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I moved to the USA recently for 6 months! Need some help

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by fb500, Mar 21, 2010.

  1. fb500

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    Hello everyone :)

    I have moved to the USA about 1 month ago, i want to see if being here in the US helps me with my IM stuff. So i got my visa approved and i will be here for 6 months and can stay up to 2 years if i get a job contract (which i doubt i will find)

    So i just received my license and my IM is going well so far (little better than it was back in Europe).

    The thing is American people seem to go out in groups and ignore the ones outside the group? I am having a hard time meeting new people, what is wrong with Americans? Not being racist or anything, it's just back in my country if i take a trip inside the country i would meet new people with no problems at all and they always open minded, here in the US i been going to clubs, bars, movies and everyone i talk to it's just a talk and they don't even accept a drink or anything.

    Is that American hate Europeans or you guys have some different way of meeting people? lol
    even my neighboors hate me i say "hello or good morning" and they look the other way =S
     
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  2. mark9510

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    You should meet a group of people like you and then meet with their friends. They are bound to have american friends which you will meet and will accept you much easier
     
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    Guess we are just assholes... Who knows.. Or maybe your looking in wrong place... I seem to find us Americans friendly, and charming :p
     
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    Hey my friend, you might be in a larger city like New York or Los Angeles, these people are not as friendly as a whole as smaller cities that are in the midwest or the south. Most people have friends that they met in college, work, church or interest like a pickup basketball league or something. Try to find people online that you can befriend and who knows, they may have connections to a future job. Good luck to you and welcome to America. I don't mean to make a funny but with all the decisions that big O is making lately you might feel like your back in Europe before too long :(.
     
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  6. fb500

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    yeah i am in NY.
    seems like people have their friends since high school and are not open to new friends in their life it's weird... and my neighboors i never did anything to them and they seem like jealous of me so they ignore me.

    and i do not need a job lol i am saying if i want to stay here for the 2 years i need to get a job contract or whatever you guys call it to keep my visa valid, i make a living on the internet myself.

    btw yeah i thou about that joining some clubs around and meet ppl form those clubs but sincerely i cannot find any clubs to join for ppl my age (19).
    I may just get a new car (VW) mod it and join their club thats the only one i see in this area lol but investing 30k just to meet new people seems stupid idk.

    well thanks for the advices

    btw i am not saying Americans are not good looking i am just saying i feel they close their group of friends and don't like meeting new people, maybe it's just the city life style i used to live in small towns.
     
  7. lagrimas175

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    if you are used to living in small towns and then move to nyc, you are in for a shock for sure.

    not only do you have a new culture to get used to but since nyc is a very large city, you cannot expect the people to be as "friendly" as the ones in your small towns.

    you will have to learn to adjust not only to a different culture but to a different urban environment, as well.
     
  8. xboxps3wow

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    you are right, if you didn't get into a group by middle school, you are fucked and will be a loner for years...
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    at least here in chicago
     
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    haha , the same problem with me ... I just moved to usa 2 months ago and I will be here for at least 4 years. I will be studying and although I am in university , I really find americans hard to "deal" with. By deal , I actually mean to be friend with them ...
    It seems that all of them are busy and dont have no time for nothing else except their obligations. I am not saying that they are unfriendly , contrary , I find Americans to be the most friendliest people in the whole world.

    I am still waiting to meet a really good friend , although its just two months since I am here.

    Thanks

    BTW , I am in Saint Louis - Missouri
    :)
     
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    I'm not from us but,
    if you wanna find friends just speak to them when they are alone.
    of course if you come to group of people trying to be friend with them they will say fuck off lol
    well most of them you were looking at clubs, bars...
    go to the library XD
    or find a girl friend from craigslist

    any way good luck
     
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    Here are some ideas to meet new people.

    1. Do volunteer work
    2. Take some fun type classes
    3. Join a gym and take exercise classes
    4. Join a walking group
    5. If you have a big shlong, join a swingers club
     
  12. gonigkum

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    lol , dude , when you try to be a friend with someone, you start talking with them some general topic and they'll be like:
    - Okay bitch , thats enough of talking. I have to go and work now ... Peace

    I am just kidding ... its not that bad as I am making it :D
     
  13. vette09

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    Dontcha just hate it when you type a long reply and then the browser eats it. Grrr...

    Here's the short and sweet version:

    - Volunteer
    - Take a class at NYU, SUNY or some other local school so you're around people your age
    - Check out meetup.com for interest groups
    - post an activity partner ad on CL (Yes, you can use CL for things other than making money!)
    - check out the couchsurfing groups for NYC - they tend to be more open to younger people
    - join a sports team (if you play football/soccer I know there are lots of pick-up games in the parks)

    Meeting people is hard. I move/travel constantly and it only gets harder as you get older so figure out what works for you now so you can hone the skills for the rest of your life.

    NYC is definitely not the most welcoming city but if you try to meet people who have similar interests, not just people in clubs/bars, you're more likely to make friends.

    Good luck!
     
  14. liquidglass

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    Well to FB500. New York is like that man. I'm from the south (tons of ignorant and asshole people here too, but I believe you'll find them no matter where you go) But in NYC people are just so 'on the go' they don't always see the point in investing time in something/someone new.

    They're also expecting for people to scam them or something of the sort, they've seen it a lot. So add that to the fact that most people up there act like that (herd mentality) then they'll all have a tough outer shell, but inside they're just like everyone else.

    Use your accent to your advantage in some cases. The right people will think it's cool/cute/funny and they'll trust you more out of the gate.



    Well people are busy man, especially in bigger cities (st. louis is one of em) you just have to learn to go with the flow. They want to be your friend but they don't make time for you unless they see a point. Act like it doesn't get to you, and you'll have tons of people trying to hang out with you all the time.
     
  15. ghettogong

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    respect 4 taking the step to the us. May i ask where in US u stay and where from EU you are?
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