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I Don't Get It (Women Are Crazy)

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Needalead, Jun 21, 2012.

  1. Needalead

    Needalead BANNED BANNED

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    This girl likes me and this other person.

    Me? I am the stable, nice guy, who helps when I can, treats her extremely well and helps her with her kids. I work hard & am not addicted to crazy substances.

    Him? Alcoholic, turned crack user, lost his 100k a year job, lives with current significant other who supports him.

    What's wrong with this picture? She wants to be with him because she wants to help him get his life back on track.

    I am so irked and pissed right now at the stupidity of myself for getting myself wrapped into this situation.

    How do you suggest stepping back without hurting her kids.

    I know this isn't a love forum but I just needed to vent.
     
  2. marusia

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    There's not really anything you can do. You cannot control the actions (or emotions) of another person.
     
  3. nathand

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    she's crazy - get out of there man or it'll just drag you down - don't waste your life - move away if you need to
     
  4. CoyoteAssassin

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    Forgot to mention.

    This happened to my brother-in-law a couple months ago. My sister cheated on him and wanted the stable and wild side. The guy she was doing drugs with and sex died from an OD. Guess who she is with now... the (stable) brother-in-law.

    True story. Get out while you can..


    --- Original post below from me ---

    You've come to the right place. Except for marusia, we are all guys who have most likely been in this situation and I'm sure the ladies have as well.

    I'm sure you hate to hurt the kids, but at this point, you have to look out for yourself. Unless you think they are going to be in an abusive relationship, you need to step away while you can see the light. I know it is easier said than done, but if you stick with her, you will be on here later down the road with another issue.

    If a woman is not respecting you for being kind and compassionate, she is not a woman. Find someone who will respect you and show it back. Simple as that!

    PS - While typing this, I was certain that I saw marusia profile winking at me. It's right above me. Not sure if it did or not, but I know some play with their avatars.
     
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  5. ReALeST

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    I suggest u leave her ass:cool:
     
  6. MafiaBoss

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    Seriously Get the fcuk outta there.Run Away to some other country maybe Romania and get a girl.
     
  7. drogon

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    She's obvious;y made her choice. You step back and move on for the sake of everyone!
     
  8. cashnone

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    look dude just sleep with him then she will know its okay to have both.
     
  9. coreygeer

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    All women are crazy and dating is a game to girls.

    Nice guys are desirable but not attractive
    Assholes/White Trash guys attractive but not desirable

    You'll have a much better chance of fucking a girl if you're a douche bag than if you're just a down to earth nice person. She might remember your name and give you a hug at the end of the night but that's it. I was that guy.. for years.. it sucks, not going to lie. If a girl is dragging you along, let go. Don't let her drag you. Pick yourself up and walk away without looking back.

    Hell, if you're in a bar/club/party with a girl and she starts talking to other guy friends or someone else, walk into a different room and start mingling. She will come find you if she likes you.

    Don't let any girl control your emotions, you are in control. Give something but never give everything. Tell her a little bit about yourself but don't let her know everything. Mystery is sexy, use it.

    As a nice guy, you CAN'T compete with guys like that. Do you see why? Have you ever seen a cat trying to catch a string or a laser? As long as it's constantly moving around, they're constantly trying to catch it going nuts over it. "GET THE FUCK OVER HERE!! AHHH!!" What happens the string or laser just lies there or stops? They get bored and walk away. Women do this too. As the nice guy who's the supporting shoulder, you're pretty much a dead string/laser in this scenario.

    This doesn't apply to just her but all men that are nice, sweet, caring and supportive guys. Do you want what's best for them? Sure, but unfortanutely finding a woman who sincerely wants to be with genuine guys like that is one in a million. Every girl says "I just want a sweet guy" and that's right.. they do... as their supportive friends. It's not exciting or attractive to them to date guys like that until they mature and grow older.

    You see so many movies on this. Women turn 30 and all of a sudden their "OH SHIT" timer starts up and they start fucking and dating every guy hoping he'll propose to them. This isn't just in the movies, single women in their 30s go into super crazy mode and are generally extremely easy. If you've ever seen How I met Your Mother, that's the reason Barney doesn't bang 30 year olds.. it's not just a folk tale, it's real.

    As for this girl. You don't have to stop talking to her, but stop being that sensitive, sweet and nice guy if you want to be with her. It doesn't sound like you're on a poontang quest so you'll have to repair the damage you did to your reputation by being that sweet guy.. It's a sad world we live in but douches triumph when it comes to girls generally.
     
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  10. Intruder

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    leave the city for about 15 days and go with friends on a vacation....
    DO NOT CALL or remain in contact with the woman and her kids... this will make her realize your value....

    and as you said she is with other man then she will think less about you... and when you and kids don't remain in contact for 15 days then they'll move on and do something else... visit after 15 days and observe the reactions, if they are happy without you leave them... and if women wants you she will come back to you...

    May be it's best you can do I'm just 19... If I were you I do exactly what I just wrote above....
     
  11. FunkyWaltz

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    The crack user won't get his life back on track. That's a substance even after 20 years sober. You wake up and crave it. You know where to score still and it's that easy. Next thing you know, you're back in jail. <--(Based on true story, fell back on crack, same day in jail) You can't fix an addict for them. They have to want it for themselves, they have to admit to a problem. If anything, she starts smoking it with him. Becomes an unfit mother and it's just all bad news. I lost friends to Methadone, Dalada, etc. They don't change. They steal from their own mothers. You can't trust them around anything. Best way is just put little bits and pieces of distance between you two. Let her know you'll be there when needed, but always value your time over her's. Don't let her make you watch the kids when you could be making money in IM, doing something with yourself other than catching a high everyday. Don't be her doormat though man. No girl is worth that. Relationships are give and take. Give good, receive good.

    If she accepts that crazy. She has that same crazy within her.
     
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  12. hassan_isabad_subar

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    The angle I see right off the bat that only one other person touched upon is this, she has kids and shes willing to put them in harms way to get involved with some dirt bag.
    Maybe if she wasn't two fries short of a happy meal, she'd realize she should be focusing her 'nurturing instincts' on her kids and not some grown ass man with substance issues.
    I'm sorry if I come off as an dick for saying it, but kids always come first.
    As for how you should ease out of the situation, you're aim isn't to hurt the kids. Its not your intention. Talk to her over the phone, and seriously drop the reality of the situation on her friggin head.
    If this dirt bag means more to her than her kids or you, be the man and leave. You tried to resolve it, but its not your job to worry about them if she's going to mess around with crackheads to feel better about herself.
     
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    It sounds as if she's hanging onto you as a backup just in case nothing else works out for her...
     
  14. bouquet

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    A woman like that will never make you a better person, she will never challenge you, and more than likely you will end up carrying her the entire time. Use logic and disregard emotion when making decisions like this, although that is easier said than done obv.
     
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    That's a pretty cool example!
     
  17. jazzc

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    I 'm sorry for the bluntness, but let me translate what she things about this:

    Him? Exciting
    You? Boring

    Sure, you are a secure option, but seems like she 's not a gold-digger.

    Which is a good thing, now you are free to find a woman that actually likes you.
     
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  18. BHPlatinum

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    Surely she's thinking about what is best for her kids though? And I'm pretty sure last time I checked, living with a crackhead wasn't great for kids!

    In all honesty I would say you're best out of it. I was in a relationship until recently, for the first few days I was annoyed at myself for what happened, then I realised all the things that had/would improve now I was single - now I am loving life.

    Right now its all very well that we say this to you but you'll find it hard to believe. It sounds heartless but if the kids aren't yours then you'll have to break away and whatever happens to them is their mothers responsibility! She doesn't want you, then leave it, she'll soon realise her mistake and what she's missing
     
  19. jgeeked

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    Bitches be crazy.

    When a girl is young, her stock price is at its highest, therefor she isn't interested in anything too serious, and wants to have fun.

    As soon as she starts aging, the longer she waits the more it drops. So she is no longer desirable, and that is when you come into the picture my friend. Obviously having a douche bag, loser boyfriend isn't cool anymore at 30, so she needs the nice guy (you) so she can settle down and start thinkng about the future.

    tl;dr - when your young, treat bitches like shit and they will keep coming back for more. Nice guys finish last.
     
  20. Danny1111

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    seems like your the back - up plan and she is never going to get rid of you -- just do enough to keep you slightly interested.

    the one thing about women is as much as you think you really like this one - there is another one who you will like more - but you can't get to that place until you exit this one.

    so as hard as it maybe you gotta do what's right for you and move on - and let her play her games with someone else.

    Hope it works out for you.
     
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