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[DO YOU AGREE] -> You become who you hang out with.

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by mezzie911, Jun 27, 2012.

  1. mezzie911

    mezzie911 Junior Member

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    I was always passionately taught that you become who you hang out with.

    Do you think it is true that you become the same as the type of people whom you hang out with?

    Do you think you will "absorb" their "energy" or in other words, their ideas & way of thinking?

    Sure, it is possible to maintain a distant or semi-distant relationship w/o sharing the same interests, but how about close relationships?

    Post your thoughts whether you agree or disagree, think this is a lame thread, or whatever else.

    Thanks!

    Background Info: I believe it because it makes sense to me. I need to start hanging out with successful students... it's incredible the lack of motivation I experience simply due to little things like a lack of pencil or my neck hurts or I'm hungry when doing my HW.
     
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  2. sapo

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    its all depends.

    do you guys share with each other? Just cause one guy has good ideas and is smart doesn't mean just cause you hang around him you magically will become a brainstormer and smart.
     
  3. Zapdos

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    If you hang out around smokers, you'll probably start smoking.
    Drinkers? Start drinking.
    Playing games? WoW.

    But really, it's not so much you start to become like the people you hang around so much as it is you're with people with similar interests. If you didn't like the person, you wouldn't be near them.
     
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    I'm hanging out with jews, i will be rich!

    Edit: My best friend is jewish
     
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    I guess thats why im nobody
     
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    if ur a follower then yes. lol. there are ppl who act one way and have friends who act another way and can accept that but still act themselves.. there are others who only hang out with other ppl like them.. and theres ppl who are insecure so follow the steps of their friends who are bad influences lol.
     
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    In greece there is a saying that might cover you,

    "tell me who your friends are and i can tell you who you are"

    and its so so true!
     
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    Actually, you hang out with them becuase you want to be like them or you already are like them.
     
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    i hang out with NOBODY .... does that mean i become "Nobody" ?? :D
     
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    People become me, when they hang out with me.
     
  11. thetraveller

    thetraveller Senior Member

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    I double this.

    Anyway, since I started to find people interested in the same areas I was in, because of sharing information and progress, I actually started to climb on my path a little faster, so hanging with the right people will help, hanging with people who like to loose time in vain (maybe because they have a 9-5 job and after that they can spend their time like that because it seems it is normal) when in fact you'd be better researching and working on your projects, this will make you slower.
     
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    Most of us have freedom of choice, but the truth is people need to be accepted so we tend to conform inorder to fit in. we do this as a matter of survival, this means that you will automatically start adopting the habits/attitudes/sayings of the people you hang out with - it gives you a common bond, unites you and confirms that you fit in.
    So be careful who you hang out with if your going to succumb to peer pressure you might aswell make it beneficial to you and not detrimental.
     
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    Dunno... That might be the case with most people.

    I'm kind of antisocial or avoidant, though. I'm one of those people who is perfectly OK with being alone, and I daydream about living in a shack in the middle of Montana. It's kind of a wonder that I have any friends at all. I'm a pretty big "lone wolf" kinda guy.

    I've never really noticed myself copying the mannerisms of my friends, although I've noticed that sometimes they copy things that I say or do.
     
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    I have to somewhat disagree with you. Yes, of course a follower will become who they hang out with, but that doesn't have to be the case. It is common for people to hang out with the same people so much that they just simply pick up their habits.
     
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    You have a choice what kind of behavior and attitudes you wanna adopt or be influence by.
    But if your peers are stronger or dominating and you don't think consciously of what
    you are doing when with them, you will be automatically influenced by their personalities
    and it will shape yours.

    And if you are stronger you will influence others.

    It's better to be with someone you admire and aspire to be or like-minded people.
    I have friends but they're different than me. I haven't abandoned them but I hangout
    with them sometimes only.
     
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    In general, you pick up similar interests/beliefs, because you all experience the same things.
     
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    I agree for the most part.
    For example, If you become friends with douchebags.....you become one eventually. You may not realize it, but slowly you will become like one and one day you will look back and realize that you did in fact turn into a douchebag.

    It is a sad reality.
     
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    I'd never given this topic much thought until I had a child.

    I mix in lots of different circles, meaning my daughter mixes with the kids of those circles, and I can easily see how this affects her. So much that I am now restricting her access to the rougher elements around her.
     
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