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First time you moved in with a woman - share your experiences

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by JimmyWong, Dec 1, 2012.

  1. JimmyWong

    JimmyWong Registered Member

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    Hi guys.

    I'm 26, and moved into a place with my girlfriend of 1 year.

    3 months in and currently going through some turbulent times. Mainly due to boundaries and so on. I can elaborate but would only bore you.

    Would love to hear your stories and experiences.

    Best

    Jimmy
     
  2. Qokaine

    Qokaine Regular Member

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    are you looking for more of stories & experiences on moving in with a girlfriend or girlfriends in general?

    and if you're fighting with ur gf and alrdy 3 months in, then ur doin it wrong. dont live with someone you'd fight with.
     
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    AR!ZONA Regular Member

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    Nope.
    It's good to work things like this out.
    If she's worth it, then you'll find a reason to work through it.
     
  4. JimmyWong

    JimmyWong Registered Member

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    Qokaine

    Both really. Just seeing how you guys manage this and so on.

    Found the relationship can be a bit different when you're together all the time. Gotta say I miss my freedom :(
     
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    srb888 Elite Member

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    That normally happens when you stay in your GF's house. Another 3 months there and you'll be out again... alone.

    Make serious money and get your own house first, man.


    j/k


    Fights are part and parcels of life together.

    Obviously you can't be fighting anyone if you stay alone!


    Earlier, you met with your best dresses on. Half of the time, you petted and talked sweet.

    Now after moving in and spending those early moments, that portion is a small fraction... most of the time you both see each other as untidy... cleaners and scrubbers... in your casuals or nothing on. Smelly and sweaty... That's boring sometimes.:) The fights, rages, re-thinkings and mulling-overs usually follow...

    Only if there isn't something more latent platonic between you... you'd carry on living together for some more time. You both would survive each other if you've that additional something called platonic. You can build it between yourselves... not hard if you're understanding and both the hearts want it desperately. :)
     
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    ferma231 Elite Member

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    Listen to Eric Thomas for a while, all episods and you are done
    im 18, and damn, fights wont get you both nowhere, you need to change if you want to keep this relationship

     
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  7. Reyone

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    Could not agree anymore.

    Fights happen, specially when you just move it with a new girl, specially when it is your first time ever.

    Im 25, I moved in with a girl when i was 19, it was hard and painful, but there is also a lot of positives; after 3 years we broke up. I moved in with another girl when I was 22 and it is the best thing it has ever happened. We might argue, but who the fuck cares, arguing is part of living together, the road cannot be pink and flowery all along.
     
  8. matei

    matei Junior Member

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    I've been living with my gf for more than 2 years now.
    Good parts: sex, food, free place to stay (well, that's what I thought), no need to wash clothes or iron them;
    Bad parts: women are weird and my girlfriend wants more and more clothes.
    #storyofmylife
     
  9. The Scarlet Pimp

    The Scarlet Pimp Senior Member

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    i quickly learned that you just can't put a price on freedom... :D
     
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    kvmcable Supreme Member

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    Sorry I can't remember that far back. That said just learn to air out what makes you angry and get the hell over it. Goes for both.

    Please oh please make damn sure you don't produce any children until you're sure it's right. Children deserve a Mom and a Dad and not a fraction of each. Raising a child is a full time job for both parents. It breaks my heart to see kids suffer because some young adults (and older ones) forgot what birth control was for and had "accidents" that nobody wants. Children are innocent, don't make them if you can't raise them.

    rant off.
     
  11. vitaliysem

    vitaliysem Regular Member

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    Not really move in but my girlfriend once came to my house for a summer. It was awesome I had sex with her 5 times a day and we were having a good time in general. The only problem was that this girl took over all my closets and my room was a MESS the whole summer!
     
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    OH THE BEST THING SORRY was when the angry sweaty make up sex happen!
     
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    I was also 26 when i first moved in with a girl. She was 22 at the time and a little bit into the party lifestyle just as I was beginning to leave it. It was a difficult period to adjust to. I also had too big of a heart I think. I met her only a month before she moved in with me, and I did that because the lease at her place was ending and she didn't want to renew it with her current roommate.

    She moved in with me, and of course i made more money. It ended up being me paying for everything. All food, bills, rent, our dates, sometimes she would just take a couple hundred bucks out of my wallet and go out with her friends for the night. After a while it got old.

    We fought a lot and even my parents got involved telling me I should ask her to leave because they could see how much i hated the situation. Alas, my stupid self-LESS-ness kept her around because I didn't want to put her in a situation of finding where she would live.

    Of course that all ended when I came home a day early from a business trip and she was fucking some guy in my bed. Lesson learned. True story.
     
  14. vitaliysem

    vitaliysem Regular Member

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    Man reading that actually made me sad. WHAT AN EVIL PERSON. I was a nice guy once too lol good thing I learnt from a young age + I am from Israel we treat women differently than canada :p
     
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    Oh I should have followed up with the best part: She is now married to a farmer with 3 kids. She's ENORMOUSLY overweight, and her husband is a racist, bigot, misogynistic hillbilly. The girl i met after her has been the most loyal, drop dead knockout, giving woman I've ever met. Doesn't hurt that she was also a ground level (first 20) employee of a tech company we talk about quite a bit on this forum that IPO'd recently. Life is good. Karmas a bitch. Hahaha
     
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    Thats good man life hits people that like to hit on other lives!
     
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    That was a sad story. I don't want to have that feeling again - being cheated :(
     
  18. madoctopus

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    Think of this like the marriage equivalent of Hell Week from SEAL training. The time both of you use to figure out if you can actually live together and be happy. There's a big difference between staying together a while and staying together for a long time/marriage and is best to break up sooner than later when you may have kids and all that. I know very very unhappy people who are "trapped" in a marriage or relationship because of a child. You don't want to end up there. None of you. An unhappy friend of mine once told me "Live together at least 1 year before even considering marriage. Both will change drastically and behave very different when you live together for a long time. If you're happy after a long time you have a chance, if you feel miserable is best to go each on his way."

    If you want advice on how to get along better, can't really give you any. Rule of thumb to remember is women are not logical creatures. They act based on feelings not logic. Also never ever behave like the woman wants you to. Don't be an asshole and do stuff like fart around her because she told you not to do it, but for the "shit tests" (google that) never fall for them. She has to feel relaxed and comfortable but dominated. A real MAN behaves in a certain way just like a real WOMAN behaves in a certain way. Any person on this planet is looking for a REAL MAN/WOMAN partner. The closer you are to that the better. It is not even something one could describe, but it is something you know instinctively about a partner - if he is a real man/woman or how close to one he is.

    just my 2c
     
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  19. iglow

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    for me moving was easy but i knew her for like 3 years before
     
  20. madoctopus

    madoctopus Supreme Member

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    I could live with the idea of a woman cheating me. After all they do get horny and craving just like we do. So while it may hurt me, I'd get over that. Cheating me in MY OWN BED... that's just damn rude. Especially when you don't fking pay rent with me or anything for that matter. That's not even love related, it is simply being fair play and not an asshole.
     
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