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Having girl trouble...any input especially from ladies

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by vegasvillan, Apr 8, 2009.

  1. vegasvillan

    vegasvillan Regular Member

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    I met this girl last week and we have went on 2 dates. We text each other all night long. If there were a perfect girl in my opinion she would be it. There is one problem she has a boyfriend. She wants to leave him and whenever were out all she talks about how much of a push over he is and how she wants to get rid of him but she feels bad. They only have sex once a month and he has no sex drive. They have been together 2 years.

    I want her to hurry up and leave his ass. She wants a guy with a wild side who is not a push over. I don't know what I should do. They live together and he just lost his job. I don't want to be over aggressive and end up pushing her away.

    I don't know if shes looking for a sex fling or what. I haven't had sex with her yet but I will be texting her all the nasty shit I want I want to do to her and she gets flattered. Should I let her relationship take its course or what? I dont know.

    I just wish I knew what she wanted from me.

    I bet you all think im some little pussy but im not...this chick just has me in a daze...lol
     
  2. wowhaxor

    wowhaxor Executive VIP Premium Member

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    Take it easy is your best bet. Let things happen time, pushing her will just annoy/stress her.
     
  3. oldenstylehats

    oldenstylehats Elite Member Premium Member

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    I'd let things take their natural course and not push too hard. If you've got a thing for her, don't put her in a position to cheat or she will... on you too. I've been in your shoes before, received the same advice I'm giving you, ignored it, and was cheated on. Also, be careful of tagging her as "perfect" or "the one." Putting someone on that kind of pedestal can lead a dude to justify some bad decisions. That also comes from experience. Good luck.
     
  4. aмillionaírе

    aмillionaírе Jr. VIP Jr. VIP Premium Member

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    If she asks for some money...run.

    Also, take notice of how she is cheating on her bf with you, it could easily be you in her bf's position in the future, think so?
     
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    nam6641 Supreme Member

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    Didn't you ever hear the saying "Never fuck with a man's family, job, or girl". When you break that rule you deserve whatever you get.
     
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  6. Erik

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    If your having girl problems....


    I feel bad for you son.


    I got 99 problems.





    But a bitch ain't 1.
     
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  7. callmelucid

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    she is obviously missing something in her life....

    are you going to be her emotional tampon or are you going to fill in that gap for her? i'll give you a hint: she isn't looking for friends
     
  8. Erik

    Erik Regular Member

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    Hmm ask her how she feels about e-whoring for you?
     
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  9. vegasvillan

    vegasvillan Regular Member

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    The funny thing is we had a talk about what it is I do and the topic of ewhoring did come up...She said she is looking for excitement in her life so I am going to give it to her but in small doses
     
  10. gun-shy315

    gun-shy315 Regular Member Premium Member

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    Trying to get with a girl that lives with another guy is a nightmare. I spent a good part of last summer doing this. I wound up frustrated and pissed off. Most girls rather "settle" and be comfortable rather than pack their shit, decide who gets to keep what, find a new place to live, deal with the drama etc...You want them AFTER they leave, not while they're still there.

    Just my experience,

    gun-shy
     
  11. GreenGoblin

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    Nah, You going about this all wrong, women are very very very smart...and dont forget that. They can see a sucker from a mile away..You have to gain her respect, because obviously shes pretty, so u can bet every guy has told her that, With that being said...U have to tame her, because shes un-tamed. She has a personality like this...I can do whatever i want, even cheat on my man, and ill find another fool (cough cough YOU!) and he will spend money on me...and i can have my cake and eat it too.

    The only way to tame a female of the caliber, its very hard and u have to actually plan every move and every action. For example when she calls...DO NOT stay on the phone with her for hours at a time. All that means to her is this I already got him, and this is not gonna be hard work fo her, u have to make her seem less important..because now guess what. unlikes her man shes cheating on with you YOUR DIFFRENT!!

    2. You can give her small doses...hard dick and bubble gum is what i like to call it ...no homo...when i say small doses, take her out to eat that's it...don't be taking a untamed female on trips and shit..on cruises, so she can brag to her friends how stupid u are...YES GIRLS DO THAT! ...JUST LIKE WE DO. you gotta make her feel as if shes not gaining any groud with you..because thats where the respect comes in women tend to say..OH WOW, he's not a sucker like I thought..hummm interesting.

    Last but not least, always look for the signs, when she starts calling u outta control, YOU GOT HER...when she starts talken about how u never around YOU GOT HER! and side note...if she ask u, when we going out again...your reply is always I DONT KNOW..but ill call u and let u know..don't be a little puppy dog chasing after a bone...women can sense a weak person.
     
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  12. jammy

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    man almost the same shit , happened to me ,

    in these cases u shouldnt wait too long , act right now , confront that guy ,
    tell him the truth that she is now in love with you .

    hasten , or the old guy might just pop up again .
     
  13. samspam

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    Agree with GreenGoblin. This smells like major trouble, dude. You are falling for her, and you have no idea what she wants. If she's hot, they are NOT just having sex once a month...that's just what YOU want to hear, and she knows it. Not trying to be negative here, but just don't believe everything a chick tells you. That's how they capture you, they are very smart. Also, it sounds like a big emotional crisis...I don't know, man, take it slow, see what she wants. If you really are into her, don't rush it, don't push it, find out what she wants.

    Like stated before, don't mess with a man's girl, some of them own shotguns. I know.
     
  14. marketingteam

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    Hey, I simply have dealt with too much women in all my life. I know exactly what your situation is. My guess is that she is manipulating you. If she is telling you lies that she doesn't like her boyfriend but still talks to him and hangs around with him, chances are that her current boyfriend is not spending time with her and helping her out and she just needs an emotional bl0wj0b and she is getting it from you.

    Is she telling you how nice you are? I see you saying that she's the perfect woman and you are posting this on the forum, so chances are you are very deep into this and thinking about having sex. I can say for sure you will never manage to have sex with her unless she is a psycho. If she is a normal woman, all she wants is just an emotional blowjob.

    What you should do now?

    If you are a male of higher status than her current boyfriend, you can make the relationship work. But for that, you shouldn't spend for her, you should lie to her, you should manipulate her, you should gold dig her.

    Otherwise, you have a 100% chance to hack BHW than to actually make her think about dating you :p

    PM me if you need any advise. I know these women very well and their every move.
     
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    ratdaddee Newbie

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    Run man, run as fast as you can!
    She's already cheating emotionally on her guy with you and at this rate you'll probably bag her soon.
    Then. In time, some other fool will be texting her while your laying next to her in bed asleep. You can't turn a ho into a housewife.
     
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    ^^ well women, they plan stuff ...unlike us guys, when we fed up with females...we just break up and hopefully we can still have sex if the break up won't that bad...females not like that...they will stick around till they find something better.

    I think this girl just excercising her options because she knows she can, that doesn't make her a bad girl, But u do have a point...Elizabeth26 who wants to deal with old baggage. Her boyfriend can be truely in-love with this girl...and would kill behind her. Just know this...everything that comes behind dealing with her u asked for it.
     
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  17. vegasvillan

    vegasvillan Regular Member

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    The funny thing I am telling this girl im a player and she loves me for it I have been around alot of girls who cheat and I honestly feel she has no cruel intentions toward me...I think the problem is she wants to leave her man but she does not know how, is scared, or to attached to the past...
     
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    vegasvillan Regular Member

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    We are meeting up tomorrow but I don't know where I want to take her. The only thing she does is dinner and a movie with her man. I don't want to go to a bar or to any of the clubs at the casinos...any tips
     
  19. GreenGoblin

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    Yeah, if she excited by u being a player..then her boyfriend prolly a goodie 2 shoes, If I was you..I would make her my friend and take her as your friend and just have fun, shes prolly young like 21 or 22. I mean in this case u got options, shes not looking for nothen serious with u...just a good time thus ...shes still with her man. I would take her bungy cord jumping...have I been before hell no...but that would give her a rush though...but DO NOT TRY TO BE HER MAN....you will run her away.
     
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    Man well said it took me a long time to figure that out and then it was like aha, i got you bitch lol jk
     
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