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Here's my problem, how can I solve it?

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  1. xrumering

    xrumering BANNED BANNED

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    Hey guys,


    I'd like to share my biggest personal problem with you.


    It's not because I'm feeling horrible and wanna share my feelings, it's because there are many helpful people in this case here. I'm looking forward to see your advices.


    Lack of self-confidence - that's what I'm worried about.


    Please don't take me for an arrogant person, but I'd feel the same way if I were uneducated, impolite, flippant kid, but I'm not! I'm educated enough for my age (19), I'm quite serious etc etc but something's definitely wrong and I can't figure out, what ?!


    The only blemish that could be responsible for this kind of problem is that I'm overweight, at least I think so. When you're overweight, you don't look great, you don't feel great, I know this physical blemish of mine is responsible for my lack of self-confidence.


    Maybe it's because I love joking ? At least loved. I'm about to drop this, everyone says I have an excellent sense of humor, could this be the cause of my problem ? Nah, I don't think so, what's on your mind ? Can people take you for an upstart person when you are joking ? I don't joke too much, I know where to stop, what to say, what NOT to say.


    Why I wrote all this text, what I want to say : It makes my life worse !


    I get ignored somehow by friends, classmates (University) etc etc.. They all seem to be serious about me but they don't pay much attention to my words (unless they need me). Sometimes I feel like they don't give a shit about me. Maybe it's because I'm kind ? Maybe it's because I don't ignore anyone and treat everyone like a friend ? I'm not saying I'm an angel, but I don't like to ignore people for no reason (like most people do), I respect every person if he/she's worth it.


    Here's what all that causes : I don't have faith in myself (Biggest mistake for a person I think), sometimes I feel I can't do anything properly, I can't succeed in IM either (I have an income, but fuck it, its only $300-400 month when I have knowledge to make that amount daily), when I'm given a good opportunity (let's say IM), I'm getting nervous and lose faith in myself, and that's where I'm destroyed, I don't know why, I've written everything about me, help me figure it out.


    Here's what I think : I'm a funny guy who loves to joke, I respect all my friends, I help them anytime, I'm fat, looking not so good, would you look at a guy like me seriously ? I think they feel like "He's a joker, makes me laugh, I'll call him when I need him, he's kind, he won't ignore me", oh, I feel so stupid now, fuck it!


    I stopped "being a person who has a great sense of humor" lately, I don't joke, I try to be serious, do they sense my Aura or what?


    Even opening this thread makes me lose faith in me, I wanna gain some self-confidence, I know I won't forgive myself for doing such a silly thing, searching for help online, what a stupid acting, right ? I probably should lose weight (it's not so easy though), stop helping everyone, start ignoring some people, treating them like a junk, I know I'll get some respect than, but in a dirty way, world is a mean place.


    Hah, I've written too much, I wanna kill myself for this.


    If you have some advices, please feel free to post it here, haters, pass by, I don't need posts like "Man, you're a faggot".


    I think unless I start believing in myself I ain't gonna reach anything.


    Competent people, tell me, what do I have to change in myself, what kind of person would you like to become in my place?
     
  2. Duffers5000

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    Get some plastic surgery....that will do the trick
     
  3. thetraveller

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    Be happy :)

     
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  4. netmoney1

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    Wrong section to post this...should put this in the lounge...

    But....do what makes YOU happy....who gives a fu#k what others think unless YOU are happy.

    So...figure that out and your problems will be solved. Nobody here can answer this for you...needs to come from you.
     
  5. xrumering

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    Stop posting those videos, I'm not that fat.

    Guess you're right buddy, shouldn't have opened
     
  6. rettaibi

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    You need 4 hours of 2pac music and an overdose of mafia movies.
    believe me I am a doctor.

    But you shouldn't care about what people think about you just fk that.
    be yourself if somebody says something that you don't like tell him to fk off don't be a pussy, be a man.

    ''if the world was a girl I'd stick my dick in the ground Fuck the world
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    - kastro
     
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    I can tell first hand that you are stuck in a junior high mindset. Few pointers:

    - Be short and straight to the point
    - Don't let little things bother you
    - Keep your circles tight; try to find one or two good friends and just be hella cool and outgoing
    - Be spontaneous! try new things
    - If you text your friends, don't write paragraphs. Just be short and cool
    - Quit defending yourself when people call you fat. Just know that you are... or arent... and accept it or work on it.

    Your problems are NOTHING compared to what some people go thru in this world. Have a positive outlook and faith that things will turn around. God loves you @ the end of the day if no one else does
     
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  8. gsy159

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    go to the gym, you can loose weight and get a good body then dont give a fuck about other people.
    Do your own thing, work hard play hard that's it.
     
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  10. closedCaption

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    First, you have to decide if this thing is really the one you are trying to solve. Are you really going to lose all that weight and in that process gain confidence (I haven't used try, trying is for pussies, you have to do it).

    If your answer is yes, there is only one path you can take, and that path is horrible and hard. But its the only path to success.

    You want to hear what path it is? I will tell you...remember, once you step on that path, there are only two ways out: you succeed, or you fail. There are no middle posts on this path.

    You saw this guy. This guy was overweight too. But with one additional perk: he couldn't walk. So how does it make you feel when you know that disabled guy succeeded while you in the mean time only wrote some excuses on Internet forum?



    Now, first step you do is visit a medical doctor. There you have to find out if your problem is related to something internally wrong with your body. Maybe you have a tumor (not a cancer) or something, so before you commit to the path, see if everything is ok with you.

    If everything is ok with you, than it means only one thing: you quit on yourself and your image is a result of that decision. Stop quitting on yourself.

    I am not interesting in excuses. Excuses are for loser. Nobody owns anything to you World can go on without you without a hitch. If you want to make a dent in people's lives, then be worth of their time. Most people are losers too, so you need to shine in their presence to completely disarm their stupidity aimed towards you. You have to excel at what you are so that people will get interested in you. There is no way around it.

    Now, the problem with weight is very simple one. If you take more energy then needed, you have to store it somewhere. That storage is called fat. Ounce of fat (or roughly 1/2 kg) has 230 calories in it. 10 ounces can fuel your body through an active day. You understand what it means. It means that you have to exercise and regulate your energy intake in order to get right.
    Start by throwing out all the garbage from your menu. No more sodas. Seriously. Nothing. You don't need that. Its not natural. Have you ever saw a lion on discovery channel go to a pond in savannah and takes out pepsi? I don't think so. Problem with soda is that it is filled with sugars. Among other things that sugar does, in laymen terms, it creates surplus of energy, but doesn't deal with your hunger. So when you finally eat something all energy from fat is stored directly in your body. And then you can theoretically go without food like that Duracell bunny, on and on and on. Touche, you lose.
    Fresh vegetables, avoid fried, eat fish. Its not that hard. Read what people wrote about getting in shape. Exercise. Start with cardio few minuets a day. Stop whenever you feel exhausted. Sleep is mandatory. Without sleep your body breaks in miraculous ways.

    Do not take shortcuts with diets! It is essential that you need to know what you are doing at any time. Exercise is more important than food, and concentrating on only one food group can damage your internal organs.

    It will be painful. It will be sweaty and smelly. But unless you do it, your body will look like it looks like.

    Now that's only the part of the problem. This sentences could mean trouble:

    "The only blemish that could be responsible for this kind of problem is that I'm overweight, at least I think so...At least loved. I'm about to drop this...They all seem to be serious about me but they don't pay much attention to my words (unless they need me)."

    Now, lets start from the middle, cause I just feel like it. If I understood correctly, you are about to drop the only thing that makes people around you stay with you. Have you lost your bloody mind? Who in their right mindset would stop making jokes? Jokes are funny and positive and gives you an opportunity to make people laugh. They are great. You are being a pussy.

    Now, other things...Dude, what's wrong with you? Have you just been born? Ofc, people will only call you when they need you. There is even a chance you got made by your parents since your mother wanted to keep your father, or vice versa, or your parents didn't know what to do any more on their own, so they said lets have kids. There is even a possibility that your mother saw her friends getting all the attention from getting pregnant, so she decided to have a baby just to get a slice of that attention too.
    People will only hang out, talk, fck other people when they can use something from them. It can be money, big cocks, humor, whatever. That's the way life works. If you want to impress people with something else, you have to bring that thing to a certain level that grants admiration.

    In other words...(for a nth time)...stop being a pussy. Maybe your weight is a problem (it surely doesn't look good), but you simply don't understand the human nature. People around you like you for your humor. You, being a dick, want them to like you for being a Brad Pitt, which you obviously aren't. So either you try to impress people with something else or start doing exercises and get plastic surgery to look like Brad Pitt.

    And also send me your e-mail to PM, I have an invoice to send you for time lost reimbursement.

    Now take care, and repair that crazy mind of yours :cool:

     
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  11. back2form

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    lol :) its about 1000 words unique article... Appreciated your efforts & taking your valuable time towards OP.

    + rep given,


     
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  12. Amsterdammer

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    If you posted this for a pat on the back, please ignore the rest of my post.

    I just read most of your post. Not all because I feel it is BS and it makes me dislike you.
    You might feel badly about this but let me assure you your weight has nothing to do with it. It is attitude.
    I don't care why you are "fat" and it doesn't make me want to treat you any different. The thing I don't like is you dishing yourself without a cause. I understand you are young though so let me give you a few things you can do.

    1. Stop putting yourself down. Start right now!

    2. Every time you see a mirror from now on you should look straight into it and say out loud: "You are beautiful. You are a nice guy. I love you!" (if you are avoiding mirrors right now find one 3 times a day minimum)
    This might sound silly but it is not. After 6 months or so you will see the effects. It will change your life. Not kidding, look it up.
    You will have to stick with it for a few years though. Eventually you will see what you say to see. And yes, it is normal to laugh at first but you have to control that. Say it seriously, while looking at yourself. This is the same method you used to get this distorted self image and it is your way out too...

    3. The fat is in your brain. It is NOT what defines you, your attitude does. If you think you are crap yourself, why should I feel any different? Why would anyone? Love yourself so others will too, there is a correlation between the two.

    4. I don't know who you call friends, don't know if they treat you right. But I do know you get treated the way you allow yourself to be treated. If you still feel they are abusing you after a few years: Ditch them. To be honest though, I think your low self esteem is a bigger problem than them and it even effects the way you judge yourself to be treated by them.

    5. You think Kim Dot Com is a joke? Would you call him skinny?

    6. Don't lose your humor, it is not worth it. It will make you age faster, feel more miserable and eventually kill you before your time. Just not worth it.

    7. From what I can see of your forum posts, this thread is not needed. You seem like a nice guy, don't let people make you feel like you are not. :)


    Now, if you need it I am perfectly willing to give you a manly hug but please stop dishing yourself like this. It is really uncalled for.
    And no, I don't think it is easy to come back from this. You have a serious problem(not weight related). But having had the pleasure of a few dark things in my own life taught me a few things. Feeling sorry for myself like you do now didn't get me anywhere and it didn't get you anywhere either, else you wouldn't have posted this.
    Time for a change of pace. :)


    And again, I know the above wasn't a nice pat on the back. But it IS your way out. Nice doctors make for smelly wounds we say in my country.
    Also, if you want me to give you some more techniques I am perfectly willing to do that. I would have to know more about you tho and a public forum is not the place. :p
    So....

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=P5vz6iwV38U#t=131s
    (you are that guy in the mirror.)
    P.S. I really am not trying to dish you. If it feels like that I apologize. Really do. I won't take back anything I said but it was not posted to dish you. Nobody deserves to be treated like shit because the way they look but you are feeling sorry for yourself and that is plain wrong.
     
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  13. Nick1

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    any useful advice can be distilled to this:

    quit complaining and do something about it.
     
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  14. xrumering

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    @Amsterdammer +rep added.

    You've written all that for me, thank you !

    I was thinking the same, but I was afraid of realizing, that's what got me here.

    I don't treat myself like junk, but sometimes I don't respect myself at all.

    Thx for your time, advices and attitude, you're experienced person I see, I'd like to know about "some more techniques".

    P.S Why do you have to apology ? You helped me, A LOT! Thank you again.
     
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    hi, i am biginner in working wiht wordpress and can you say me how to insert images side by side in front page, like this?
     
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    anybody can say me how put images side by side in wordpress site? plzz :))))))))
     
  17. lakim0

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    Wrong thread buddy, open yours, or just google it.
     
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    I haven't read any of the other replies... but I can tell you from experience, just doing something about it and taking action will make you feel much more confident. My thing is, I've always been too skinny and thought no one would take me serious... really shitty feeling growing up.. but I started lifting free-weights and my confidence instantly went up. Its not hard to dedicate 3 days a week to working out, at 30-45 min workout sessions. If you don't like exercise, idk, losing weight is 90% diet, cut out bad foods, only drink water, make changes like that..

    Good luck! No reason to get all worked up though, you ARE FULLY CAPABLE of changing your body and getting your confidence up. If one man can do it, why can't you? You can!! Go to bb forums, bodybuilding.. dont be scared by the name, you will see many transformation logs and journals that will motivate you to change your body. People are doing this every single day, YOU CAN TOO!
     
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    I've already started taking action, I'm training twice a day, 2 hours per time. It's painful and difficult in the beginning, but it'll get more when I start to look better.

    Thanks everyone who have ever viewed this thread.
     
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    Action is being taken, that's the only solution to any problem. Wish you all the best in your pursuit.

     
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