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How do you talk to your family about this as a beginner?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by mrfunnysalads, May 11, 2016.

  1. mrfunnysalads

    mrfunnysalads Newbie

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    Hi, I would like to know how did you guys first approach your family or friends about this?

    I feel like no one really understands what I am trying to do. People think I am a scammer because I am creating personas for my blogs. I have no friends in real life so that doesn't matter, but my family seems to think I am wasting my time and money here. They keep telling me I am going to get arrested for this. It also seems hard to find a physical place to meet people in the business around my community so its been hard finding any moral support along the way.

    I mean, I have already put in like $200 in this with content, hosting, backlinks, and haven't gotten a penny in return. Maybe I am wasting money on it.

    How did you guys do it when you first started?
     
  2. Sherbert Hoover

    Sherbert Hoover Jr. Executive VIP Jr. VIP

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    My parents would call them "schemes" and whatnot. This was back when I was a dumb teenager trying to make monies online and naively having my dad click on my Blogspot AdSense ads over and over, eventually getting my account banned for almost ten years. They believed in me, but my self-consciousness and urge to not feel like some kind of gung-ho failure caused me to keep the majority of what I did under the radar.

    It wasn't until I made more money in a year than the two of them combined that they saw the true potential in an online living.

    You can speak more with your wallet in one conversation than with your insisting in ten years. That's my experience, at least.
     
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  3. TRUE Media Partner

    TRUE Media Partner Registered Member

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    When you get your first payout parents will understand everything. Now you should forget about this problem and work hard to reach your goals.
     
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  4. Anonymously

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    Just show them a good paycheck and they'll turn around quickly. Don't try to convince them of anything beforehand. My mother used to laugh when I said that the Internet is the future, and that it has endless possibilities, but when I showed her that I make more than her in a day than what she makes in a month, she began to believe everything I said.

    All the stories I've read here follow a similar path. Parents are first skeptical, child starts making a shitload, parents start doing everything to support their child.
     
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  5. Aatrox

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    Only way to show them this works is to make money and live off it. It's how I did and I bet most of the other guys.
     
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  6. Ste Fishkin

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    I just tightly wrap large bundles of cash with pallet wrap, to form some sort of brick and throw these bricks at family members until they leave me alone.
     
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  7. Sherbert Hoover

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    A good ol' brick of FUN COUPONS.
     
  8. ChrisX

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    This topic keeps coming up again and again...
    Each time I say the same - stop talking about what you're going to do and get to work. Let your results (or lack thereof) speak for themselves.
     
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  9. Sombrero

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    Money talks. The first thing I bought at 15 with Internet monkeys was a Nintendo DS, my parents stopped bothering me.
     
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  10. mrfunnysalads

    mrfunnysalads Newbie

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    Alright, thanks guys, hopefully I will be able to throw some rolls of money at my parents in a few years too
     
  11. Bleght

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    Don't talk to them about it until you have some results. Keep your eyes on the prize and work hard until your earnings shut them up.

    About meeting people, look for an office place where freelancers rent desks if you have them in your city, look for people building startups and so on, they tend to be a suitable crowd to hand around if you are into IM and might often be a positive influence.
     
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  12. Aty

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    Tell them you are a Certified SEO Engineer.
     
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    Do you even understand what you are trying to do?

    Its all about starting and growing a business that solves problems or provides services. IM is just promoting your business through the internet.

    You should discern from hype and what you are really looking at.

    I believe i made myself clear. :)
     
  14. Sherbert Hoover

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    That is probably the least clear thing I've read since your Jr. VIP SEO chapter, homie.
     
  15. naskootbg

    naskootbg Power Member

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    Each start is hard.
    12 years ago nobody in my world believed me, thet I will earn money online.
    In fact first 2 years I earned almost nothing and for the people around me I looked like lazy man, that don't see the sence of living.

    When you buy space ship looking home, all these people will be happy as you even they do not beleived you.

    Just tips
    - sell niche guest posts on fiverr
    - don't invest untill you not earning (I think when you can earn without investment, you are ready to invest).
     
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  16. vizualwarrior

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    When you start getting cheques in the mail all of a sudden your internet marketing endeavors become legit. Unfortunately until then, you will probably not be taken seriously.
     
  17. mickyfu

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    Become a rent boy, your parents will find it easier to come to terms with, than telling them you are going to make inter webz monniez.
     
  18. guccilemonade123

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    Don't talk to them about it... Think about all the other things you do on the internet that you wouldn't talk to your parents about.. haha
     
  19. JuicyJuice

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    I'm essentially in the same boat as you, except it's my girlfriend and not my family.

    About 5 years ago, I dabbled in IM and made a very small amount of money (About ~$120) in 1 year with adsense on about 3 sites built by me. I made a lot of mistakes, and eventually stopped (My biggest mistake). I stopped back in 2013. Its May, 2016, I just logged into my adsense account about 5 min ago, and I have $53. $53 over 3 years....not a very good statistic at all, but the point is....3 years of doing nothing and I still brought in $53. The funniest part, is these are blogger blogs, no hosting fees, etc.

    I'm going to be giving IM another shot, the right way (Domain names, hosting, and white hat seo) and scale up what I had done in the past and bring in some more money.

    As far as your family, don't even tell them what you're doing. They don't understand, and they won't understand until they see that you're actually earning money in it.

    And If I can give you just 1 bit of advice...don't give up. Money is money, and even if you're not earning what you want online, you can always adjust and learn and become better and earn more.
     
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    How can starting and growing a business be not clear? :p