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I can't work, this girl has me upset. Anyone have any advice?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Kyle787, Jun 17, 2011.

  1. Kyle787

    Kyle787 Junior Member

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    So I am mega bored, I've been so depressed over this little thing I have been missing out on doing SEO work for the last 3 days. If anyone has a minute or you're bored too, care to help me out?

    I met this girl, she is super nice. We went out with friends to a bar together, fell asleep on the beach after and have been talking occasionally since. I am in love with her personality, however she seems kind of stubborn. I talk to her friends often and they support me and think we are "Soo cute" together.

    However, she keeps checking her interest towards sloppy guys into pot/drugs and all of that good stuff. She doesn't even drink or sleep around at all. I have never been too much of a lady's man, but I sure am already much much more successful than those other scumbags are.

    Her friends all respect me HIGHLY and they talk to her but they never say it works. They always disapprove with the guy she likes. Is there anything I could do? I have liked her for 4 months now it really makes me sad to see her like this.

    Should I just keep discussing to her friends about it? I could talk to her but I am reluctant as her best friends have already with no luck. I don't know when a good time would be to say something.
     
  2. oxonbeef

    oxonbeef BANNED BANNED

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    I think you should grow some balls and tell her how you feel.
     
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  3. Hierarchy

    Hierarchy Regular Member

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    Just tell her or drop her.. No use in wasting precious time.. You will learn women can be like money.. easy come easy go. When your successful they come easy.. If she has not realized the difference between losers and abuses in comparison to a real boss or CEO she is probably not worth your time.

    Good Luck. :)
     
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  4. philly3

    philly3 Regular Member

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    Tell her how you feel and go from there man. There are sooooo many girls out there.
     
  5. 7878

    7878 Executive VIP Premium Member

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    You lost me right here. :D
     
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    greentitanium Senior Member

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    get her friends not to approve of you.. talk bad about you.
    id say NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY, 75-85% of girls like guys with a bit of darkness to them, a bit of mystery. a rebel. if that just isnt you, then you are just not going to interest this girl and its time to MOVE
     
  7. iwantl00t

    iwantl00t Junior Member

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    lol! :d
     
  8. jb2008

    jb2008 Senior Member

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    I was very excited to read another one of these threads, they are just brilliant.

    But really, HASN'T THIS FORUM TAUGHT YOU ANYTHING?!?!?!?!

    All you have to do is CRY ON HER SHOULDER and she will fall in love with you instantly.

    Thank me later :)
     
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  9. quicknrandom

    quicknrandom Regular Member

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    shake my head... if you arent going to take action then put your head down and do some SEO work. No sense in wasting your time
     
  10. BH_Manic

    BH_Manic Junior Member

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    look at my avatar! lol!:D

    On a serious note, just tell her about everything and wait for her response..
    This is all you can do I guess.
     
  11. timothywcrane

    timothywcrane Power Member

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    Your a "FRIEND" Uckk! Just relax and get used to the fact and choose another girl, but present yourself to get in "the zone", not "the friend zone". If you need tips on how to do this, drop me a line sometime.
     
  12. dvdgangster

    dvdgangster Junior Member

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    Guy that licks arse with all her friends and puts down anyone she likes, you'll go far:rolleyes:
     
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    tonlilaz Executive VIP Premium Member

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  14. Kikerinka

    Kikerinka Senior Member

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    Girl always f*ck everything up. There was a time when I was making a very decent amount of money in recruiting business. Then I fell in love and all I was doing was spending 24/7 with the girl... I had enough money, so no need to work I thought... but all of the sudden the business slipped out of my control, and many things with it... I mean... when you are in love, you don't see things real. Firstly build a residual income, then there will be enough time for girls. Remember that sentence.
     
  15. Subsonic

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    Nice guys finish last and it's a fact.. She's obviously looking for an adventure and you should give her some! There's also a big possibility that she currently thinks of you as a good friend. There's not much difference between good friends and lovers really. You would really benefit from studying some PUA stuff (Pickup Artist). Some of it is overrated crap but you'll find lots of good stuff too.

    As some people here suggested you might of course tell her about your feelings but if you want to be HARDCORE you could learn some cool stuff about women and how they feel, think and act. First I would suggest you to read something like this:

    The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women
    The Truth About Women
    What's Women Hate Most

    Please notice that I've no affiliation to these sites. I've been reading PUA e-books, watching seminars and other stuff for a long time but it's not too easy to find good free (and legal) material from the Internet :)

    Edit: LOL, it looks like I'm trying to lick some ass here.. I'm just interested in the topic so hopefully this helps someone :D
     
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  16. thxflash

    thxflash Power Member

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    +1 for balls. Sometimes you just have to say it to her without going through her friends. It works a lot better that way ;)
     
  17. pkalico

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    Someone else mentioned on a similar thread this site:

    http://laddertheory.com

    From what you've described, you've been put on the wrong ladder. Time to move on...
     
  18. KeyzDT

    KeyzDT Power Member

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    yes. stop "passing notes" to her friends and confront the issue BHW style and take action.
     
  19. SweTech

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    Be a man, grow some balls and tell her how you feel.

    You only regret the things you never did. I just asked a nice 18-year old girl out in front of her mum 10 min efter I´ve met (seen) her on the train (I am 27). I have a date with her on Sunday, beautiful even with Swedish standards.

    Lesson - don´t be afraid, that will take you nowhere.

    Best of luck 2 u
     
  20. best4life

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    Yup. I'm getting over a girl right now. Its hard, but I just bury myself in work. Learning new techniques on the forum is helping. Plus, I'm trying to learn a very difficult guitar lick while reading through!