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Don't take for granted what you have in front of you

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by 2011nfl, Aug 12, 2012.

  1. 2011nfl

    2011nfl Supreme Member

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    I know that when you are an internet marketer, or even just working for someone else, it is so easy to get wrapped up in your work and forget about those who need you. Its natural that people feel like money is everything, because that is the way that society has it set up. You have to make money to live. But all too often we have someone right in front of us begging for our attention, and we neglect their needs. I am guilty of this. Yes, I am a good father and husband, and yes I take care of my family well, but I neglected their emotional needs the whole time. Now my family has been broken up for nearly 4 months, and today was my daughters birthday and I missed it. Now I feel terrible because I realize that the money I made is completely worthless without my angels. So when my family is finally back together, I now know what I have to do because I don't want to regret anything again. I hope some of you reading this will take a page from my book and take at least a little more time out of each day and hold those close to you and let them know that you care.
     
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    I'm a father of twin 3 year old girls...I'm guilty of this too (probably more often than I'd like to admit). Don't beat yourself up over it though...for me, I'm the sole bread winner. I work late hours, don't get home until 8pm sometimes when they are in bed. It is difficult to shut the laptop down and spend time with them when all you can think about is how you're going to improve revenue. But today I took those few hours and played tinker toys with them...it was a great evening. No crying, no upset wife...my family had dad around.
     
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    True post. You can't neglect your kids and wife/husband. I am fortunate enough to work from home. I do zone out for hours at a time but my little girl does come in the office and plays on the floor while I am working. Sometimes I look and just found out she has emptied one of my files on the floor coloring on some of my paperwork. What can you do? You just have to find middle ground. Sometimes I will stop for an hour and go take her in the pool or watch a cartoon with her but I feel I spend time with her. I think I take my wife for granted to much though and I need to start spending more time with here too. She is busy running around with our child and doing errands, etc etc and I work on the computer all the time and we never really take time for the two of us anymore. Good post and you made me think that I need to try a little harder with my beautiful wife.
     
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    Now that I think about it, I do work from home on wednesdays...so I do spend time with them, but I'm usually on the laptop in the living room. Not like I'm focusing on them when I'm working, but at least I'm around and they can talk to me...I'm thankful for that at least.
     
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    "A Professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front
    of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and
    empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then
    asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

    So the Professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the
    jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas
    between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was
    full. They agreed it was.

    The Professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of
    course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar
    was full. The students responded with an unanimous "Yes."

    The Professor then produced two cans of beer from under the table and
    poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty
    space between the sand. The students laughed.

    "Now," said the Professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to
    recognize that this jar represents your life.

    The golf balls are the important things - your family, your children, your
    health, your friends, your favorite passions - things that if everything
    else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

    The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house,
    your car. The sand is everything else - the small stuff."

    "If you put the sand into the jar first", he continued, "there is no room
    for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all
    your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the
    things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are
    critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get
    medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There
    will always be time to clean the house, and fix the disposal. Take care of
    the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities.
    The rest is just sand."

    When he had finished, there was a profound silence. Then one of the
    students raised her hand and with a puzzled expression, inquired what the
    beer represented.

    The Professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no
    matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of
    beers.""
     
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  6. 2011nfl

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    That all made perfect sense, and the ending was funny as hell :)
     
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    epic.