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[HELP]This is killing me.

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by secretboy08, Apr 6, 2009.

  1. secretboy08

    secretboy08 Jr. VIP Jr. VIP

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    I make quite a decent living online.
    but the anxiety is killing me.
    i always set my goals 100% higher than what i earn currently and this is killing me.
    I cant sleep anymore.
    whenever i try to sleep i return to my PC within 2 hours.
    i have a team woring for me but still
    have the greed in me.
    this is affecting my health adversely.
    any tips from the experinced guys here to stay calm or something.

    how do you control your greed?
     
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  2. kingtrojan

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    i'm also addicted to my pc . 24 hours is not enough for a day :(
     
  3. istuff

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    I know what you mean dude. Leave the PC, go outside the house. Your brain is over stimulated. You can try and watch a movie on your tv, but the best bet would be to go outside the house to see friends or whatever
     
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    Ground yourself.

    I think in society most people tend to compare themselves with someone (or a group) who has more then them... so you always want to attain the next level to be like that person or group. i.e. keeping up with the Jones'.

    What most people don't do is see where they are and compare themselves to people who have less then them and realize how fortunate you are.

    Some people drive a Honda but want that Lexus and it kills them that they can't have that Lexus yet... but don't realize that some people just want one good meal a day and can't afford it.

    Perspective is everything.

    "if you look to others for fulfillment,
    you will never truly be fulfilled.
    if your happiness depends on money,
    you will never be happy with yourself.
    be content with what you have;
    rejoice in the way things are.
    when you realize that nothing is lacking,
    the whole world belongs to you!"

    - Lao Tzu
     
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  5. justthinking

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    xanax is quite an amazing drug.

    EDIT: drdankmendez: Most people who become addicted to xanax do so because they don't generally follow their doctor's directions. They start by taking one or two pills here or there, then it slowly increases over time. I believe if it is taken as prescribed for short periods of time, the risk of addiction is slim.

    By the way, I don't personally take any medication. My cousin takes it as prescribed and he is just fine. If he doesn't take it he says it is like his brain never stops. He can't relax enough to sleep until he is exhausted, then only for a few hours. It sounds similar to the OP problem. Their brains get stuck on a task or an idea and the wheels keep on spinning.
     
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  6. Jax08

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    See a counselor. It helps
     
  7. drdankmendez

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    xanax is pretty nasty addiction to beat...
     
  8. Jagged55

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    Take a real vacation....no laptop, no cell phone. It is hard to do but after a couple days it is heaven! The sky won't fall while you are gone.

    That and start setting realistic goals for yourself. It is fine to aim high but if you can never reach your goals, you never feel satisfied.
     
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    Yeah but the docs don't generally prescribe xanax on an ongoing basis.

    secretboy - have you read any Eckart Tolle? I have (or should I say had) a raging anxiety disorder (GAD) but the first time I read Tolle's The Power of Now it was like being hit by a plank of wood and suddenly seeing how futile and self perpetuated anxiety is. :0)
     
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    I did that.. but while I was away in Dominican Republic, I tried to remote desktop into my PC, but my router had changed the IP for my PC during a power failure.. and i couldn't remote in anymore! I had noip running as a service so finding the PC wasn't an issue. Needless to say, some of my automated systems went down and I lost a few thousand because of it. Stupid vacation. ;)

    I probably shouldn't have spend 3 weeks in DR either.. gets boring.



     
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    I was planning to do the same thing which u suggest but if I don't work I am gonna make any money :cool:
     
  13. mikeski

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    Exercise with friends... I agree with the other posts, even though it's hard to step away. I wouldn't know because I haven't done much online. Making little change here, and there, but don't get toooo greedy because that will tear you down.

    Just keep your head up, and try your best to take a little time away from the computer.. Hey, even a couple of hours helps.. Try not to stress out because that's when the health problems hit. Hope you get through it man..
     
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    Why in the Invisible Pink Unicorn's name would you want to control your greed?

    This... is... capitalism!
     
  15. gun-shy315

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    I make sure that I go out and have a good time at least once a week. Either Fri. or Sat. I find myself looking forward to it all week.

    I also make sure I always have a really good book to read. I might only read it 10-20 minutes a day but it helps take my mind off things.

    When I'm working I force myself to take breaks and surf some sites that are completely unrelated to IM...then I get back to work.

    I just started exercising again and that's probably the #1 thing you could possibly do for yourself. It relieves stress and helps sleep.

    As far as xanax goes. I've seen people coming off that shit. Not pretty is an understatement. I saw one guy sitting in a corner, completely disheveled, bug-eyed, talking to himself, crying, laughing and trying to pull his own hair out. Very glamorous.

    gun-shy
     
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    Ive been to a cognitive behavioural therapist for depression, and ive also been addicted like you secretboy. And it made my life horrible. But now im using what I learnt in cognitive behavioural therapy and getting off the computer and going outside etc. I use cbt to take a step back and look at the situation. I can then see that I dont need to spend 25 hours a day on the computer. One or 2 suffices for me now :)
     
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  17. KHMNTCPR8

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    try reading some chapters in rich dad poor dad. i had the same problem, the more money i made the more i expected my happiness to rise but it just didnt happen, infact ive been feeling worse. being rich does not solve the problem

    according to the book its because i'm acting in response to my emotions; fear of being broke, and desire for things (which i've been learning don't really make me happy). instead it says to be truthful about your emotions then use your thinking to decide what is really best for you, and not to be a slave to money but to let money work for you.

    btw that ekhart tolle book should work too i've been wanting to get it for a while now and i think i really need it..
     
  18. spikyy

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    How about making a regular program 4/8 hours per day for 5-6 days per week.