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How to live with stupid people?

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  1. The Universe Legend

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    Hi BHW,

    I just wanted to know how you are dealing with stupid people you have in your life. Those people who just make you angry, maybe in your work, or in your home... Idk

    If someone makes you angry, what should you do? Just ignore him or try to change him...

    Any ideas..?
     
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    have all those that dont have a positive impact on your life out of it
     
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    Don't try to change them, you most often won't succeed and just end up winding yourself up (personal experience)

    Honestly just try to distance yourself where possible, remove or ignore
     
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    @The Universe Legend - The best thing you can do with negative people is to simply avoid and ignore them. Trying to change them will cost you even more energy and there is little chance that you will succeed. So, just remove the people who bring negativity in your life and make yourself a better time.

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    Thought it was just me. I 100% absolutely fucking despise dumb fucks. The minute they open their dumb fuck mouth I feel my blood boiling. I think it's because I can't begin to understand just how fucking stupid some people can be.
     
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    You can't change someone who is not willing to change, I say, just create boundaries.
     
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    Put down your Mirror. If someone is able to upset you, then that is power you've allowed them to have over your mindset. Don't give anyone that power. Rather, see them for who and what they are. If you can create distance, then do that. If not, just understand that you have control over how you react to fuckery.
     
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    I bought a $150 pair of headset so I don't have to listen to them or even talk to them like 90% of the time.
    The 10% of the time I am drunk so I don't talk just drink and laugh as well.

    Case closed lmao
     
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    Literally I just stay in my room and watch netflix and work with a tumbler of bourbon and amaretto.
     
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    Sometimes they are the people working with you in IM. Or sometimes, even people living with you in your home.
    That's the best way but it's not possible always. Sometimes you are obliged to deal with them even if you don't want to see their faces.
    That's true, trying to change them is a bad idea as it is impossible to do that. But also, sometimes you just can't remove them from your life.
    But sometimes they can be living with you, working with you and it is almost impossible to ignore them.
    I have the same problem, I always try to keep calm but I don't know how they can make me angry.
    That's true
    I tried to do that, but I started to lose control. Last week someone just tried to make me angry and tried to keep calm, but after 2min I gave him a punch on the face.
    And even when I tried to keep calm and not to get angry, I feel that I'm depressed and I should express my feelings and not just ignoring them.
    Sadly, sometimes I'm obliged to talk or to engage to some stupid people that's the problem. Also, I'm not using alchohol or drugs so I have no choice to forget about things...
    There another case, I don't think this is an effective way if they're living with you.
     
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    In case they are living with you, get a different apartment. In case they are working with you, get a different job. Not sure what other options you have tbh since this seems to bother you.
     
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    Thanks for the suggestion, as it seems the only solution. I tried to understand them and why they are acting like that, but I can't understand. So it's better to leave..
     
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    Mostly they are acting like that because they are super frustrated with their life. Unsuccessful, no love, no partner, maybe some mental problems, the list goes on. Let me give you a clear example: If someone fails in a certain thing, they will try to tell you that you also can't do it and you will fail as well. But the truth is different, you CAN do it and you will succeed, just believe in yourself. Hope you got my point buddy, good luck to you!
     
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    I got it! And thank you ♡
     
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    You welcome man, sometimes we just need to make a move and go for a change. Looks like you have a new to-do list. ;)
     
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    Exactly, I'm actually creating new plans to change the situation instead of getting angry... I'll leave those people soon.. Thanks..
     
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    @Finn told it all the way, but I would just add:

    1) Build your own space, so you live on your own.
    2) Develop your passion, all the way, stay focused.
    3) Never turn your back to nobody, show them nothing but pure love, help them, no matter of who they are, and what they done or wish to you.

    Achieved experience will be priceless.
     
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    Hey man. Refind the love that got you into IM in the first place. Once you find that it effects you less. Take it from me, I've been super frustrated with everybody at times, people who didn't believe I had it in me to be successful. Use that anger and convert it into positive energy to succeed. Don't even react to them, that gives them pleasure that you reacted. Your only reaction should be a drive deep down to stick the middle fucking finger up at them but at the same time kill them with kindness. That hurts way more.
     
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    Thank youuu. That's what I'll try to do .. I won't even react to them and I'll focus in my personal life and in my work...
     
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