1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

how to convince someone that I am a private person?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by theseodude, Sep 5, 2013.

  1. theseodude

    theseodude Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jun 25, 2012
    Messages:
    303
    Likes Received:
    88
    I am a very private person. my own parents don't know what I do. That's how secretive I am. I just dont share anything about my personal life with anyone.

    Right now I have a business opportunity with a group of business people. But every time I go to their office to discuss, they hesitate because they are afraid I am gonna tell the whole world their secrets. every time they tell me "what we are about to tell you, you don't tell anyone" I simply say "ok" then they say a little then I guess they start thinking "this guy is gonna tell"

    is my "ok" not good enough? how should I tell them that I won't share their office secrets with the outside world? if they could just be convinced of that, a lot of doors would open.
     
  2. kinlee

    kinlee Supreme Member

    Joined:
    Sep 10, 2012
    Messages:
    1,250
    Likes Received:
    2,326
    Occupation:
    Full Time Foodie
    Location:
    Dreamland
    That says a lot about your character. For me, I usually don't trust the quiet ones. It's hard to trust someone you don't know.
     
    • Thanks Thanks x 1
  3. GreenGoblin

    GreenGoblin BANNED BANNED

    Joined:
    Jul 17, 2008
    Messages:
    1,493
    Likes Received:
    2,564
    simple, don't try to convince them your a private person.
     
    • Thanks Thanks x 1
  4. srb888

    srb888 Elite Member

    Joined:
    Jul 30, 2008
    Messages:
    3,260
    Likes Received:
    5,067
    Gender:
    Male
    Occupation:
    WebzSurfer
    Location:
    Sun, Mon, Tue, WTF, Sat!!! :)


    This shall convince them...http://www.google.co.in/url?sa=i&source=images&cd=&docid=H5KeXpYdrbG7YM&tbnid=ha3wtzWEELxRIM:&ved=&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.shutterstock.com%2Fpic-63050719%2Fstock-photo-young-business-man-staples-his-mouth-shut.html&ei=dPknUvrjHY-HrAfi7oDwCA&psig=AFQjCNESl5sTu2Uzc78Wa3G1pbTVmtfVKA&ust=1378437876549024




    but don't actually do it though :)
     
    Last edited: Sep 5, 2013
  5. Logician

    Logician BANNED BANNED

    Joined:
    Apr 4, 2013
    Messages:
    584
    Likes Received:
    581
    Definitely not. If you're just saying "ok" you leave the door open for people to make a lot of assumptions about you that you might not necessarily want. Eye contact and body language also says a lot about a person. I would recommend you taking a few communication classes at your local community college if that option is available to you.
     
  6. blah3d

    blah3d Newbie Premium Member

    Joined:
    Sep 17, 2008
    Messages:
    22
    Likes Received:
    12
    Wait a minute.. What is it they are telling you? :D I think we all should know now just incase. lol
     
    • Thanks Thanks x 1
  7. Panther28

    Panther28 Elite Member

    Joined:
    May 2, 2010
    Messages:
    2,268
    Likes Received:
    3,405
    Occupation:
    Internet.
    Location:
    Internet.
    tell them you'll clean the toilets everyday for free to build up a level of trust. And you don't want to know anything until they feel your trustworthy, or you've given at least 10 decent blowjobs to upper management.
     
    • Thanks Thanks x 1
  8. Nigel Farage

    Nigel Farage BANNED BANNED

    Joined:
    Feb 8, 2012
    Messages:
    563
    Likes Received:
    1,495
    I'm an aggressive, obnoxious person. I don't go to meetings to play "let's jack each other off" with a bunch of spineless, gutless pansies. I'm there in the fucking office, and I've come there for a reason. They say, "This information is confidential", etc... and I'm like, "Which part?" And then, if they fuck around and hem and haw I don't waste not one fucking minute, but instead confront the 800 lb. gorilla in the room and say something like "Well, we are either going to have a discussion or we are not, and if we are not then why am I here?"

    And that's that. They either decide to start yapping, or I'm out the door and never to come back, because I don't do business with mealy-mouthed, gutless flakes.

    But it didn't go that way with you, because you don't really believe that you have value, your time has value and that the people you are meeting with are deriving the value of your presence, just because you are there in front of them and you MIGHT say something useful to them.

    And I do feel that, all the way to my toes. I'm doing people a favor just by being "around", to include this post right here. My value is self-evident, and I don't waste time with dumbfucks that don't see it.

    Does YOUR time have value? Do you feel it to your toes? Are you doing people a favor just by being in the same room with them? Or, are you waiting for someone to spontaneously tell you how wonderful you are, as if you didn't know it and they are the 1st people to tell you.

    I think you blew the whole meeting because of this. You aren't a digger. They were waiting for you to start asking probing questions that indicate you have the ability to analyze a situation and start trying to figure out 1) Who they were 2) What they wanted 3) What information they wanted kept private and 4) Why and because you didn't "dig" but instead passively absorbed the request as if it were some kind of general and theoretical concept that you should "keep in mind", instead of a very critical and active component in what was about to evolve into a very complex set of relationship dynamics, they decided that you didn't have "it", and I think they were right. Because here you are centering your post on your self-centered and self-referencing sense of "privacy" (whatever the fuck that means) instead of taking a look at what THEY were, what THEY wanted and why THEY wanted it.

    What the fuck is this "I'm a private person" bullshit anyways. I'm private too, and almost never put my sex organs on display. Big fucking deal. No one hires me and pays me money because I wear pants, HELLO.
     
    • Thanks Thanks x 6
    Last edited: Sep 5, 2013
  9. Ptrick125

    Ptrick125 Regular Member

    Joined:
    Mar 4, 2013
    Messages:
    428
    Likes Received:
    113
    Occupation:
    Going To School
    Location:
    Near Austin, Texas
    Home Page:
    ... That was deep :)

    Posted via Topify using iPhone/iPad
     
  10. HelloInsomnia

    HelloInsomnia Jr. Executive VIP Jr. VIP Premium Member

    Joined:
    Mar 1, 2009
    Messages:
    1,817
    Likes Received:
    2,913
  11. srb888

    srb888 Elite Member

    Joined:
    Jul 30, 2008
    Messages:
    3,260
    Likes Received:
    5,067
    Gender:
    Male
    Occupation:
    WebzSurfer
    Location:
    Sun, Mon, Tue, WTF, Sat!!! :)
    Plain and simple... if you have something big and exclusive including idea/s to sell and them to buy, vice versa, OR you both need to do whatever very important business together, AND ALSO not want to let outsiders know about it, then you all sign a hardcore NDA. Anyone oversteps it, the other/s take him to court of law and sue hard.

    Or you build a long-term business in friendship and trust, both of which are perishables though -- how fast they will sink the business depends on every other thing.


    Anything less than that, it's not actually Business in its proper sense.
     
    Last edited: Sep 5, 2013
  12. The Scarlet Pimp

    The Scarlet Pimp Jr. VIP Jr. VIP Premium Member

    Joined:
    Apr 2, 2008
    Messages:
    788
    Likes Received:
    3,129
    Occupation:
    Chair moistener.
    Location:
    Cyberspace
    that's what contracts are for. i work with celebs and it's not unusual to sign a privacy agreement. outside of that your only option is to build up trust over several years.