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How Would You Deal With Negative People in Your Life That You Can't Avoid?

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  1. lostpassword

    lostpassword Junior Member

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    How Would You Deal With Negative People in Your Life That You Can't Avoid?
     
  2. macdonjo3

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    How would you, or how do you? I think everybody has some people like this. However, I think there probably is a way to avoid the person.
     
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    Nothing pisses these people off more than positivity and optimism. Kill em with kindness.
     
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  4. Sprouts

    Sprouts Regular Member

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    You don't have to deal with them if they're not there.

    Nomsayin?

    inb4 OP kills anyone.
     
  5. SaraJ

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    I guess I'd need an example to understand why you can't simply avoid them.
     
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    d4l1t0s Power Member

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    You just put a mask on when you see them , let them talk and don t listen to them , yes let them tell you that the system is fucked , and the taxes are high and no matter how much you work you will never be rich , and at the end of day just do what you think it is right .
     
  7. Black.Star

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    Love and tolerate the shit out of them ;)
     
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    You have to determine if you want to live a life of opulence or not. Others don't determine your well being. Noone is going to give you the super star treatment like you will for yourself. Don't give others your power. Brush it off your shoulders, smile inside, and, say to yourself, "I am the best, I know it, and, that is all that matters in my perception.

    Don't do your inner voice a disservice.

    "Others can't see me nose bleed seats"-:D
     
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  9. LAnthanum

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    Stay anchored with a smile on your face and plough through all their bs. Arrange your thoughts so it becomes natural and sincere, just default. Nobody can mess up how you feel if your state of mind does not let it happen.
     
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    Use your built in R.A.S ( reticular activating system) It determines what you focus on, once trained the negativity won't be heard, literally! You won't even be able to process it.
     
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    Wealthy Wisdom Power Member

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    ^^^ LOL

    I have a very negative person in my life that I've known since I was 11. He got shot and survived but gets money from the state but tries to talk shit about me because I'm in college and I'm constantly on the laptop grinding while he's spending his stupid 1k a month on his p.o.s motorcycle and weed.... still at his moms house... has a kid... no job... no school...

    he lives on the same block so I see him almost everyday and he shakes his head at me and speeds his motorcycle... dude is the biggest kid alive... I was hanging out with one of his friends (well he's sorta my friend too) and he called him up and yelled at him because he was at my house kicking it with me.... can you say drama queen ??

    I can't wait till I start making the big bucks so he can see that he will never be in my shoes and be able to do what I do... my haters are my motivators!
     
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    I would remind myself that some people don't know any better and was mis informed that's why they are so negative. I understand your situation its hard to be positive when people try to shoot down your dreams. I think Most of the people here on BHW are in the same boat. People don't understand our way life of or have absent of logical thinking.It hurts sometimes but keep your head up you will get there. We all will one day.
     
  14. IamNRE

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    I recently downloaded "how to deal with difficult people" its a audio book you can get from piratebay....

    Check it out, might be useful.
     
  15. neeganate

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    Crush them, with your success.
     
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    Tell them that you have started to hear voices inside your head that keeps telling you to kill them all. They'll keep a wide berth from you for a little while.
     
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    eventually, they will go away, but I find it difficult to find motivation in fighting people who want to destroy you. I had that twice in my life when resourceful competitors tried to finish me off by filing new law suits against me just for the sake of destracting me from business. Impossible to ignore and smile. After 20 years one of them is broke and sick. The other one is rich and sick. I am still in good health. Makes me grin.

    While I was in the middle of fights years ago, a friend of mine said to me 'don't worry: what goes around comes around'. He was right. Great.
     
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    Here's what I did to some of my classmates.

    When I was walking and cross paths with them on streets. One of the classmate started bullying saying - "Look at you, how much you earn dude, hows your life, drinking alcohol, how many kids you have" and all the insults meant for me based on my appearance and from what he heard about me in past with no truth but just to make sarcastic remarks.

    So i just took deep breathe and said -" You earn 5,00,000 per year, you have wife, kids and everything that I don't have right?, You know what I have got? I have become strong enough not to stop my classmate in middle of the road and make insults based on their lifes failure or success, afterall, I have not ran away with the wives of people who are insulting me, right? So here is 100 bucks bills, every time you see people less successful people than yourself and feel like insulting them with your wit and worm inside your behind, just use this money to buy yourself a banana, and suck it, It is much healthier than attacking people who are less successful than you". I can't imagine I said that after settling in few hours. lol.

    Reaction on his face, priceless. ;)
     
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    Hire a hitman obviously!

    What can I say, I'm a job creator.
     
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    just keep smiling...