So its become more and more apparent to me over the years that the more competent I appear to become, the more I am expected to pick up the slack of others in my family... Maybe I should appear incompetent and I won't be asked to do ridiculous favors, like washing a car that isn't mine or posting an ad on CL to sell the same car? For example, today, a family member of mine didn't know how to unlock her brick flip phone, so she presumes I should do it for. Her logic is that since I know how to jailbreak an iphone, I just MUST know how to unlock a flip phone, and that is my duty to do so. After all, it isn't my phone, so it must be my duty... Well as anyone who doesn't assumes should know, jailbreaking an iphone and unlocking a POS flip phone are 2 very different tasks. That would be like asking a Lamborghini mechanic to fix a a 1988 taurus. Yet, since she was able to figure out how to unlock her phone before I was, she presumes that I didn't try and therefore I didn't even bother to help. And I don't hear the end of it for most of an hour. I tell her what I told you above, yet she still claims that I did nothing to help her, and that I am to blame for the strife. I rarely ask for her help, because I am of the camp that believes that if I have the time and ability to do so, I should solve my own problems instead of assuming others know more about them and handing them off to them to be fixed, even though they know nothing more than I do about the issue at hand. The response I received was "I don't live life tit for tat", to which I respond, "I don't live my life expecting others to solve problems that I can solve myself". For some reason, what I say is a foreign language as far as she is concerned. I only see her a few months out of the year because she lives in a different part of the country, which should only mean that she should be asking for fewer favors, since our time together is short. I love her, but I don't love this side of her. Do I have my head screwed on straight? Or am I missing something?