cage and ericss...

    Build a strong network of friends (backlinks?) while you have this opportunity... sometimes when u are in a serious relationship, the time is not there to go out and meet new friends... especially good female friends who can be there for you later.
     
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    double post... happened during the bhw downtime!
     
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    Get a Dog. Preferably a Golden Retriever or a German Shepard.
     
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    Picture her taking a nasty shit
     
  20. suave

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    go out and get as many girls as you can....believe me with millions of girls in this world im sure they are plenty of other girls witch you can fall pussywip in no time

    Suave