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Guy with his girlfirend started fight with me just for not giving him directions

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by PineappleCrush, May 17, 2016.

  1. PineappleCrush

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    I was walking by a trendy dressed type of couple around midnight on a saturday night. Usually I will walk on the other side of the road since nearly all drunks want to say something and mark their territory and prove themselves.

    Since it was a couple I presumed they might be more harmless. How wrong I was.

    Once I got side by side the guy immediately said in a condecending tone like he was demanding from me
    'hey! where is x hotel!?' since i did not like his tone I turned very slowly and didn't answer him because answering him and turned back to walking.

    Actually I don't even think he gave me chance to respond before following up with a racist remark 'i bet the bastard he doesn't even speak english' (since I am mixed race) which got a rise out of me and I said 'yes I really sound like a foreigner' and then under his breath he says 'prick'.

    I am a bit ahead of him now so I just half turn and put my thumb up to him. He gets more angry with more cursing and so I turn fully around and beckon him to 'come and have a go then!' but rather than stand still I kept walking. Does that make me a 'wimp' who 'backed down from protecting my manhood'? I heard him taunting me saying that I am 'running away' but I didn't look back.

    I trained in muay thai for two years and this guy was just a skinny trendy so I doubt he could fight but was probably coked up and spoiling for a fight. I feel like shit when things like this happen I always think 'why me?' or why are there so many such cretins in existence. Tough guys online like to say 'you were asking for it that shit would NEVER happen to me!' but I see plenty of big guys getting shit thrown at them on youtube videos so I don't think it is because of my 'weak demeanor'.

    Should I have handled it differently?

    In future I will avoid such situations altogether by always walking on the other side of the road where possible no matter if guys or girls. Only at night of course where such belligerence is rife. And if I have to walk by someone like that and they do say something I will try just running away at full speed. I don't mind running away I just don't like absorbing abuse and it is sort of a defiance because they expect you to just sit their and take their belittling.
     
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  2. Conor

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    It sounds to me like he was just irritated it was midnight and he still hadn't found his hotel, rather than being deliberately condescending towards you.

    I'd have just said "I don't know", and carried on my way.
     
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    He was an asshole probably because he was drunk. Not an excuse for bad manners though.

    You where an asshole. Because of ignoring him you more or less invited him to say something.

    Perhaps you shouldn't be allowed out on your own till you learn how to avoid these situations without having to cross the road.
     
  4. PineappleCrush

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    Bullshit. You can tell by someones inflections and tone when they are being antagonistic. He wanted to start trouble. And it wasn't even his hotel because he was going into his hotel when I was ahead of them he was walking into his own hotel. He probably just wanted an excuse to start an argument like when guys ask girls for the time as an obvious excuse to try and start conversation.
     
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    >trained muay thai for 2 years
    >Scared to get in fights

    son that's not what muay thai is for.

    Not saying you should get in a fight but you just sound like you were scared.

    Either way just say you didn't know or ignore the insults if you don't wanna fight. It's what I do and works like a charm.
     
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    OP You sound like an asshole, the dude just wanted to get laid and needed the direction for the hotel.

    And who opens a fucking thread about this kind of shit? If I start opening threads about every single conflicts I get into every day, I will probably be banned for spamming.
     
  7. PineappleCrush

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    Those situations certainly make me anxious and I definitely would be scared doesn't mean I'm not confident I would win if I had to.

    But I'm more scared of having to go to court or even getting prosecuted. I imagine both of them could gang up on me and say I instigated it. Say it was on camera you would just see me walking by and beckoning him to come at me bro then it would look like I was the aggressor. Plus being half black always makes you the suspect :).

    For example sometimes Ive been in a club just standing alone not doing anything to anyone and a guy tries to start conversation with girls by staring at me and talking about me to the girls and laughing. Then when I go up to the guy and ask him his problem he calls the bouncer on me and laughs with the girls cos he baited me.
     
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  8. michaelr1988

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    This is quite common in the UK. There is not much respect given, and lots of people itching for a fight. Walking away is the right thing to do. You don't know if he's carrying something like a knife, and its not worth spending time thinking about them. But you could of just said 'i don't know' and carried on walking.
     
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    I wonder what the other side of the story would be :)
     
  10. PineappleCrush

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    Sorry master I will try and follow your strict guidelines next time.

     
  11. PineappleCrush

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    Thank you brother a fellow brit that at least knows how the scene is round here. Lol and I have just seen your west ham avatar so I guess you know plenty about it :D

    'mouthy cunts as we call them' :)

    I doubt he had a knife just a huge ego which noone has ever cut down to size. He was some trendy materialist look at how much money and stuff I have kind of lad.

    More the type to cry foul and get you prosecuted I would say.
     
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    Either knock him out or walk away. Those are the only 2 options with a drunk person.
     
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    Just a drunk forget it , if u hit him there only say he vaunable
    under alcohol and u get time for violence.

    forgot ppl like this

    in the future stay away from trouble cross the road,he was a racists arcehole ....
     
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    Better to walk away than fight. OP you did the right thing.
     
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    I hate racists so much. OP, there's nothing wrong in what you did. He was probably embarrassed because you ignored him in front of his wh0re. Guys like this don't deserve respect. I get your "don't cause problems; peace is the way" kind of approach but a$$h0les like him need to be taught a lesson. You should've totally Muay Thai'd his a$$ and broke a couple of bones. That way, next time he will think before opening his mouth.

    Don't worry yourself. You are not a coward. You tried to avoid problems. Punching his face and getting your arm injured would surely get in the way of using your computer for IM. You did the right thing.
     
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    Actually, only 1 option imo...just walk away. Why hit someone when your life is not in danger?? Hit him and he falls, cracks his head on the pavement and you end up in jail for killing someone or causing grevious harm!! Not worth fighting under any circumstances unless you feel in real danger!!
     
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    You don't know if he's carrying something like a knife, and its not worth spending time thinking about them.
     
  18. PineappleCrush

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    Well this is generally the rule I give myself. Don't attack someone unless they attack you - unless there are no cameras around and just you and them ofc. but how often does that happen in this technological age. I think these guys are only mouthy because they know there are so many cameras around.

    As I think about it I would say I am scared of fighting but not that I avoid fighting because I am scared of it. Wheres when I was younger I did avoid fights due to fear. I avoid due to possible legal consequences. Because say there were no consequences I could just plow into him before he even had a chance to defend but since you have to prove self defence to get off charges if they are injured then you have to wait right till even they have started attacking you don't you?

    I guess you can goad ppl into attacking you but I don't think it's worth it :) Even if you got off charges I imagine you would still have to go to court and stuff wouldnt you which is a waste of time out of my IM work.

    I know a guy who gets in fights quite alot and he calls me 'soft' for not fighting any person that disrespects me. But he has told me now and then about how he's had to go to court though he doesn't go into detail.

     
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    Just a drunk trying to impress his bird. We all know how drunks can be, should have just told him you didn't know and carried on.
     
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    Dude, this has been on your mind since Saturday night?
    Let it go.