follow up: Dating Advice

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She contacted me, told me she had never had anyone who genuinely cared about her. I was like okay but it wasn't cool to leave me hanging.

We had more sex, and more and then I left and went home. She called me 30 mins after I left, wondering where I was. I told her I went home. She wanted me to come back.

I think she will pull the same shit, but I am being open minded.

What y'all think?

She said, she was afraid to be with me because she feels that I might be the last one she is ever with. That actually scared me to the point of drinking right now..

help brother of BHW and of course you beautiful blackhattin' women!
 

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i think we need the first part of the story............seems to start in the middle
 

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http://www.blackhatworld.com/blackhat-seo/blackhat-lounge/140876-dating-advice.html

thats the beginning
 

angelas111

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ok. best thing i can say as a woman is play hard to get. if you are always available she will not be that interested. but if you are unavailable she will want you. this whole thing has nothing to do with how you are in bed.................
 

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ok. best thing i can say as a woman is play hard to get. if you are always available she will not be that interested. but if you are unavailable she will want you. this whole thing has nothing to do with how you are in bed.................

This may be for you... but there are tons of women who believe the bedroom is one of the most important aspects of the relationship, if they are not getting satisfied, they ain't stickin around.

Some women don't care about that aspect, but the majority do.
 

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Let her chase you. She is the one that has to comply, not you.
 

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That actually scared me to the point of drinking right now..


lol

welcome to the world of women

One of the biggest breakthroughs i ever had with women is learning one thing:

DON'T LISTEN TO WHAT THEY SAY

I used to take what they say at face value. I was so naive.

Most women do not know what they want most of the time.

And when it comes to men, she is even more confused about her mind than you are.

This phenomenon is nicely described by Malcolm Gladwell in the bestseller Blink:

"...how good is Mary at predicting what she likes in a man? Fisman and Iyengar can answer that question really easily, and what they find when they compare what speed-daters say they want with what they are actually attracted to in the moment is that those two things don't match. For example, if Mary said at the start of the evening that she wanted someone intelligent and sincere, that in no way means she'll be attracted only to intelligent and sincere men."

"It's just as likely that John, whom she likes more than anyone else, could turn out to be attractive and funny but not particularly sincere or smart at all. Second, if all the men Mary ends up liking during the speed-dating are more attractive and funny than they are smart and sincere, on the next day, when she's asked to describe her perfect man, Mary will say that she likes attractive and funny men. But that's just the next day. If you ask her again a month later, she'll be back to saying that she wants intelligent and sincere."

"You can be forgiven if you found the previous paragraph confusing. It is confusing: Mary says that she wants a certain kind of person. But then she is given a roomful of choices and she meets someone whom she really likes, and in that instant she completely changes her mind about what kind of person she wants. But then a month passes, and she goes back to what she originally said she wanted."
 

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ni99a, any followup on this?

I agree don't listen to what she says but her actions will tell you the truth.

She's 25? Was she married or in a long term relationship before? If so she may have commitment issues, I did when I was younger bad.
 

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She totally mind fucked me. I think she has insecurities but knows she is hot but just plays. Bull fucking shizzle ...

I am too busy right now making money and getting my projects rolling to think about any bitches.

She hasn't been dating that long either. So we'll see where it goes ... NEVER!
 

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If you want to know what a man is thinking, think of the simplest possible thing, and that's the answer.

If you want to know what a woman is thinking, write down 12 possibilities, and roll some dice.

* note - if the woman is under thirty years old, you will need to write down 24 possibilities, and you'll need more dice.
 

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I actually just read both threads. Glad to see that you have overcome your woes. Shit happens.

I want to share some quote that I heard in some movie somewhere...

"You will lose plenty of money chasing women, but you will never lose any women chasing money."
 

Spud Jr

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Eh, it blew monkey ball chunks. Stupid real life whore
 
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