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Family problem. Please help take the right decision

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Ibeefaaa, Sep 21, 2010.

  1. Ibeefaaa

    Ibeefaaa Regular Member

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    This post is going to be a little longer than usual but please bare with me ...
    The story goes like this...
    I used to work for my uncle (my mother's sister's husband) as his personal driver until the company started to go down-hill very bad and he could not afford to pay me anymore. This was about 2 years ago, right before i've started my IM journey so I had no other income stream and I had to find something else to work and sustain myself financially. My aunt and uncle were for me like a mother and father and they treated me like their own son and I have a HUGE respect for them both. My uncle made lots of money (maybe millions $), they even have a certificate as being the best company in their niche for a few years in a row and everybody said that my uncle is a VERY smart business man but what I think that was his biggest mistake in this whole thing was that he wanted to make everything by his own and by this i mean that he didn't have a good structured staff in his company, he was the the big boss, the secretary, the production manager, the sales and the marketing agent and before I started to work for him he was the driver too. (I saw him holding 2 mobile phones <he was usually carrying 3 and sometimes 4 with him> by his ears and driving with his elbows).
    So yeah, he is a workaholic or maybe he just couldn't trust somebody else that a job can be made as good as he can do it.

    The fact is that he kind of burned himself out and started to not take the best decisions like he used too (in my opinion, sometimes is taking the worst decision possible from other 3-4 bets) and that is not only in business but with his family and in every other aspect of his life ....and as a conclusion, they are now bankrupt and with no chance to revive even though he is struggling very hard and in his 'madness' he's trying to work things out and he doesn't want to take any advice from anybody.
    The thing where I wanted to get to is that my aunt says that my uncle is recently missing from home for about 2-3 hours almost every other evening and when she asks him where he is going he tells her he's going to meet someone for some business in "that" or "other" place.
    She says she is very worried for him and she doesn't think that he might have an affair (because a broke man and in his situation does not care about affairs) but still, next time when it will happen she wants me to go pick her up and drive her to see if my uncle really is in the place where he said he will be and if he is not, to look for him around. (she doesn't have a d.l. and they are so broke that she can't afford to pay for a taxi).

    My question is ...What should i do ?
    1.Cooperate with my aunt ?
    2.When it will happen, to call my uncle and tell him to go where he said it will go (if he is not there) ?
    3. Refuse my aunt and tell her to look for somebody else for this "job" ? (i don't like this idea, she was to good with me)

    Please put yourself in my shoes for a minute and tell me what would you do. :confused:

    Thank you so much !
     
  2. Ibeefaaa

    Ibeefaaa Regular Member

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    BUMP ...somebody ? anybody ?
     
  3. tacopalypse

    tacopalypse Executive VIP Jr. VIP Premium Member

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    eh.. i would stay out of it
    but that's just me
     
  4. bertbaby

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    Recommend one or both seek counseling. There is more to your uncle's behavior than a failed business.
     
  5. Axelz

    Axelz Registered Member

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    I'd go just for the suspense.
     
  6. AGSniper

    AGSniper Regular Member

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    Your aunts insecurity is causing her to do something like this. I know it's tough times for her, but they are married and this is a matter of trust in the marriage. It's not your problem, so stay out of it.

    Tell your aunt not to hire anyone else either. She should confront your uncle in an adult like way and discuss this with him. If your uncle is a smart business man, he will understand the concerns floating in your aunts head. This is probably the best thing to do.

    Hope it helps.
     
  7. Remington

    Remington Regular Member

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    This! I couldn't resist the chance to find out what was going on.

    You just may get to the bottom of why he's acting so crazy and ending up so broke. Drugs? Loan sharks? Money's really all in a mistress' account?

    Do it, find out!

    Then post updates :listen:
     
  8. Chronos

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    He needs to learn to delegate powers (trust) to his associates.

    If he's worried about his workers trying to scam him, he needs to put in place some checks and balances within his business.


    I remember working with a gas company and the guy owned 4 different locations all 300 miles away from eachother. He would do EVERYTHING. He did everything from the scheduling the work weeks to buying the 50$ worth of office supplies. The most interesting thing was with over 100 employees in a multi-million dollar business, the workers had to call him directly for permission to take a day off. That's crazy.

    Your Uncle needs to hire a small management firm to help him reorganize his business. They will help him pass some of the powers down the employee strucutre all the while putting in checks and balances so his workers can't screw him over. It's almost magical what a management firm can offer.

    Your Uncle needs to focus on the big picture of the company. He's the big boss and needs to make the big boss decisions. He shouldn't be carrying 4 phones at anytime, or driving the van.