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Friends and Family Just Don't Get it

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by SnoopyDrew, Jun 29, 2015.

  1. SnoopyDrew

    SnoopyDrew Senior Member

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    Whats funny about IM is that even when you are making good money and your friends and family see the money rolling in, yet they still don't think its legitimate enough because they just don't understand. Its not your standard 9-5 job that everybody is used to so they think that you are just not doing enough with your life or you are lazy. If they could only see the amount of time and effort that IMers put into this work then they would finally understand.

    Yes this looks like a facebook post but I just needed a place to vent a bit.

    All I can say is that I am glad that I found this forum because without it I would not be in this position right now and I would probably be working at Mcdonalds like most of my friends.
     
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    They want you to be a sheeple with them
     
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    SnoopyDrew Senior Member

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    I always think of this photo when I talk about this subject.
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    Personally, it all changed once I got my first check. Well, my mom was always supportive but my friends just thought I was a nerd for spending this much time infront of my computer. If I were you, I would just not care what they think. As long as you can live of the money you make they shouldn't stop you from doing this. Maybe talk to them how you feel, and how much time you've put into making it this far - they might realize how much work you're putting in.

    If they cannot accept you for who you are, they are not real friends.

    Best of luck dude!
     
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  6. Capo Dei Capi

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    What kind of way are you describing it or calling it to them?
     
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    i understand what u mean. but just keep working hard on your IM and their doubts will slowly fade away
     
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    First , does it matter what they think? Will tomorrow change based on what they have to say? Do you have to flip burgers now?

    No to all 3 ? Well I' say just carry on and don't care. I know family might be a little different but "friends" who cares. I honestly could give a f... less what people think in general. Should nothing change on impressions ppl have then I could not care less.

    Well continued success anyways.
     
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    I don't know why you even care.
    You can't expect people to understand your job or whatever else it is as no one is the same.

    Usually people refuse to accept that someone can make lot of money and "do nothing", but they spend half of there life's studying and slowly building carriers to get there.
    Its not easy to tell someone that you are making more then them and he spend 20 years to get there.
     
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    They start to get it when they ask for something at 2PM on a Monday and you reply, 'Yeah, I'm free'. All the while paying you bills.
     
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    Yeah when it comes to friends thinking it I could really care less, but when your family thinks you are lazy because you sit in front of a computer all day. It does hurt, and when they tell you that you are not a productive member of society it really makes me laugh.

    All I can do is prove them wrong I guess.

    If it makes my family feel better I will get a stupid part time job just to shut them up, but in the end its just temporary because I know IM will become my full time job in the years to come.

    My goal is 5k a month and at the rate I am going I don't think this is a fairy tale income, I think its very possible especially considering I don't have any kids,girlfriend or anybody else to support and I don't plan on it.
     
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    In, what way would you recommend I explain it to them? I tried explaining to them that I rank my own websites in the google search engine for specific words. When people search for the specific words they see my site first.
     
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    I do not blame them, when I am sat on holiday 95% of my time, I do not get their job either.
     
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    Your so right. They just dont see it.
     
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    What's wrong with McDonald's? Their fake breakfast kinda good... Family will do understand if you EXPLAIN right but friends don't, they just want you to buy beer.
     
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    You explain it like this...

    "You know how when you listen to the radio or watch television there are commercials? There are people who make those commercials, people who buy those ad spots, people who research when are the best times to show those ads. That's what I'm doing, but for the internet."

    Or, this one is kind of the same, but more of a joke... "You know that show 'Mad Men?' That's me, but for the internet." <--I use this one on my friends.

    In the end people don't understand that Google and Bing and all the other search engines are just programs that can be manipulated. You start talking about rankings and they think you're crazy because to them the search engines are like magic and can't be spoofed, usually.

    I got lucky with my family. Not only do they understand and support me, but they asked me to do the same things for their business too.
     
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    I'm pretty sure its not sitting in front of a computer, its probably not earning well that is the issue. There are loads of jobs out there that involve sitting in front of a computer for most of the day, yet no one is calling them non productive, because they are earning good money.
     
  19. SnoopyDrew

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    haha you dont know my family, most of my family doesn't even know how to use a computer.
     
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    Including mine :D My DAD knows how to but my mom has no idea :D :D