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Don't judge, just offer advice if you can

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by JaxMan, Dec 2, 2016.

  1. JaxMan

    JaxMan Registered Member

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    I'm in a bad spot. I have lived with a nasty, verbally abusive drunk for 4 years. I got myself into the mess, I get it but until about a year ago, she (yes, it's a she) was spending my $$ like water. I took back control but still have to live with daily attacks that chip away at everything. I never thought i'd be in this kind of situation but here I am.

    Only I can get myself out and I work my a** off full time and then some and scrimp to save to move myself, 2 dogs and a cat the hell out. The problem is that she contributes nothing and I am still hemorrhaging money. I do some writing here and there, when I can but that too isn't consistent. I'm versed in WP, SEO, reviews, and a million other things i've learned here.

    I need advice, seriously. If you were in this shi**y situation and had the resources to create a steady flow of money online, what would you choose and why? I am not looking for fast. I'm realistic but so beaten down that it's hard to pull it together sometimes. I know how to use most tools but don't have the extra $$ to buy most of them. Help?
     
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  2. rickychardlo

    rickychardlo Newbie

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    do an amazon affiliate site, it will generate passive income for you
     
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  3. Purush

    Purush Jr. VIP Jr. VIP

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    you could create a blog but you need to be good at content in your interested area. It does not require much money to start , but require lot of time.
     
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    1. Pick a niche you are knowledgeable about
    2. Keyword research
    3. Buy a domain
    4. Publish one article or more to that blog every single day. without fail.
    5. Do this for a month before you start marketing. Continue writing till you have reach expected income levels.
    6. Create you FB + Twitter account
    7. Goto IFTTT and setup a applet to post your new blog posts automatically both on your FB & twitter feed
    8. Create another applet on IFTTT to search for Twitter users using relevant keyword and add them to a list
    9. Follow everybody on that list and use one of the twitter tools to tweet out your content to them
    10. Join relevant groups on FB and share your content there
    11. Do the same with reddit after joining subreddits.
    12. Write some more.
    13. Adsense/affiliate/anything else for monetization depending on the niche you go after.
    14. CREATE AN EMAIL LIST! (Yes, am shouting) Use mailchimp or whatever you like, create a small giveaway if you have to for the email list.
    15. I could give more advice, but it would take time till you get to this point. and if you do, let me know. I will guide you with what little knowledge I have.

    EDIT: This is a rough outline how I would go about it. Obviously you can mix it up, the premises are roughly the same. Put out content.

    Or you can create a vlog too.
    1. Goto to a busy street in your city
    2. interview people about random topics walking on the sidewalk.
    3. Could be anything, like "What do you think about Trump" or something controversial.
    4. Or interview drunk gurls outside bars. YT loves that shit.
    5. Put out a video regularly.
    6. Pretty soon you will be raking in $$$ with Adsense.
    7. IG+TWITTER+FB the shit out of your video for promotion.
    EIDT1: Like anything worthwhile, both the vlog and blog will take time and commitment. At a certain point, things would just "click" and your traffic will start growing organically.
     
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  5. Purush

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    appreciated your list of sequence points. it would really help him.
     
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  6. No.RuleZ

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    why are you with that girl? she is the problem and wont change
     
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    Never used IFTTT tbh..will give it a go!
     
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  8. Zwielicht

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    I'd kick her out.

    By the way, why haven't you kicked her out yet?
     
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    First off, break off with that girl. The last thing you want is a negative influence. Internet marketing is hard work, it takes dedication and practise to get good at. Having the wrong environment will just sabotage your progress.

    Next, research around. Find a method you like. Amazon affiliate is good if you are willing to pump out high quality articles and spend lots of time on keyword research and only expect results in half a year or so.

    But no matter what method, you need to end it with the girl.
     
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  10. karupoiss

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    I have a feeling the OP is living at her place.. otherwise there would be no reason why he can't get rid of her now.
     
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    Vlog never came to mind. The idea looks quite good and interesting too
     
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    A common symptom of emotioal abuse is attachment. Almost the same way stockholm syndrome works.

    There are sections of Reddit where wealthier members loan out money for this sort of thing. Something like https://www.reddit.com/r/borrow/

    Good luck OP, hope you get out of your situation.
     
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  13. bartosimpsonio

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    As others have said you have 2 different things going on here:

    1) Her. You need to end this relationship. She'll kill herself? It's none of your fault

    2) Your career.

    One has zero relation to the other. You won't make money online simply because you have pressure cuz the girl is a drunkard. Quite the contrary, you'll have a stroke or a heart attack yourself.

    So take care of 1 and 2 separately. That's my 2 cents.
     
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  14. JaxMan

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    Trust me, I know that. I haven't been with her in a year but am on this damn lease and also need $$ above and beyond my salary to get out.
     
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    The lease. in order to do so, I'd have to have a court order and wait 30 days for it to happen. She's also trashed the place and I can kiss my security deposit goodbye. Lease is up in February, which gives me just enough time (I hope) to accumulate at least some money.
     
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    It's over, VERY over. Amazon affiliate is a great start and content writing is what I do best. in one year, I wrote over 700 articles for LIVESTRONG. Unfortunately, they no longer buy content.
     
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    Or... When she's drunk, be angry against her and said to her that you've got a job for her.

    Next go to chaturbate and stream your girl... bank boom!!!
     
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    If you can get an Adsense account do that, what about writing a blog about your experiences over the past recent years ?

    You can call upon your personal experiences, refer to incidents / feelings / emotions etc all without naming anyone.

    From this you'll benefit others too, as there are bound to be thousands of other people in a similar situation to yours who don't know where to turn to.

    Good luck with the future and roll on February for you.
     
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  19. JaxMan

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    Not true. We are both on the lease and for the entire time we've lived here, I've paid the rent in its entirety. She has had 4-5 (can't remember anymore) clerical jobs over the past year or so and been fired from every one. She refuses to pay for anything except the gas, electric and cable, which add up to about $400 a month to my well over $1k a month. Before you suggest killing the cable, I've said that to her multiple times and she refuses.
     
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    Cmon dude, this woman is just abusing you. if she ain't paying the rent then can't you just tell her to leave cause this s*it ain't working out anymore?
     
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