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How people and your life has changed after YOU got the big cash?

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  1. Kimi

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    That people in your life telling you that is IM is timewasting. That parents that discouraged you. That cousin that thought is smarter than you. Or even new people that see you for the first time, they all want to suck your money and become fake friends.

    Don't know about you but in my journey I had a lot of negative and "smarter-than-me" kind of people that always got something to say about my decisions. If I were to listen them... oh I don't want to think.

    How much they changed in the last 2-3 years? I haven't told them how much I make, even with that - they changed hell much. "I told you that you will succeed" - no shit, when did you told me that. "Congrats, you are great" - uhmm ok :). "How did you made it", "Can you teach me, I'm your cousin you know", "How do we do to start a business togheter, bro"...

    And then... funny how you become an asshole that got rich by having luck or no hard work because you don't "help" them or give them free cash.

    At least there are some people with the same income and mentality that doesn't stab on your back. At least we have charity and so others so don't get unmotivated but does anyone knows what I'm talking about in this post?

    How your life changed after you got the money? How people from it have changed when they saw you with money? Your parents reaction? Your average uncle reaction?
     
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  2. Dagreyon

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    My direct family has never discouraged me or said anything in a negative manner, at least not to my face. When I started IM, I made pennies, but I slowly progressed as I started new stuff and worked and learned more. Anyone who I told that I did Internet Marketing either thought I was wasting my time or I was involved in some kind of ponzi scheme. I learned quick that I should tell people I start websites, which at this point is actually true, because people who hear you do Internet Marketing instantly think you do something illegal or sketchy.

    I've always had good friends around me, but money definitely has helped. I'm not one to be cheap and being in my early 20s I still have a lot of friends in college, so when we go to the bars, I'm always buying 20 shots at a time, which attracts a lot of people. I don't like to talk about how much money I make, I prove by example. I show anyone who may have thought I was wasting my time or going to go no where, that I've made it by the car(s) I drive, the money I spend and the lifestyle I live. I'm not here to brag or boast either, just answering your question and telling my story. Luckily for me I've always had good positive people around me, but of course there's always the people who don't/didn't believe in you, but now they're mad.
     
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  3. GreenGoblin

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    Life didn't really change for me, yea material things come and go, but I always kept the same people around.
     
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  4. NoobGuru

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    Well I only had my mom growing up and she unfortunately could not offer me any encouragement because she did not know how to being she is mentally disabled as a valid excuse that I now don't blame her,but she never did believe in my stories that I would make money online.
    I have four aunts that disapeared from us after I turned 13(they did not want to deal with their bi-polar sister),Her sisters never really spoke to me much as a kid,however one that I did respect because she seem to have the most money in her pockets among the rest asked me once what I wanted to be when I grew up when I was only 11-12 and I quickly replied back
    "something with computers"
    and my aunt quickly than said back to me
    "how about you become a plumber,thats more realistic,you'll never even be able to afford a computer" Because back than she knew we barely had enough to eat because the government supplied my mom and I with just that,barely enough to survive let alone buy a computer which back than cost as much of 2000 for a single core pc.
    These would play HUGE motivational factors in my life,because I LOVED computers,since the day I first touched one and saw one I was so amazed and stunned that I knew right there my mission in life!This doubt in me from her encouraged me,thats how I took it,and when I turned 13 i got this newspaper subscription selling job going door to door and in one month i managed to earn enough in my first ever commission job in one month to buy a pc..had no car had i still rmemeber my mom had to ask the neighbor to take me to officemax to buy it lol,happiest day of my life.
    okay moving along to me going from 0-50k to 100k
    I unfortunately had to learn the hard way about people,let me explain in more details exactly how people changed in my life when I went from 0 to 100k a year man because its really dramatic when it takes place when your only about 18-19 years old.

    There are some People who will try and take advantage these are the people you will discover and learn to take out from your life when they do try and take advantage or do mange to accomplish to take advantage of you.

    I had bumped into a friend who I had not seen since I was a freshmen in highschool,I am now 24 yrs old and we started hanging out again and when we first caught up through facebook he was cool in the beginning and would not let be spend anything on him,but I have a few group of friends that Im used to buying food for and then they in return buy food for me the next time around,you know its more convenient to put it all on one card. but with this guy the next thing you knew he was always trying to ask me for money to go out with females like he was entitled to it,and he kind of moved himself into my apartment and became the couch guy until i got fed up with him after a few months and kicked his ass out.Its my fault for being too nice because unfortunately theres more to the story that.He had asked me to learn about internet marketing so I gave him the same books I read that I purchased and he read about 20 pages of one and never looked back lol he was trying to have me hold his hand and give him my own websites practically,when I showed him my own work he had only 20 page of internet marketing experience and was already ready to make all sorts of changes,just thinking about this dude irritates the hell out of me.

    I'm afraid these are lessons I had to learn more than once but I am thankful to say I am more sharp than ever from them and now only have surrounded myself with the best of people and I am more alert now than ever.Please do take my advise and as soon as you see people trying to get over on you those are the people you want to usually get rid of without a doubt!

    There are good friends though don't get me wrong that it has truly been a blessing to be able to help them out, I have managed to help two of my friends finically by allowing them to borrow up to 2,000 each and they both have manage to make payments and are both around 75% completed on paying me back.
     
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  5. ferma231

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    I dont make much yet, but i know i will make killer profits, but i already found out that the less friends know the better it is.

    they ask stupid things, i teach them, try to help, in the end they dont do shit and i wasted time, ao fuck it. Also damn sarcasm what they tell, and shit like that. They think 9-5 job is only way to make money, yeah right, i made more online in 2 weeks then they will make in month , so that makes sense.

    So i just dont tell anyone about IM, and keep doing that, and live happilly, if someon ask for help, i just point them to BHW, thats all, i dont have time to waste my time , TIME = MONEY
     
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  6. Kimi

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    Some good stories so far. A great read to see progress of you, how did you got success and how people changed after your success.
     
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  7. Patel

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    Same here man. I have friends who really want to learn, and I have wasted hours teaching them, and giving them good domains to work on, but they never put in the work.

    I like to just keep it on the low as well. Although im not banking outrageous yet, when I do hit the big bucks, I want to be the "sleeper rich guy" who you would never think would be a millionaire.

    Fancy clothes, fancy cars, not for me. I like to live with the basics, but have money in the bank.
     
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  8. gypsyr0ad

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    Funny you started this thread.

    I grew up pretty poor, we had food, but not much more then that.
    I started working when I was 16 and always had a decent job, plus I helped out family/friends all the time, its how gramma raised me.

    Long story short, I got into a horribly bad car accident and it I am pretty much screwed now, living in my van at a truckstop, doing my best to survive with what I make online and everyone in my life has spit in my face now and could care less about my situation, to them I am now a broke ass with nothing to offer them.
    My used to be best friend Cousin who I once considered a brother, my 3 sisters, and people I thought were real friends, all showed their true colors real fast when I needed them for once.

    I still, to this day, have family that try to hit me up for money, rides, etc, its sickening.

    I know full well that eventually I will overcome my situation and be back on top again, and can not wait for the day when "they" all stop being mad at me "for no reason other then to cover up their selfishness" once they realize I have money again.

    I am the most kind, giving person you will ever meet, but I also can be the biggest ass of them all, and not only did they loose a good friend, I am going to lead them all on, one at a time, then give them back exactly what they gave me.
    Karma is a beotch, and I am its keeper.

    Disclaimer:
    I am not implying that anyone in this world owes me anything I didn't work for myself, I am simply stating that nothing I have ever done to anyone, is worthy of how I am being treated now.
    Well I am guilty of being too nice and people will take full advantage of that every time and not loose a minutes sleep afterwards.
    And I can say this much too, the majority of people I have ever come across will kick you even further down and pretend to be "helping" you, just so they can get what they can from you.

    I pretty much stay to myself now, I used to be a people person, not anymore, I lost complete trust in mankind as a whole.

    However, I am actually glad this happened to me, I would rather be alone and poor, then to have continued as I was going and not even realize I was just being used by almost everyone I knew.
     
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  9. Kimi

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    Why funny? Purpose of this thread is to motivate others that are having hard times being discouraged by other people from their lives, be it parents, relatives or the most loved ones.
     
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  10. gypsyr0ad

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    I was speaking figuratively when I said "funny"
    But yah, in the beginning, a best friend I grew up with, poked fun at the $10+ a day or so, I was making online and then eventually started making fun of me saying that I would never make shyt and be living at a truckstop forever, but that was when I started putting up fliers to get Ref's for my niche and it almost started to pay off, she was so jealous because it appeared to take off.

    So yah, don't let people discourage you and you'll also have the last laugh if your hard work eventually pays off.

    The guys who made that online game "Runescape" were actually collage drop outs with a dream and everyone told them no one would play that stupid game, they are now millionaires.
    If they would have listened to their family and such, they would probably be flipping burgers at mcdonalds now.


    I tend to believe that, forsay even if I win the lotto and become a billionaire, I wouldn't turn into a rich snob or what not.
    Sure I would have a super sweet dream house, nice clothes, a few badass muscle cars, motorcycles etc, but I could never see myself having a butler to bring me coffee etc.

    The day I get so lazy that I cant get up and answer the door or make myself a triple decker sandwich, is the day I give up on life.
     
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  11. Zillion305

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    Very Motivational Stuff Here Guys....

    WHere I From people don't see online money as "Real" they act as if Im chasing some fairy tale of some sort lol but most ppl here are not that technically advance anyway... Plus most of us are programmed by the society we live in from we go to school we are program that you must work 8 hours a day well it be school a job or wateva... they built into our subconcious that in order to make money you must buss your ass... and that after primary school you must attend college then once done there then you work your job... the system is designed to keep us in the Rat Race... and it also makes hard for us to get out of that loop... I think most guys here are a different "Breed" we say F%*K Da System... we can find another way to eat, survive and PREVAIL.... lol...

    P.S. Im still stuck in the system lol.... just making some nice complimentary income

    Cheers
     
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  12. Kimi

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    This thread would be a great motivational resource if some of you would get more courage to share their story.
     
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  13. bonzo90

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    One of my friends was living on the dole in the UK, he was working part time at a job where the boss would treat him like shyt just because he could, I helped him start an online business selling parts and inspired him to become a business man and never have to worry about money, He put in all of the work which is a credit to him, he put his heart into the website and the business, now 3 months on, he has his own flat, his own money and most importantly his own online business which he manages day to day, one of the best things is that I can actually share my knowledge and business experience with a guy who I have known since i was 5. We are both 22, He knows what I do online and I am always there for him!

    Now regarding making money online, I was recently sacked from my job for working under duress, my boss asked me to do things which I am not proud of to other companies. I always did IM part time and in some cases earned more than my day job, My parents ALWAYS pushed me to have the day job, Now i am free, i work from home, i have my own business and I answer to pretty much no-one (apart from the gf) and a few of my pushy clients. but I couldn't be happier, since i found this forum Its honestly developed me into someone who is a lot more considerate of others, Being from the countryside I have never really experienced different cultures or shared much knowledge of 3rd world countries, but from talking to some of you guys on skype, i can see that your quality of life is much different to mine. I do drive a flashy car and my friends do know "he makes money on the internet" but as long as you do not let money change you, and give back to others, I think that it has changed my life for the better. I have seen the greedy people, I never did too well in school, college or uni, but I have proved myself to all of the people who looked down on me as a kid and when I grew up, All of the people who were snooty and thought their children were better. Im not blowing my own horn, but when they see me and how well i have done , I smile to myself knowing that people are FAR too judgemental, people are capable of great things if you put hard work into things. You cannot succeed without putting in the effort.

    As for my parents, They have always supported me, ever since i first ever got a computer, i was always destined to use it to make money! I cannot thank them enough for being so supportive of me and I am lucky in the sense that I was born into a family that could afford such a luxury!

    So, I hope this gives some younger people the motivation to keep on trying, dont for one second listen to the "doubters" because in your heart if you feel like you can do it, You will put your mind to it and succeed!! GL on your journey.
     
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  14. ferma231

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    Cmon guys, share stories

    Giving rep to all , it seems that it will run out soon :(
     
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    The next 3 weeks are in the Amazon jungle on an ayahuasca retreat with a master shaman connecting with who I really am. Even with a high paying 9-5, that kind of shit is impossible to do. I'm still making money while I'm gone.

    It means to me all it has ever meant... a path to more freedom.
     
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    A good percentage of my friends and family don't understand how earning money from the internet works, they have been programmed to believe the standard 9-5 job for near or just above minimum wage is the ideal model, and as a result seem to think I'm some sort of master internet criminal for making sizable amounts of income online. In some cases this has changed the way they interact with me, I remember one instance where I offered to lend a friend some money on a night out in town (he works for the police), and he told me that he doesn't want my "dirty money".
     
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    Epic Fail, lol, That's why I don't talk about this, People are just stupids, and they just believe in a 9-5 Job.
     
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    I don't make much, I don't talk about it anymore.

    - Hey, what's up ? Working ?
    - Yeap.
    - Hey, is that Youtube ? I know how to use it, teach me, I can make money :facepalm:

    My friend thinks that he's able to get rich, because he knows how to use YT :facepalm again:

    Do not talk about it, you'll teach them, you'll waste your time and in the end you got "Hey, what does keyword mean ?" :facepalm 3rd:
     
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    When I was 22 years old I ran into a family friend who I hadn't seen in a few years and wanted to catch up. I showed her around my shop and told her I quit my day job @$11/hr because I got sick and tired of going nowhere in a hurry (groundhog day sh#$). She asked me what exactly I was doing with my life. I told her to look around the shop (computer repair at the time) and told her my goal was to hit $1Mil by next year by starting a business and using IM to drive traffic.
    She laughed in my face and said" you know you are only 22 right"
    me: " yes, and....?"
    her: "well you are too young to do that and you didn't go to school for business"
    me: rant on statistics of college grads with no jobs, corrupt financial and creativity robbing institutions......and free education from libraries and online like MIT courseware : ) ...highly recommended

    anyway....this went way over her head

    It was right then and there that I realized that there are people in this world who not only limit their own thinking, but in doing so are inducing doubt into those who share dreams and aspirations.

    Doubt never got to me, it lit a fire under my arse. I hit 65K net that year and am closing in on 80K this year. It's a process but damn does it feel good to work for yourself.

    Had to break ties with friends who morphed into the leechers and complainers. There are way too many who want to make all their problems yours, especially when they know you have resources $$. And yes you WILL become the arsehole guy.

    burn those bridges man and never look back

    my mom is the only one who ever believed in and motivated me when I was going through the transition. Dad is a failed business owner and now full time alcoholic (he could care less about what I do and is negative whenever possible)
    Younger brother is one who only believes 9-5 jobs and school is the key.....(piss poor thinking)

    Once I hit that Mil I'll put dad in rehab, put bro through school and buy mom anything. You gotta stick to the people who really care about you and who dont change when $$ changes.

    "Everyone wants to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."
    ― Oprah Winfrey
     
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  20. Chris22

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    Never looked at it like that before, put things in perspective slightly, thanks man
     
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