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I need some tips on asking a girl out. + A Story!

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by kingofbigmac, May 7, 2009.

  1. kingofbigmac

    kingofbigmac Regular Member

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    I am extremely shy guy and the last time where I was sure the signs were there I got a "maybe" :(. This time there is a different girl and I have only seen her around and noticed her about 4 times now. I work at a computer lab so it can be very hectic. 2 weeks ago she came up to me and my friend and we were up at the computer and I was trying to find some cosplayer because well some girl was very hot and looked just like someone haha. (I am not into cos-play). Any way she came up to us and she showed us a site where its full of cosplayers and this whole time I realized she is up against me in a tight space and she didnt even bother to move or whatever. Well on Tuesday she was talking to her friends and I was helping my co-worker code something on his website. She came up to me and asked what I was doing. This time she had her arm on my shoulder leaning on me while I was sitting down at the computer desk. I told her what I was doing and I said I snuck my adsense code on the website on his site so I make some money and she giggled. Her friend came up and we had like a 3 way conversation going on. Somehow make up got involved and we have a lost and found thing and I showed them a makeup kit and it was unused the girls friend snatched that up and I said I don't need that I am naturally beautiful and once again laughter. I am like the king of what I call Ice Breaking humor. You may get some chuckles but for those who are interested in me they somehow get a kick out of it. Well that conversation got interrupted a student needed some help and well I have to help its my job so I got up excused myself and helped. When I was bouncing around the computer lab helping people I noticed her friend kinda staring at me and there was some giggles. When I was done helping people for the moment she was sitting my the stairs with her friends and she invited me to sit by them on the stairs. Well I came up and her "fat ass" friend was blocking the stairs so I couldn't sit next to her because no one would be able to go up or down the stairs to the computer lab. Well we were all laughing and having a good time and the girl had to leave.
    This is the difficult part for me. The only time I see her is when I am working. I am usually constantly up and walking around and helping people. When the bosses are there then I am walking around even more just to look busy. So theres a chance I will see her tomorrow at work. I believe she has classes Tuesdays and Thursdays. My roommate told me to ask if she has a myspace or facebook and if she does add her and just ask her out through that. I don't really want to ask her out through myspace etc. Sorry for the story haha just felt better typing that all out. Get my feelings in check you know. I never had a girlfriend. I asked a girl out twice. First time was a yes but turned out she already had a boyfriend and so I avoided her and the second time was a maybe. Who knows If I am feeling good and got my big boy underwear on I will just flat out ask her or something. Well I have to go to bed. If you have any tips help a brother out! (Just remembered girls will suck up a lot of money. Should motivate me to make some more through IM.)
     
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  2. highrider778

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    co-worker relationships hardly ever work out bro. see the pussy all day at work, then when you leave you see it...damn.....if it doesn't work out and you two split.....then you still gotta deal with her and that awkwardness.....co-workers are good for fucks though, but not dating.

    if your a shy guy, head on over to fastseduction and learn to break out of your shell, then you'll be a babe magnet to every chick you meet.
     
  3. hackersmeker

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    Try your luck and ask her out.hmm :) If you ask and she says YES its good,if NO ,its also good cuz you asked her and you at least feel free now :)
    Do those if you are sure she like's you even a bit :)
    1 WORD:NEVER ,I MEAN NEVER Trust a girl that says,you are nice guy,you are sweet,etc.Those will end you in the last second,when you had a hope
     
  4. highrider778

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    hackersmekler is right....if for one second your ever in the friend category, your screwed.

    the right answer to asking a girl out is to never actually ask her out. you never wanna give the girl the option of saying no to you, this also goes for getting a phone number, never ask...you should always tell.....let me get your phone number...let's hang out sometime...I'd really like to see you. should we get to know each other more?

    make yourself the catch
     
  5. hackersmeker

    hackersmeker BANNED BANNED

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    btw dont ask her via messenger or telephone or anything!ask her in real life,more succes
     
  6. sodigital

    sodigital Newbie

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    Next time you see her, "Hey, you wanna hang out some time?"

    "Sure"

    "Cool, [whip out your cell] what's ur #?

    That's it. It really is that simple. Be nonchalant and for goodness sake, don't look nervous!
     
  7. Whookidive

    Whookidive Registered Member

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    You really don't have a lot of self-confidence IMO.

    My advice:
    -Dont over-rush things
    -Keep your distance
    -Don't think because she puts her hand on your shoulder that she's into you, try looking for more things and don't think like "OMG she smiled now she wants to be my gf"
    -Try to impress her by doing really small things, like if you know the drinks coffee, ask het ro go have a cup at work with you ;)
     
  8. hackersmeker

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    Sorry to say ,but if he does ''things''with her hands maybe its a whore,i had similar GF lol
     
  9. Sanitarium

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    Tell her you can type really fast with your penis.

    If she says she wants to see then run, if she says "you jerk" then tell her where you got it from and show her my post.
     
  10. AgentZero

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    get the program the blueprint RSD, should give you a big confidence boost
     
  11. kingofbigmac

    kingofbigmac Regular Member

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    She is not my co-worker. She is a student. I will see how the day goes, I also thought maybe she is just always so touchy. I am the only one she touches compared to all the other guys that are around that she talks to. She is not a whore lol @ hackersmeker. I feel really nervous but I don't show it, but once I do ask it's natural. Thanks for your advice. I feel so much better. :D
     
  12. GreenGoblin

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    Just do what I use to do, just do it like this. This technique saves your pride also if rejected....carry on a casual conversation with the person. Then say out of the blue "Hey u know what your cool as hell we need to go out 1 day" she prolly laugh...now she has a few reponses.

    1. I'm sorry i have a boyfriend
    Your response is this..."Well i ment as friends i wasn't trying to date you"

    This will make her feel like a idiot for jumping to conclusions, also it saves your pride.

    2. If she says Yes! just say "sounds good" and give it about a week then set it up.

    easy as that, and theres no need to be nervous, most people fail with females cause they ask questions rather then make statements in the form of indirect questions.

    Don't put females on the spot with questions like "hey can we go out" it sounds corny also u make them feel as if they have to answer you at that moment. So most of the time u will get this.."Ill think about it" or she will laugh and not respond at all. The reason is the average person don't like to be put on the spot. So the best thing to do is make statements, "Hey your cool as hell one day we should go out" if shes interested she quickly Identify this in the statement "ONE DAY" which is a more confortable situation to say OK cool we can do that! cause your not looking for a Yes or No right now. Which puts you in a good position to ask her out anyday you want.

    Damn I need to open a Dating school
     
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    Just ask her if she wants to get some coffee, even if you dont like coffee its a nonchalant way of asking her to hang out else where (away from her fat ass friend).
     
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    Try to find out some common interests...ie, is she into music, find a coffee house with a cool band playing. Try asking her to do something casual like that first, less stress on you and doesn't seem so "datey". If that goes well, go from there and take her out for dinner or something like that.
     
  15. playercool

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    If she touches you my friend that is called KINO. That is a good sign.

    Let me tell you a secret.

    Women love confident guys.

    So be confident and ask her out or for her number confidently. She will appreciate this and if she is into you at all she will accept. Don't beat around the bush. In fact here is what I want you to say.

    Kingofbigmac: Hey we should hang out sometime.
    HotBabe: Ok
    Kingofbigmac: Alright let me get your number. (While you are saying this pull your phone out of your back pocket at the exact same time.) (This sub communicates to her that you are confident and you have already accepted and know that she will be giving you her number.)
    HotBabe: 555-5555
    Kingofbigmac: Should I call or text you?
    HotBabe: Text

    Bam there you go. Yes it really is that easy. Keep it simple.

    You really need to research some pick up stuff. Read the Game. Spend some times on sites like the attraction forums. Or go read my site playercool.com. I used to have no clue like yourself and would wonder and think about all sorts of shit like you are doing now. Eventually you will stop thinking and start acting.
     
  16. TheBHCat

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    I agree with the majority of people here - confidence is key. If you show confidence, not much else will matter (well, I huge wallet from IM wouldn't hurt ;-).
     
  17. jbthedon

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    I'd liked to know how old are you?
     
  18. kingofbigmac

    kingofbigmac Regular Member

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    I am 20 years young. I gotta get ready for work. See you guys later!
     
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    Just some pointers, first do you keep yourself groomed? Thats a big thing with women. Second I always find that being direct is the best thing with females. You can not be afraid of rejection. Just go up to her and asked her if she is seeing someone. If she is not ask her to go out. If she is ask her how is her relationship going. If she says she's happy, back off. But if she's not happy, flirt. If she turns you down flat just act like it doesn't bother you at all.But you want to get in her head that your not interested in being in the friend category.
     
  20. ukescuba

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    ask if she wants to go and play armies with you... if she says wtf is armies... just tell her to come back to your place you will lay down and then she gets to blow the hell out of you!!! hehe

    on a more serious note... just ask her if you she wants to grab a coffee or a bite to eat afterwork, if shes into you she will probably say yes, i suspect with the amount of simple physical contact and laughter shes definately interested... if she is into you she will say yes or at least make arrangements for another time, if shes not she will brush you off move on and take it as experience

    just be yourself she obviously likes you the way you are already

    good luck! and please dont use that joke! hahaha