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How to find friends ?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by aasas, Dec 26, 2011.

  1. aasas

    aasas Senior Member

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    Hello please help me i come in other city and i don't know how i can find friends so please tell me , i don't wona find girlfriend if I would like to find girlfriend i going to club and drunked but now i need find some friends.
    I'm men 20 years old
    Thanks
     
  2. VanillaH

    VanillaH Regular Member

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    Find me silly, but before clicking on the thread, I thought that Bartman was the OP. :p

    Finding friends is easy, actually. Take a class in something you like and socialize. Go to bars. Talk to guys/girls in your school or at your job (assuming that you still go to school or that you have a job). What is the problem, exactly?
     
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  3. HoNeYBiRD

    HoNeYBiRD Jr. VIP Jr. VIP

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    why do you even need friends when there's Google?
    HTML:
    http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/how-to-make-a-bunch-of-new-friends-in-any-new-city.html
    http://www.ehow.com/how_2129206_friends-new-city.html
    http://friendship.about.com/od/Meeting-New-Friends/tp/How-To-Make-Friends-In-A-New-City.htm
     
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  4. Black.Star

    Black.Star Junior Member

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    Shut down your PC and go outside
     
  5. farfetchedmoney

    farfetchedmoney Regular Member

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    One way to find friends is to type a legible sentence. If you speak like you type then finding anything will be a tall task.
     
  6. xboxps3wow

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    I wish it was that easy....
    I moved to Chicago 8 years ago and still have 0 friends...
    See, the problem is that I'm not a very sociable person, meaning, I don't go to clubs etc... and for some reason people just don't like me that much.
     
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    AlexaR Junior Member Premium Member

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    He's from Lithuania ;)


    Art galleries! go to a show by local artists and pretend to be interested in their nonsense. Then meet someone who doesn't buy their bullshit and bond for life ;)
     
  8. VanillaH

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    Many people assume that you need to go to clubs if you want friends. But that is so wrong! I am a very introvert person, and yet, I made many friends in the field I work -- teaching.

    And if for some sort of reason, you are unlikeable, you can work on it.
     
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    starcity83 Regular Member

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    Just start accepting all of the invitations that you get to go anywhere. just say yes to everything that you can. Go places and try new things. Sign up for free classes. Go to Craigslist and Backpage and search for community events, go to them. Be yourself and you will make many new friends. Also UI'm sending you a BHW friend request right now!
     
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    There is a service here selling Facebook friends in bulk...



    On a more serious note - Twitter friends are much cheaper!
     
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    ezbnc Newbie

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    Just flash some cash you will have more friends then you can deal with.
     
  12. xboxps3wow

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    Well, if you don't go where people of your age go, it's kind of hard to find friends. I'm 21 and work at a college, so most co-workers are 30+ and have vastly different interests compared to me. (kids, family, etc)

    As for the reason why I'm unlikeable, well.. I could get awkward from time to time, nothing that weird about me.
     
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    Maybe you could try and meet new people in meet up groups. Just do a search for Chicago meet-up groups. It's free to sign up. Everyone is likeable, there are many people that would be rewarded by a friendship with you!
     
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  14. VanillaH

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    Take classes where the people of your age are? You must like something else than IM...

    Honestly, I thought before that people didn't like me, but I realized later on that I couldn't get social clues -- thanks to a friend who made me a reality check. Now, while I'm still very introvert (which is fine by me), I have enough friends to be happy.
     
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  15. aasas

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    outside ant stand wtf i not nerd...
     
  16. xboxps3wow

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    You are great at encouraging people!
    I might try taking more classes that aren't all online :p
     
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    If you wanna make friends forget all the places where you start talking when everybody's drunk because those friendships lasts a few hours and -in general- nobody remembers jack shit abt the night before... Happens all the time :D

    The common advice would be, practice some kind of activity where you have to relate to other ppl like basketball (bottomline maybe skip tennis...), join some circle where you all share the same interests, let's say you dig poker, just look up where you can find some hold'em junkies...

    As a rule of thumb I'd say that if you want to do a little more than just "hanging out" every other week, it's better if you find ppl sharing your interests... Whatever they are. IM is a perfect example of this.

    Last resort. Hit the local strip club, chances are that you're gonna make a lot of buddies... That's an easy interest to have in common ;)
     
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    more offers ?
     
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    Post a photo of you :)
     
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    Man that is some seriously good trolling! +16 is coming your way.

    Unless I forget later when I can rep. people again.

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    OP, I think there is a site out there where people join groups based on location and hobbies. Join it, find people that are blackhatters or what ever you may be into and hang out with them !