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How to ask a girl out?...or at least stop thinking about her.. bhw way?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by sdilan, Jan 13, 2013.

  1. sdilan

    sdilan Regular Member

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    Like the title says .. their is this girl i like, i used to talk to her and stuff usually talk about this club we were in . (I left the club) and stooped talking to her.. i really didn't have feeling for her back then... but now every time i see her my eyes light up and i love everything that she does. Im in high school don't know much about this whole "love" thing i think i feel it but not sure. I wanted to ask the many people here because i think you have more life experience and best advice. Should i ask her out? i mean i think i have a pretty ok chance ... or should i try to forget her? most of the time im thinking about her and i can't focus on what im doing.
    Please help a brother out with your life advice.

    Thanks Guys!!! im rejoining the club! i think they are going to have a club social thing and guess whose gana be there ;) geting this girl :D
     
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  2. rettaibi

    rettaibi Regular Member

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    who is the first one that is going to say bar....

    ontopic: just go for it you have nothing to lose just start talking with her again and see how it goes.
     
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  3. bertbaby

    bertbaby Elite Member

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    Yep, less thinking and more action. The worst that will happen she will say no, you get hurt and then you can move onto the next girl. It's really that simple. Oh, and if she says no don't get mad but just look hurt. You might get lucky asking her out a second time.
     
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  4. Duffers5000

    Duffers5000 Elite Member

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    You could try speaking to her in Spanish. I have a feeling that might work !
     
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  5. therage

    therage Senior Member

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    You have not any "social psychology" poured into her. You need something to work with, so pick up might do. What you are going through right now is the zeigarnik effect, the need to complete what you had before. So read a few books about dating and pick up, test out the information on her and others, and move on until you find a nice catch.
     
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  6. niloydaemons

    niloydaemons Junior Member

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    ask her out confidently and if she says no don't listen to her just say we are going out.hehe trust me it works all the time.
     
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    You need to first build up confidence in yourself op. You are not fully confident that you can get her. So what you need to do first is experience some rejection/acceptance.

    Try this:

    • Take a day away from everything else and go out for the day.
    • Ask every girl you see witthout a man for her phone number
    • Make sure you ask a minimum of 100
    • You will most likely get more no's then yes's (but that is how it is suppose to be)
    • Each time you get a no, evaluate yourself on how you handle it, and try to take it better each time
    • By the time the day is out you should be able to accept rejection pretty well
    • Once you can handle rejection, it won't matter if you are rejected or not, plus your confidence will be high, and females LOVE confidence :)
     
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  8. goodtimes

    goodtimes Power Member

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    Just ask her to meet you for coffee so you can catch up. Just keep it low pressure. If meeting for coffee goes well, ask her to grab a quick bite to eat once you are done with coffee.
     
  9. zebrahat

    zebrahat Elite Member

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    Since you're high school age, a word: practice. Just ask her out, and think of dating all girls at this point as practice.
     
  10. LBrown

    LBrown Senior Member

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    Join the club again.
     
  11. ija61

    ija61 Senior Member

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    :) I like this strategy..

    Well about the topic...

    A simple answer will be go and ask her out... now you see this as a big deal but in a 4-5 year you will make jokes about this, "with or without her" :p

    If you ask for a strategy.

    One that works in my case, not all the time but it have a good percentage is:

    When you see her try to establish an aye contact, once this is done try to think at what you like about her and try to say it to her thru your ayes. I think you know what I mean. "Do not forget to say HELLO :)"
    Keep this for a few days and then next time ask her to a coffee. Just stop her and just ask if would like to go on a coffee. Be nice but with confidence.
     
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  12. zeroskater

    zeroskater Newbie

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    If you want to stop thinking about here talk to other women. So many different flavors to try... Why settle for strawberry without trying chocolate or vanilla yet?
     
  13. phpbuilt

    phpbuilt Jr. VIP Jr. VIP

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    Welcome back bartman, we missed you. What happened to your rubber glove?
     
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    sirgold Supreme Member

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    Here's the BHW way: tell her you're a scrapebox or xrumer jedi: she'll fall for you. It works all the time, honest ;)
     
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    whynotmakeit Power Member

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    Just ask her. The worst that can happen is she says no. If no you can then move on. You are never gonna know unless you try....Don't worry it gets easier the older you get....
     
  16. Danny1111

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    it's always hard with women when you never know exactly what they are going to say ... but basically
    act confidently and ask her out -- doing whatever - and say you would really like to get to know her
    better -- and go from there -- rejection - don't stress about it - there's always another one
    acceptance - plan a nice time for her

    overall women go through stages - when they are young they always tend to hang out with guys who
    are not always the best guy or the nicest guy - because it's not always about "money"

    but as women get older and like nicer things and don't want to work as hard - they look for guys with
    careers etc ....... so don't worry about get beaten up by women when your in high school you can have
    the last laugh in 10 years time.

    best of luck - we have all been there and know how hard it can be at times.
     
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  17. KeyNyckeln

    KeyNyckeln Newbie

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    If you're ever gonna learn to get the girl(s) that make you feel warm and fuzzy inside,
    you need to be good with women in general. If you're unsure of how to be or act,
    learn some "game theory" on the internet. There are forums like BHW but for dating.

    For this particular girl. Grab your balls and ask her out. Good luck!
     
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    Ask her to join your email list
     
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    Danny1111 Elite Member

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    Look at Mark Zuckerbuerg --- How many dates do you think he had in High School ??

    don't sweat it - yes or no -- don't put too much pressure on yourself.

    be confident and see what happens.
     
  20. sdilan

    sdilan Regular Member

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    Thanks guys you guys are giving me a lot of confidence an help :D