How do you handle friends who serve no benefit. But known for long time

As i recently been wanting to take my life to the next levels i had a group of friends since middle school. All but one of them are considered a entrepreneur. Would it be better to just leave them all together as the only thing in common is gaming which i don't do anymore. Or just check in here and there. As when i talk to them now it's only ever sports or just bare level basic stuff (Dave Ramsey type of basic info) or real-estate with no action for years. When i do bring up more advanced concepts it's met with hostility or belittling comments. Would love to hear other who went through/going through the same situation.

Friends aren't our business partners, so just meet them once a month or once a year and voila.

Then you're a bad friend if you only look out for "benefits". If you're only looking for "benefits" then you might as well just 'network' with them only.

However, if you aren't looking for any "benefits" but more on mutual connection and you feel there's nothing in common... Then there's nothing you can do but move on. You also have to reflect have they really been 'good' to you... Like were they around when you needed a listening ear? etc.

In life, there's always phases and certain stepping stones we reach which, well... we go our own ways... If you feel it is really a pain to continue being friends while they're being toxic to you, then I highly advise to just move on.

AliceInSEOLand said:

Then you're a bad friend.

Click to expand...

Who are you to judge lol

When you pass 30, you realize that friendship is undervalued. It sounds like a cliché, but I can count the friends I have on one hand, and I still have plenty left over.

Most people are disgusting and unable to think beyond their own interests. I wish I had known this years ago, it would have saved me a lot of disgust and disappointment.

Why would I want a lady that has no common ground with me and different values than I do?

Same with friends and family.

More times than not limiting contact will work to your favor.

Neither they are your girlfriend or boyfriend.
Either way they cannot turn hostile to you and be friends.
These kind of hostile friends can only turn into suckers or backstabers.
Stay away and ditch them on the first chance you can get.
You can always get like-minded friends.

After all, what's the point of having money if you can't spend it on creating unforgettable moments with the people who make life worth living?

zeba said:

After all, what's the point of having money if you can't spend it on creating unforgettable moments with the people who make life worth living?

Click to expand...

Dogs. I would surround myself with dogs. I would buy a kennel and be surrounded by dogs for the rest of my life. I don't need much human contact to be happy.

reaaski said:

Friends aren't our business partners, so just meet them once a month or once a year and voila.

Click to expand...

True, is just to chill out really

just cut these people off. no explanation needed. you'll check back in 1-2-3 years. they haven't changed bit. maybe gained a few mug shots too.
if you do hang out, limit it once per month max. you're always busy. don't waste your time talking about personal growth.
don't worry about losing friends. you will lose girlfriends, cars, jobs, projects, prospects....always newer and better ones out there. hidden, waiting to be uncovered.
i think at a certain age you need to audit your friend group. are you surrounded by 4 losers -- you will be the 5th.

After all these years I can count on one hand people I consider friends.

I used to joke that friends are people who appear when you are moving to a new apartment and don't expect alcohol.

Now with a wife and several kids, I consider friends people who turn up and don't make me consider every rope and belt opportunity. Still can count on one hand, but with family have to role-play a bit for kids to have some backing in life.

I meet my friends on weekends who aren't entrepreneur or serve me any benefit. I meet them because I can't always work and stay near my screen. We meet we drink we talk and just go home.

reaaski said:

Friends aren't our business partners, so just meet them once a month or once a year and voila.

Click to expand...

Leaning towards once a century but i'll sit on the thought for a day before making an emotional decision.

AliceInSEOLand said:

Then you're a bad friend if you only look out for "benefits". If you're only looking for "benefits" then you might as well just 'network' with them only.

However, if you aren't looking for any "benefits" but more on mutual connection and you feel there's nothing in common... Then there's nothing you can do but move on. You also have to reflect have they really been 'good' to you... Like were they around when you needed a listening ear? etc.

In life, there's always phases and certain stepping stones we reach which, well... we go our own ways... If you feel it is really a pain to continue being friends while they're being toxic to you, then I highly advise to just move on.

Click to expand...

I left this group for a while and disappeared to improve drastically in life and they were talking as if i went to jail and others said i wasn't doing good and was "down bad". I see friends as people who will hold each other accountable to improve in life and help each other make money through helpful info who i can also goof around with and do crazy stuff with.

Ignatius_Reilly said:

When you pass 30, you realize that friendship is undervalued. It sounds like a cliché, but I can count the friends I have on one hand, and I still have plenty left over.

Most people are disgusting and unable to think beyond their own interests. I wish I had known this years ago, it would have saved me a lot of disgust and disappointment.

Click to expand...

I'm in my 20's and while i meet tons of new people they rarely transform to long term friendships but i am meeting up with some online friends irl as they are on the same path improvement wise but we all run different business's.

reaaski said:

Why would I want a lady that has no common ground with me and different values than I do?

Same with friends and family.

More times than not limiting contact will work to your favor.

Click to expand...

You can change a girls value very easily when she's in love but i understand what your saying.

IM Dude said:

Neither they are your girlfriend or boyfriend.
Either way they cannot turn hostile to you and be friends.
These kind of hostile friends can only turn into suckers or backstabers.
Stay away and ditch them on the first chance you can get.
You can always get like-minded friends.

Click to expand...

Going towards this i like being around other entrepreneurs and people who hold themselves to a high standard. Feel like its hard to lose with friends who hold themselves to high standards.

zeba said:

After all, what's the point of having money if you can't spend it on creating unforgettable moments with the people who make life worth living?

Click to expand...

Agree, I'm planning on travelling Europe with some newer people i met can see some good memories coming from that.

stin99 said:

True, is just to chill out really

Click to expand...

Why not do both with friends. Not saying they have to be business partners but you can help each other make money/ improve

uncutu said:

just cut these people off. no explanation needed. you'll check back in 1-2-3 years. they haven't changed bit. maybe gained a few mug shots too.
if you do hang out, limit it once per month max. you're always busy. don't waste your time talking about personal growth.
don't worry about losing friends. you will lose girlfriends, cars, jobs, projects, prospects....always newer and better ones out there. hidden, waiting to be uncovered.
i think at a certain age you need to audit your friend group. are you surrounded by 4 losers -- you will be the 5th.

Click to expand...

Leaning heavily towards this train of thought.

Halch said:

After all these years I can count on one hand people I consider friends.

I used to joke that friends are people who appear when you are moving to a new apartment and don't expect alcohol.

Now with a wife and several kids, I consider friends people who turn up and don't make me consider every rope and belt opportunity. Still can count on one hand, but with family have to role-play a bit for kids to have some backing in life.

Click to expand...

Makes sense, congrats on such a big family hoping to have tons of children as well

alonelywriter said:

I meet my friends on weekends who aren't entrepreneur or serve me any benefit. I meet them because I can't always work and stay near my screen. We meet we drink we talk and just go home.

Click to expand...

Would the benefit they help you decompress from work? Maybe i worded my title in bad way

Thankyou for the inputs guy I'll be thinking about this for a while more before making any emotional decisions.

Avarice20 said:

You can change a girls value very easily when she's in love but i understand what your saying.

Click to expand...

Once idealization phase is gone, she'll get angry of what she's become because of you and quit.

imagine you marry your first girlfriend? just because you're friends for long time, don't fall into sunken cost fallacy. sometimes you outgrow the fish pond.
like @alonelywriter writes, its cool to have friends who are not business motivated. if your friend is a dentist, you would probably not care about his monologs about dentistry. don't bring entrepreneurial topics up to friends who aren't in that "sphere".

alonelywriter said:

I meet my friends on weekends who aren't entrepreneur or serve me any benefit. I meet them because I can't always work and stay near my screen. We meet we drink we talk and just go home.

Click to expand...

But those aren't friends, they're acquaintances to pass the time. A friend is someone who genuinely cares about you and would set aside their own interests to help you in a tough time.

It's very easy to be amidst laughter and joy when things are going well, but when you're messed up and in the pit, that's when you truly see who your friends are. And it's tough to see that there are many fewer than you thought.

There are at least 4 or 5 people whom I have considered friends at some point in my life, and thanks to me, they are making a living from the internet (as of today). Of all of them, half have either stolen from me or used me. I have no contact with any of them today.

It hasn't even been 5 months since the last disappointment. A "friend" whom I had known for years scammed me out of €3,500 in the dirtiest and most underhanded way possible. This guy used to make wordpress websites for €50 and sell one every two weeks. Thanks to me, he is now making several thousand euros a month, and I'm not exaggerating.

Human beings are inherently disgusting; there are exceptions, of course, but generally, people are selfish and cowardly.

Perhaps he is reading this, as he is a regular on forums in the sector. If you're reading this, Juan Carlos, know that this hasn't ended here, and you should pray that we never cross paths at any event, because I assure you I will send you to the hospital. And your police officer father won't save you from that.

Ignatius_Reilly said:

Perhaps you might be reading this, as you're a regular on forums in the sector. If you're reading this, Juan Carlos, know that this hasn't ended here, and you should pray that we never cross paths at any event, because I assure you I will send you to the hospital. And your police officer father won't save you from that.

Click to expand...

I would show them too. I am called a psycho haha. I am on insane papers.

Ignatius_Reilly said:

It hasn't even been 5 months since the last disappointment. A "friend" whom I had known for years scammed me out of €3,500 in the dirtiest and most underhanded way possible. This guy used to make wordpress websites for €50 and sell one every two weeks. Thanks to me, he is now making several thousand euros a month, and I'm not exaggerating.

Click to expand...

Don't worry. That's daily payment around here.