I kinda feel like a loser, and don't know how to escape the mindset.

AutomationIsKey

AutomationIsKey

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Hello, first I am going to state that my opinions of myself are not directed as a means of self-hatred but more a means of attempt to overcome whatever shit is going on inside my head. For the last few years I have been automating various things to earn passive income via CPA marketing. I've gotten a few successful adventures, and a few not so successful adventures. However - I feel all around I have almost lost my passion for creating content online, I've joined the mass majority of people and simply dwell in my thoughts instead of ever executing. I hate being like this, I remember when I first started I would attempt, attempt, attempt, and attempt again various websites, fine tune, and grow my websites.

Now I can't even be bothered to launch a website, I can't even be bothered to attempt to grow a website from scratch, or try and compete with all of the other people doing my same idea, even if I factually know I can do it better.

How do I get back to my old thought process? How do I get out of this multiple year long stage of fatigue? I am fully understanding that if I want to achieve shit I have to work hard and stop expecting instant results, but my mind literally doesn't even let me try anymore. I have ADHD / and I am not utilizing this as an excuse for my thinking, because many of people have found success in their goals while struggling the same battle I am struggling with ADHD, these are things that are wrong with my thinking.

I am begging someone to help me, I know someone here has experience with this
 
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Sometimes in these situations its best to talk with your doctor and get some checkups done. Maybe you have an underlying issue that is causing this brainfog, fatigue etc. - I am currently in a similar situation as you and have the same problems. But just saying "fuck it" and trying to overcome it sometimes is not enough. When there is a barrier in your head, its very hard to get over it, and even when you are over it, it does not seem enjoyable. Thats why i suggest you get your health checked in first, including bloodwork (Testing for Low Testosterone, etc.)
 
Heiko said:
Sometimes in these situations its best to talk with your doctor and get some checkups done. Maybe you have an underlying issue that is causing this brainfog, fatigue etc. - I am currently in a similar situation as you and have the same problems. But just saying "fuck it" and trying to overcome it sometimes is not enough. When there is a barrier in your head, its very hard to get over it, and even when you are over it, it does not seem enjoyable. Thats why i suggest you get your health checked in first, including bloodwork (Testing for Low Testosterone, etc.)
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Here in Asia, if we open up this issue with our parents. They will tell us we need some spanking. :D
 
You have to rewire your brain. Analyze your daily behavior and habits, observe what distracts you and gives you this fatigue...and then simply remove these obstacles.

I had the situation where I would get up in the morning and open Facebook or Twitter. Guess what I did? I just deleted those apps.
Then I was in the situation, where I would watch YouTubers, etc., guess what? I don't watch them anymore.

Instead, I wake up every morning, I make a plan what I am going to do and I execute this plan as efficient as possible.
 
Start a site you enjoy, not just something you do for money. Write articles you find useful for you.
 
I was that much focused on work and $ that I forgot about my health, and I'll be short with this, but this helped me:

Go out more, even for a walk (having a dog really helped me, I just make their walks longer and we both enjoyed it).
Take a day or two to get along with other people face to face. Even if you don't have friends - just go to the bar.
Forget about family's and friends' problems - focus on yourself - don't be distracted and be selfish.
 
Exchanger said:
Start a site you enjoy, not just something you do for money. Write articles you find useful for you.
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This was what I thought about for the longest time, what do I even enjoy? The most enjoyment I've had in IM has been in automation, I've actually barely even touched the SEO side of things in years. The last time I attempted was a half automated attempt at Mp3 Download niche, which was generating me a very good amount of views at the time (2016-2019) but wasn't very profitable due to DMCA complaints constantly taking down the domains.

I have interest, in hobbies such as gardening, sewing, fishing, fish keeping and other things, and I feel starting a blog for those type of things would severely interest me if I was to take it seriously, but my mind just gives up before it even starts. It's like I can get to the point of doing all the keyword research, I can get articles typed, I can flesh an entire website out with a custom theme, and I just give up.

Maybe I should just take one of these hobbies I care about, and make a topical blog for the subject, and even if it doesn't do well at least I can learn more about consistency, routine, focusing and schedules.
 
AutomationIsKey said:
This was what I thought about for the longest time, what do I even enjoy? The most enjoyment I've had in IM has been in automation, I've actually barely even touched the SEO side of things in years. The last time I attempted was a half automated attempt at Mp3 Download niche, which was generating me a very good amount of views at the time (2016-2019) but wasn't very profitable due to DMCA complaints constantly taking down the domains.

I have interest, in hobbies such as gardening, sewing, fishing, fish keeping and other things, and I feel starting a blog for those type of things would severely interest me if I was to take it seriously, but my mind just gives up before it even starts. It's like I can get to the point of doing all the keyword research, I can get articles typed, I can flesh an entire website out with a custom theme, and I just give up.

Maybe I should just take one of these hobbies I care about, and make a topical blog for the subject, and even if it doesn't do well at least I can learn more about consistency, routine, focusing and schedules.
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If you can't find the motivation to do it for you, maybe find some reason to do it for others? Or ask others what they need help with and build a site on this.
 
Exchanger said:
If you can't find the motivation to do it for you, maybe find some reason to do it for others? Or ask others what they need help with and build a site on this.
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So you’re saying I should utilize my ability to automate as a service? I’ve freelanced and done this previously but never fully committed to the client -> developer relationship.

Thank you everyone who’s responded so far, I’m sure I just need to get the fog out of my head.

nakamura said:
You have to rewire your brain. Analyze your daily behavior and habits, observe what distracts you and gives you this fatigue...and then simply remove these obstacles.

I had the situation where I would get up in the morning and open Facebook or Twitter. Guess what I did? I just deleted those apps.
Then I was in the situation, where I would watch YouTubers, etc., guess what? I don't watch them anymore.

Instead, I wake up every morning, I make a plan what I am going to do and I execute this plan as efficient as possible.
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I feel like this is a case of far easier said than done, I of course have some awful vices, I’ve cut out gaming almost entirely from my life as it’s made me complacently lazy.

I have sometimes a hard time finding motivation to get out of bed and begin working on a task, no matter how excited I am for that task, for example last week I was building something in the garage that required some carpentry skills, I learned and learned and for the first few days I enjoyed it so much, and then right towards the completion of the task, I fatigued and hit a stand still.

I’ve since completed the task, but this mental blockage is not uncommon for me, I think in my case I need to seek a doctor at least for a better understanding of what the heck is going on.
 
Embrace masculinity, go to the gym, stop masturbating (if you do), network with other high caliber people (social relationships are very important, stay around people that can add value to your business/life), get some steps in the morning or betweek work tasks, get in contact with nature (espcially water), meditate and reflect alone.
It seems bullshit, but I've been thorugh your situation, and try to re-discover yourself helps you.
 
You sound depressed, have you considered visiting a psychotherapist and just letting him/her know about your feelings? I know that helped me out during tough times.
 
ScribScribScrib said:
You sound depressed, have you considered visiting a psychotherapist and just letting him/her know about your feelings? I know that helped me out during tough times.
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I’ve considered this a few times, my girlfriend has heavily recommended that I visit someone like this as my mental health over the last couple years has most definitely taken a decline.

I have a hard time identifying these things are I have minimal morality, and minimal feelings of any capacity (I almost never feel anything) which makes it even harder for me to get things done that I’d like.

The recommendation of re-wiring my brain seems to be the most obvious, but how I achieve that without seeking help seems rather impossible.
 
AutomationIsKey said:
I’ve considered this a few times, my girlfriend has heavily recommended that I visit someone like this as my mental health over the last couple years has most definitely taken a decline.

I have a hard time identifying these things are I have minimal morality, and minimal feelings of any capacity (I almost never feel anything) which makes it even harder for me to get things done that I’d like.

The recommendation of re-wiring my brain seems to be the most obvious, but how I achieve that without seeking help seems rather impossible.
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Exactly, that's why you should consider professional help. I used to go years without it and my behavior was outrageous, turns out I have bipolar and with the proper meds, I'm now a functioning member of society. Good luck bro.
 
AutomationIsKey said:
I’ve considered this a few times, my girlfriend has heavily recommended that I visit someone like this as my mental health over the last couple years has most definitely taken a decline.

I have a hard time identifying these things are I have minimal morality, and minimal feelings of any capacity (I almost never feel anything) which makes it even harder for me to get things done that I’d like.

The recommendation of re-wiring my brain seems to be the most obvious, but how I achieve that without seeking help seems rather impossible.
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Sometimes people just need a little bit of help from the outside, whether that is from medication or a therapy. If you feel like it is getting worse over time and you have already tried things, then you can be sure that its probably not gonna bet better in the future without any outside help. And theres no shame in that either.
 
No matter what we say, It's you who have to pick you up yourself and walk. you have to process and organize your thoughts and be positive.

Where there is will, there is way!!!!

Cheer up mate!
 
AutomationIsKey said:
Hello, first I am going to state that my opinions of myself are not directed as a means of self-hatred but more a means of attempt to overcome whatever shit is going on inside my head. For the last few years I have been automating various things to earn passive income via CPA marketing. I've gotten a few successful adventures, and a few not so successful adventures. However - I feel all around I have almost lost my passion for creating content online, I've joined the mass majority of people and simply dwell in my thoughts instead of ever executing. I hate being like this, I remember when I first started I would attempt, attempt, attempt, and attempt again various websites, fine tune, and grow my websites.

Now I can't even be bothered to launch a website, I can't even be bothered to attempt to grow a website from scratch, or try and compete with all of the other people doing my same idea, even if I factually know I can do it better.

How do I get back to my old thought process? How do I get out of this multiple year long stage of fatigue? I am fully understanding that if I want to achieve shit I have to work hard and stop expecting instant results, but my mind literally doesn't even let me try anymore. I have ADHD / and I am not utilizing this as an excuse for my thinking, because many of people have found success in their goals while struggling the same battle I am struggling with ADHD, these are things that are wrong with my thinking.

I am begging someone to help me, I know someone here has experience with this
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Focus on one thing till you make it work.People fail because they try too many things at the same time.

If you are into CPA marketing,try various CPA methods for at least 6 months.Don't quit.You'll find a winner in this time frame.

The same is true for service providers,product creators and all other type of online businesses.Most of the people fail because they work on something for a week and then jump to something else.In order to achieve big success with any form of online marketing,you need to work on it for at least 6 months.
 
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