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How many of you are happy with your marriage ?

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  1. krishnaverma

    krishnaverma Power Member

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    I am still a bachelor but have observed that most of the couple are not happy with each other. This can be understood for new couples (below 30-35) but when I see aged couples fighting on minor issues and still living together, it makes me think about all this. Just wanted to know from experienced individuals. If you do not want to share your own personal life, you can post an answer based on married relationships you have seen.
     
  2. Scripteen

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    Fighting between a husband and wife is fine as long as no violence is involved. I mean who doesn't even fight with his brothers and sisters although they lived together for years from the early childhood? Because your partner is there beside you all the time he/she will witness more of your depression moments and be more subject to getting an anger wave from your side. This is life and you can't always be cool or else you will burst all at once!
     
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  4. miklaus

    miklaus Newbie

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    I have happy marriage! My wife is happy and I am married!
     
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  5. bigbong

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    Depends on the alternatives. If I had to choose between having my head amputated and being married, I would stay in my current marriage. My previous marriage, though, I'm not so sure. I need time to think about that one. I am leaning towards amputation.
     
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    littleg2008 Senior Member

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    Being married is amazing, you will never feel like its you against the world, its you and your wife / husband against the world. Its a massive different knowing that what ever you have someone who is on your side fully and no matter what you do, end of the day she will love you.

    Of course there are always going to be exeptions to this, as i do believe that certain people can "grow out of love" but for me it really is the best decision of my life and i am thankful for it every single day
     
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    dujow Junior Member Premium Member

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    I've been married almost three years. So far so good. Sure we fight about little things (arguments really) but that is normal. The benefits far outweigh the negatives. It's nice to plan a life together with someone you love.
     
  8. oblivion19

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    Marriage has lost its meaning today. I mean it has just become a piece of paper in the western/Liberal countries. I ain't stereotyping but well there is nothing a couple can't do without marriage. Live ins are the cultural norm these days and gives freedom to both partners. In the more conservative countries, it does have a significance.

    Coming to the point though,Fighting, arguing with your wife/SO is absolutely normal. Each person has their own way of thinking and individuality. There is bound to be conflicts and problems. It's how you resolve them that determines if you are in a happy/sad relationship/marriage.
     
  9. back2form

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    lol, 99% of peoples were not happy after marriage, If so don't you get married - j/k

    Feel all the experience whatever it might be, Advance happy married life :)


    Cheers!
    Bart

    P.S :- am bachelor (23 pure virgin :))
     
  10. JokerNikx

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    Still Bachelor ;]
     
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    8 years going strong :). Couldn't ask for a better partner.
     
  12. Amsterdammer

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    A relationship without fights is not a relationship. You need those to protect boundaries and letting your partner know more about you. This works both ways.
    But, unless you have children, I see no use for a marriage.

    Also, just because fighting is healthy, this does not mean calling your loved one names is too. It also doesn't mean that when the relationship is over one should start saying bad things about the ex, you obviously loved the partner at one point and do you really talk about the mother of your child as a whore for instance?

    Anyways, I don't see a need for marriage but I do feel any relationship is build on the trust the other loves them, will be there in the hour of need. (This includes opening jars etc)
    Fights with someone you love are like fighting over icecream with your sibling, necessary but forgotten in a stream of good moments.
    Also, your relationship is like a mirror: Whatever you project at your partner will bounce right back to you, that is why a partner should be an addition, not a burden.

    Right, time for a drink. :D
     
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    Married and some times I am very happy, sometimes I am not. But I always love my wife. Just always try to remember the grass is always greener...
     
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    I'm very happy, it is something I'm sure it would be hard to live without :)
     
  15. weepingwillow

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    I think you ARE A f** IDIOT IF YOU SERIOUSLY THINK THAT IS TRUE!

     
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    I am single but I have observed other married couples. Some are really happy and say they feel inner strength when they wake up in morning and find another human being beside them. They feel as if they can successfully overcome any hurdles! However, there are some couples who fight like anything. What is sad is that most of their fights do not occur because of any differences between them but due to instigation from their relatives.
     
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    When someone puts a landmine in the middle of the floor next to a big sign saying "Warning! Landmine" it is sometimes better to just walk around it.
     
  18. Hartwigm

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    Marriages, like any relationship, are complex. Anytime two individuals involve one another intimately in the inner workings of their individual experience of the world, there is bound to be some degree of conflict and misunderstanding. Ultimately, what determines whether a marriage is happy is how both individuals approach these conflicts. If you keep an open mind and an eye towards the needs and wants of your partner and they do the same, that's a recipe for a happy and fulfilled life. Of course, this is easier said than done!
     
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    I'm not married and very happy :D
     
  20. Amsterdammer

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    I missed this one.
    I think it is notable that all cultures I know of with arranged marriages also think it is normal to hit your wife as needed.
    Sadly enough this IS needed.
    You are marrying a girl because her daddy and your daddy are friends, not because you like the way she looks at you.
    You think she should have that wart tented too and loose some weight as even sumo wrestlers care more about their looks than her, she can't cook, has a laugh that causes nightmares and by looking at her mother you know she won't be aging well.
    She feels you should shower more often, drink less, stop snoring, like her food, not hit her, earn more money.
    Since the option to leave is gone, violence is the only other option as education levels are not really high either, normally.

    Yes, arranged marriages have benefits. If the girl is expected to join you at your parents place having the approval of others living there helps. For example.
    Still, you will be laying next to someone you need to learn to like. Every day, for the rest of your life. And this can work out but mostly your best option is Stockholm Syndrome. :p

    So no, arranged marriages are not the way to go IMHO.
     
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