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friends come... friends leave...

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by lakim0, Jun 21, 2013.

  1. lakim0

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    They come, they leave... But do the real ones stay ?

    I'm 19 yo and out of 15 'real' friends whom I've been spending at least 6-7 hours daily with, I got 1 now.

    They all started to go to colleges, making new friends, I'm not saying it's bad, they forgot each-other.

    I was trying to re-new relationships, like "hey, let's go for a drink", they always had excuses.

    I let them go, now it feels like they did their job in my life.

    It's better to have few true friends than a bunch of fake ones - I'm starting to agree with this.

    I'm sure I'm not the only one.

    What's your thoughts, let me know...
     
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  2. Conor

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    I realised this not 3 days ago when I had to decide to invite to my 21st on the 8th of next month. Out of a few hundred Facebook friends I know personally, I was only comfortable inviting 4 people. These were the only close friends I've managed to keep over the years.
     
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    As I always say, the real friends, you can usually count on one hand, sometimes both - consider yourself lucky.
     
  4. SeanAustin

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    I'm not quite sure about what your defining fake as. I have 5 close friends who I have grown up with in my birth town since I was born (im 20 now). Close as in I can be myself 100% around them, can bust their balls as they bust mine, and who would without question have my back in a fight.

    And throughout these 20 years I have also made an additional 40 good friends, ones who I would say hi to at a party or at school, but not ones I would ever chill with unless they called me first.

    So I wouldn't call these friends fake, but rather not nearly as treasured as my close homies.

    Don't mind be critiquing, but I wouldn't be so rash as to call these once friends of yours "fake". Like you said, they came and went, and they did their job in your life. They had an impact on who you are which has ultimately changed your life. I believe the close friends we find in life are spiritually connected to our own self in one way or another. That's why it all just clicks when they're around.

    All this being said, No homo.
     
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  5. Junkfood00

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    sup yo, we sell friends here, 5 for $20 and 10 for $39.99, real steal if you ask me, u buyin'?
     
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  6. Goal Line Technology

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    Life is CONSTANTLY CHANGING.

    ....true friendships last, even if they tend to fluctuate from time to time,
    and the sign of a good quality freindship is when - after meeeting up with "an old freind" -
    many years later, it will seem just like yesterday.

    Don't fret, it is only life, your personal developement and self actualisation of who YOU are.

    You will also meet new people, foster new friendships etc, and
    eventually you will be the one who discovers how hard it is to find time for all your friends.

    As you get older, you will soon relaise that almost everyone is this world has a toal of only 4,5, or 6 REAL 100% FRIENDS / FAMILY
    that they will share ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING with, and who they trust 110%.

    Your life is ahead of you, dont get despondent, you are still very young, and believe me, your world WILL become great,
    if you put the effort in to enjoying it, being honest and living it to the max in a safe and pleasant manner.

    Good Luck OP
     
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  7. jinntana

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    As you get older life sieves out the true people from among your friends and family as time passes. I'm only 22 and had so many fake friends and family and saw alot of people change. Im sure the senior people on this forum will also tell you how people change as time goes by and someone who you may have been really close with in the next few years might not even be there when you most need them. But than again if you do have a friend that does stick with you through all the bullshit of the world, its a friendship that is truly great.
     
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    In time you will realize that if you have even 1 true friend its a big deal.
     
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  9. lakim0

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    Nope, you're misunderstanding now, I don't care about ones I just say 'hi' to. They are friends, just friends, but I was talking about my best friends. The ones I always trusted, we had a great relationship, trust and so on. I don't blame them for making new friends and not being able to find time for me.

    They changed, even though I didn't want to, I started to see them crawling out from fights, talking about me in my back etc etc..

    It's very easy to forget 'good' job someone did for you. I had an accident, the guy I was close to started to ignore me (and not only me) somehow, he got a nice job and forgot about us. A few months he lost his job and crawled back to me asking for money, bitching about how life was cruel so he couldn't find time for his friends.

    Most of them became like this. I don't blame anyone, I'm just learning to put black and white separately.

    It's just sad to watch them walk away so carelessly.
     
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  11. TedNugent

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    I feel your pain brotha. Im no longer really best friends with my best friend of over 8 years. We had very different ways of living. I had lots of girlfriends, he was always jealous of me and liked every single one of them and many many times tried to get with them behind my back. I forgave him every time he did. About 2 years ago, I had a very nasty breakup with a girlfriend of mine. No violence or anything, but we would always argue, talk crap on eachother, that kind of stuff. The whole time, all my friends besides him were on my side supporting me the whole way. My "best friend" however would always be by her side hoping to get something out of it. Eventually we drifted apart. Odd thing is is that he still talks to all of my Ex GFs and tries to get with them. It never works. We was crazy about one of my ex gfs for like 4 years and was going after a different one for 4 years. After 4 years of her rejecting him, I asked her out, she said yes. So he had a pretty bad time now that I think about it, but still, its stupid to let girls get between friends. Oh well.

    Now, I have a new best friend really. You'll learn that as you get older, people drift apart. College, Jobs, Lives. All of those things get in the way when you grow up. You got out of high school. The chapter is different. You have to learn to live in this new world of yours. Im 24 now, so I have been out of high school for a good while. I have new friends, different hobbies, different ways of going out. Things change. Dont worry man, youll be fine. Just talk to people, make friends and eventually, you'll be good

    Best of luck dude :D
     
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  12. Volation

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    this thread actually means alot, the hats of the those who speak the truth.
     
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  13. lakim0

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    Nice replies...

    It's not like that I'm desperate about them or something.

    I was just curious what you think.

    I'm very social and can easily make new friends, but 99% of them are stupid ones.
     
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    I know hundreds of people that are "friends" but I have a close circle of about 10 that I talk to every week.

    You have to weed through the fakes to find the real ones. Sometimes its tough on you but in the end it's worth it because you'll have those select few who would help you out whenever you need it.

    As for losing touch with friends, it happens all the time. I talk to about 2 people I went to highschool with, and those are 2 of the 10 I'm referring to in my close circle.

    lol, a couple of my friends actually went over and helped my mom move some furniture when I was out of town a few years back. Now that's a good group right there :D
     
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    I have about 4k friends on Facebook of which 3950 I don't know......:D
    In fact I think I'd be happy if I had 1-2 best buds who will stick with me till the end and even in the time of trouble :)
     
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    That being said, from my experience people only keep you around when they need something or it's benefiting them personally. It will get worse with time, but don't stress it.

    I wouldn't worry, those that matter will stick around. If you want a real friend, go buy a dog.

    [video=youtube_share;nzGfpsgMFn4]http://youtu.be/nzGfpsgMFn4[/video]
     
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    Consider yourself lucky when you have 1 real friend who would going through with you through your trouble, especially financially.

    I'm not saying this for everyone but friends, in my case, are pure bullshit.

    Family comes first, friends second.
     
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    I think the problem is social media to be honest. People add each other and call one another friends just meeting the person. To me its just foreign, maybe I am old school but friendship is more than just getting an invite to a birthday party or a facebook add its about someone that shares common interests and is with you when things are tough, happy, good, bad etc .That friendship should not be confused with what today's standards which are more like an acquiescence.
     
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    ....this is it right here!

    (trust me...i'm way older than most of you guys.....this is the Truth).
     
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    The iron never lies to you. You can walk outside and listen to all kinds of talk, get told that you're a god or a total bastard. The iron will always kick you the real deal. The iron is the great reference point, the all-knowing perspective giver. Always there like a beacon in the pitch black. I have found the iron to be my greatest friend... It never freaks out on me, never runs. Friends may come and go. But two hundred pounds is always two hundred pounds.

    -Henry Rollins
     
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