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How to help out a younger brother?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by ShadeDream, Jan 17, 2014.

  1. ShadeDream

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    As an older brother I sometimes worry and wonder whether to help out or let him find his own way. I've recently seen this book called "Raspberry Pi for Kids" and was thinking of getting it. Then I came across Kano which looks amazing but isn't open to the public just yet, there's a waiting list.

    As you can see my mind is a bit all over the place but I was wondering if any of you have any advice, preferably someone with some life experience and not just opinions, on how to help and if to help out a younger brother. I'm not going to get too personal here so I can say that he's over 5 but under 10. I was wondering maybe I could get something like Kano which could be interesting to him and could potentially get him interested in programming or computing in general, rather than just have him play games?

    But then again I don't want to lead him, I want him to find out and do what he wants to do rather than just pushing him to do things. He's still very young but surely things would be easier for him later. I've also heard this saying that to help others help yourself. What can you do if you're in no better position?
     
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    As the youngest of multiple brothers and sisters I'll give you some advice.

    Whatever your little brother does support him. Even if it's programming or sports or something else. I think it's a good idea to introduce him into programming or something along those lines. You don't have to force him, maybe get him some sort of kit and let him dive into that. He either gets hooked on it or doesn't, support him either way.

    One of my older siblings actually introduced me to computers. He helped me
    build my first computer and ever since then I've been into even bigger things like programming and graphic design. Maybe team up with him and build a computer or program something.

    If you have any other questions you can PM me. I'll be happy to give a "younger brother" perspective.
     
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  3. Admirus

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    Buy him legos! it will help him free his imagination ( if it is a correct phrase to use). It will also help him plan, build find ways to make whatever he builds look better. I am suggesting this because legos are both educative and fun to play with. I started playing with these when I was around his age too
     
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    I completely agree with Admirus. Legos will work wonders. He'll learn a lot of things from Legos. I started building computers when I was building Legos. It's sort of a gateway thing. Lol
     
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    throw his ass in a boxing gym, he will learn alot of good qualities, discipline, dedication, hardwork and a good skill to have. dude he aint even 10 yet stop trying to mold him into some super nerd.
     
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    definitely buy him a basic laptop.. start teaching him how to read and speak fluently after that introduce him the internet marketing world.. tell him if he wants to buy toys he can buy one if he works online and when you got his interest start teaching him how to make VB.NET applications like cartoons application when he click buttons messagebox will appear etc. :)

    BTW just a suggestion :)
     
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  7. ShadeDream

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    He's got those, usually wants my help to build them up and ever since trying out Minecraft he hasn't really looked back much. It's kind of hard to pull him out of it. It's like even when he doesn't play it because his time has run out or he's not allowed too, he can't stop thinking about Minecraft and doesn't find much interest in other things. Not sure that this is any good for him. The fact that his friends play or know about Minecraft, doesn't exactly help either.
     
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    That's the last thing I want, but then again before you know it he'll be 20.

    Will have to think about this one. It's just that I've got no clue how to start him of and as above the last thing I want is to mold him into a geek.
     
  9. Admirus

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    Hm.. Try challenging him! Tell him that if he wants to play minecraft, he first has to build something on legos! Get him to do that once a week. You could also tell him to build something based on a theme. For example, 1st week build a car, 2nd week build a plane, etc.
    Also tell him that playing with legos, could make him better at minecraft.
    Btw, you are lucky he is not playing League of legends! I have seen kids around his age that spend hours per day playing LoL and nothing else
     
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    ShadeDream how old are you? you can just give a rough idea if you want.

    a lot of the stuff you're saying reminds me of my friends with younger siblings.

    my advice would be not going out of your way to influence him at that age... he's super young. just let him be until hes a teenager and then you could introduce him to IM or whatever.
     
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    I'm 21. I've been wondering whether I sometimes worry too much. I definitely don't want to influence him because I want him to find his own interests but at the same time he seems to really look up to me, so he's always interested in whatever I do. Also, I don't want him to just play games and since we hardly spend any time together I'd like to change that a bit but because I am the person I am I seem to have nothing better to do than to try and do something that will help him learn something. The thing is his focus as well as patience is rather low, so I end up not being bothered but at the same time bothered about it too. I need some sleep, hopefully not talking too much nonsense.
     
  12. Amsterdammer

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    I think it's a phase, he will grow out of it. He is also not you, and won't be you. Perhaps you could make him something he needs/likes (with room for improvement but usable) and tell him to do it himself when he returns for more, with your help of course. Either he bites or he doesn't, in a year or two you try again. Let him see the need and once he does support him in whatever interest he has, be it building, SEO, coding or whatever.
    Restricting him will only make him more focused on what he can't have and it is pointless as he will change most of his interests rapidly in the coming years, especially once he reaches 12/14. Kids should be allowed to stay kids.
     
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    I have a little nephew who I look at very much in the same way. He's an only child, and I always call him my "little bro". He's into Lego's and loves them. I can just sit there and watch him sometimes, it's really cool just watching him build stuff. I worry sometimes too about whether or not he's on the right path, or if there's something I can do to instigate some interest in something else maybe, but I try and remind myself of what I was doing at his age and just encourage him to always be creative and not be afraid to try new things. I love the little dude a lot and just want to see him grow up as happy and intelligent as possible.
     
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    I'm a younger brother to my older sister. I can speak from the other end of the spectrum here.
    When I was that age, I remember being certain what I wanted to be...and then changing that days later like ALL children do. I'd play video games for hours but played with my friends equally outside (usually re-enacting games/movies). Come the age of 10 I got a mini Casio keyboard from a thriftstore and fell in love. Years went by and now I manage a group of composers generating music for games and movies. I'm 21 too. (my hands are full haha)

    My point is; letting things happen is just as important as teaching them the basics + using their imagination. Let life guide him too, after all, look where it guided you.
     
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