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How We Stay Motivated - & (eventually) Earn Our Millions!

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Windmill, Jul 10, 2012.

  1. Windmill

    Windmill Supreme Member

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    We Are On Our Own

    Internet Marketing is a bit of a lonely road, isn't it? There is no one to tell us when to get up. There is no one to tell us what to do. We don't have the pressures of shareholders or a boss breathing down our necks. Not only do we have to direct ourselves, we have to figure out how it works too! We can't go to college or university and study how to be a surgeon, how to be an engineer or how to be an accountant. There is no one to help us. We only have each other, and even though we have each other, we are in direct competition with each other. Plus, we all have had differing experiences, since we are running at least partially blind - so we hear conflicting information and opinions all the time. I can't help but think Internet Marketing is for the insane. But for some of us, it is the road we have decided to travel, and for all sorts of reasons (the flexiblity, the huge potential, for some the solitude, for some they are making good money, etc etc). But how do we stay motivated, when we have these insane pressures on ourselves? I think it will always be a struggle. Here are my ways of pushing myself, feel free to share yours.

    1. Remembering That There Are No Failures

    One of the things that can demotivate me fast is thinking about the fact that what I am about to embark upon is likely to fail. It is true. It is very very very rarely going to live up to my hopes and dreams. I just am not going to make $10,000 a month in 3 months in my offline consulting business, no matter what some threads on here might say. Maybe the OP's are. But that chances are, its not going to work like that. So, what do I do? I remember that as long as I put effort into what I do, it is never a failure.

    For example, lets say you decided to create an e-commerce store. So you create it, and try to SEO it. Then it gets deindexed by Google. D'oh! You are probably not going to make any money now. So, was it a money sink? Did you waste your time and money? As long as you put effort into the project, I say that you should view it as building up an asset for the future, both internal and external. You can use that e-commerce store as a reference on a CV if you want and talk it up - making it an external asset. Employers will be very impressed, and you don't need to tell them how much money you've made (none). You will also gain new insights, new ideas and you will learn crucial information about what doesn't work, making it an internal asset. You always gain from failures where you have tried your best. Which leads me to my next point...

    2. Remembering That Without "Failures", You Won't Succeed

    Through the failures, I remember another thing to stay motivated; "failures" are necessary to be successful. When you fail, you WILL gain new insights, new information and you will gain new experiences. With these, you can go and try again with more information under your belt. These experiences/information/insights give you a greater chance of succeeding again. And if you fail again, you will continue to build your knowledge and understanding base, until one day you WILL succeed.

    You see, most people decide they are going to fail from the very start and they choose to not pursue it. Instead of creating a adsense microsite, they will instead choose to play video games. In a month, you might have created an adsense site and it failed; while your friend got lots of good gaming hours in and had fun. He would probably feel chuffed; you spent your hours slogging away at work while he enjoyed himself. But what he doesn't realise, is that at the end of that month you learnt new skills, you likely made new contacts and you gained new understandings/insights. What has he gained? Nothing. He stayed the same. You grew. In two years time he will still be the same, but you will have grown immensly. And he will look to you when you crack it and wonder why you are so lucky to be so intelligent/successful/lucky. The truth is, you probably aren't hugely talented, nor lucky. The reason you succeeded was because you weren't afraid of failure and you saw it as a chance to grow. I always keep this in mind, and it at least keeps me motivated.

    3. Have People You Love

    I find that a great motivator is working towards helping people that I love. Wanting to buy a car, yeah that just doesn't cut it for me. But wanting to buy a car so that I can use it to help someone that I love? Now you are talking. Personally, when I feel demotivated, a great way to get motivated again is to think about being able to financially help the people that I love, and so I keep plugging.

    So... how do you stay motivated? :)
     
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    refjaf55 Regular Member

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    I stay motivated by reading posts like yours. :D

    ....oh yea, and so I don't have to get a real job in my future.
     
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    darkrache Junior Member Premium Member

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    Ah yes! A wonderful inspirational thread! Just what people need when they can't accomplish what they want. Instead of posting on threads saying "I can't make any money, help!", they should come read this post. It's a must read for anyone who doesn't realize that good things take time.

    Cheers, and thanks for your great post :) It's truly inspirational.
     
  4. Windmill

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    Haha, thank you :)

    But yes, that is another big motivator! Not having a "real job" :D ultimate IM dream.

    Thank you! Yes, things take time is another thing I remember. On the internet, everything usually is instant... instant knowledge, instant gratification. But, in a strange twist, IM is NOT instant. You don't often get "instant results". Sometimes you do, and when I do I treasure those successes. But otherwise, no, I have to work. But my work has paid off. I now have relationships for instance with web developers that I built over a year ago, and they feed me new clients for my offline consulting. If I had been discouraged from my "failures" a year ago when I went around to developers, I would never have what I have now! :)
     
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    I don't want to jinx it, but I think this thread is going to become very big. We shall see....

    I personally think that it should be a sticky on the top of this section.
     
  6. Windmill

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    Oh wow, that is very nice of you! The chances are it won't but if people appreciate my post that makes me happy, because I really love sharing with people my thoughts on "failure" :)

    What inspired me to make this thread was I was on a road trip with friends. We were talking about how at school, we were never really challenged for the real world. Now a lot of my friends have left university/college and are struggling to find jobs and opportunities. Whereas, I never had much of a problem. When I first tried to enter the workforce, I failed immensly. But unlike most of my friends, I didn't get demotivated and scared to try new things. My failure in getting simple jobs made me decide to get an even better job. So I sat down, and thought about why I had failed. I came up with the following things:

    1. My CV lacked relevant work experience - I lacked work experience full stop, actually.
    2. I was handing in a generic CV, and that was never going to impress anyone.

    So I gave up trying to get a job in a retail store, and decided to try for a marketing internship. I knew I lacked relevant work experience, and I learned that that was causing me to lose out on interviews. So, when you don't have it... you CREATE it! I took my websites I had made, I polished them up and I talked them up. I then created two CV's, each unique for the two marketing jobs I decided to apply for. I homed it for the ads. Low and behold, I got the first job! (And by the time I was offered that job, the other had just closed applications and asked me in for an interview).

    The reason I got a job IMHO was because I tried, I failed, by failing I learned why I did... and so I fixed what was wrong :)
     
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    Great info. I know exactly where you are coming from the the whole university/college experience and how it feels like it doesn't get us ready for the real world. I am on summer break right now from college and I feel as if I have learned more in the past 2 weeks just by reading this forum, then I did in the entire 2 semesters of college. It is tough to stay motivated in school when I have BHW University on my computer for FREE!
     
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    My Motivation

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    My motivations come for the achievements from the small things I accomplish through the long road I'm racing on. I have big ambitions and the road for it is a very long and wide, but the key to keep motivated throughout the whole path is the excitement I feel from every step I succeed. If I succeed with one step, -- I know I can succeed with another one, too.

    If you focus on succeeding the whole road at once and you fail at this attempt, it will be much harder for you to rearrange the entire thing and proceed on your path.

    However, if you focus on piece by piece of your goal you'll have a clear understanding of what you are doing, even if you fail, you'll be able to assess the situation and proceed, consciously.

    Every big thing is made by small things; it's pretty much the 'separate and conquer' theory.
     
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    Grate post . . . . .Honestly I'm one of those people that procrastinates all the time . I think its because I'm not yet confident at what I'm doing despite all the years I spent learning and buying tools and testing . I'm a perfectionist and I feel as though I need to know "EVERY THING " before I get confident . Thanks again for the post , instead of doing all this reading I think I'm going to devote more time actually doing more work. +1 rep
     
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    Nice post. I've always liked motivational speeches, and this is a motivational speech about motivation. Thanks and rep given :D
     
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    When you feel like procrastinating, just think about the big picture and keep on grinding.
     
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    nice post thumbs up.You have talked good points which are 100% true and helps us motivated .I have learned a lot from my failures
     
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    I definitely related to what you're saying, personally i would make this post sticky! Cheers, great thread!
     
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    dude you motivate me and others here.. thanks for posting this wonderful information.. this will keep me going. you rock man..!!!
     
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    Congratulations to the OP, one of the most interesting and motivating posts I've read in BHW.
    It's GREAT to be part of this community... I wish I had friends with such a mentality in real life too :D
     
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    ;) :D Thank you, I appreciate your kind words :)

    Initially my post had 5 points. Then I looked at it... and it made my list long :p one of the things that works for me is this too. Like, without breaking something into smaller steps, I find it very overwhelming. So its breaking it up into small steps and very small tasks to perform, performing those and then going onto the next thing.
     
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    Thanks, this motivational speech is just what I needed. Now I need to get some work done!
     
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    Yeah, same =/ :p motivational speeches are great and all. But I have this massive project (OK... not actually massive... just massive for me) that I've been working on for 2 months. There is so much to do for it. Some nights its super hard to motivate myself to do it. I've found that locking myself in a library or a cafe with a laptop helps me work on it.
     
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    Thumbs up OP. That is really a great post about motivation. Well whenever I got demotivated I watch this . BTW OP you have to start some thread about productivity, I am facing big problem of productivity now a days.
     
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