Dating Advice..

Man, do you know how many women, beautiful ones, I've met who love beer? Plenty LOL

My point? Fuck her. Move on, it's her loss. If you beg and plead for her, the best you can expect is a relationship where you are not fully respected.

Who knows what happened, but I wouldn't think too much about it. I could understand if you had been with her for years and this happened, but it sounds like good old lust sickness. Move on, something better is definitely out there.
 
We had sex, then she wrote me the email telling me that she didn't think this was the thing to pursue right now.

Did she orgasm? Seriously did you deliver the package. She's probably having buyers remorse. It probably is a little too much for her right now. Give her some space and don't pursue it. If you still want to hook up send her flirting(not weird) teasing emails/texts every once in a while. If you show that you are cool with it and create some value for yourself by not showing too much interest, she'll show her real intentions. Not a bad play... It's just part of life.
 
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I know this is gonna sound fuckin gayer than a uh.. well who knows. When I met her, I was thinking that I wanted to be with her indefinitely. She was so freakin sexy and smart.. ughh what the hell??

Yes, I think I am smitten but I was trying to be indifferent, fvuch that shit

She liked beer!! How often you find women who love beer??

Well hey... at least you f*cked her! Now just move on, perhaps it just wasn't meant to be.
 
Man, do you know how many women, beautiful ones, I've met who love beer? Plenty LOL

My point? Fuck her. Move on, it's her loss. If you beg and plead for her, the best you can expect is a relationship where you are not fully respected.

Who knows what happened, but I wouldn't think too much about it. I could understand if you had been with her for years and this happened, but it sounds like good old lust sickness. Move on, something better is definitely out there.

Lol, couldn't have put it better!!! Now, read that quote again and again :)
 
Uhm, can I ask how many of the answers given here are by women? Just curious lol...

For one, women are not that focused on sex as you all think, but that email says to me that she wasn't sure about being with you in the first place but thought that sleeping with you may create a bond which apparently it didn't.

You have two options, either move on, which I suggest because you either click or you don't (I am not talking about being madly in love but about enjoying spending time together) or second you can play the indifferent one, answer her email and say it's all cool and you agree with her. It's a bit of reverse psychology but if she does come around do you really want to be with someone who is with you cuz she thought she couldn't have you?

Yes, I am female. No I dont like beer, I only drink scotch :p...
 
We had a connection, that's what is driving me crazy! We were a lot alike yet different. I think she was afraid to get emotionally attached. Women are crazy imo.
 
Thank you lol... Don't worry we think you guys are too complicated as well LMAO.

Well then, maybe you should try to subtly probe what's really going on. How old are you both? I am only asking because someone who is 18 - 20 will see things differently than someone who is 30.
 
Honestly. This is not the place to get advise on love or sex :). No one could really answer this question for you. It doesn't matter if a guy gives you an answer or a girl. Just do what you think is best. What I would do is just let it be. If she changes her mind she will be back. If not well atleast atleast you didn't waste your time.

Don't try to figure out what she is thinking because you will go crazy. Really it could have been anything. Maybe she though you smelled or had weird feet maybe she though your dick was too big or maybe to small. Maybe she toughyou being on Blackhatworld was a waste of time and your future. It could one out of a million things :) women are crazy like that ;)
 
Regardless as to whether youre actually into her or not - You dont want to lose her, you want to keep her in your bullpen of women to call on when the well runs dry. Never burn a bridge..

Throw her a curveball and tell her than you COMPLETELY AGREE, and that you were thinking the EXACT SAME THING but didn't want to hurt her feelings. Tell her that you think shes a great girl, but that she MAY not be the great girl for you.

Play on that insecurity... Even if shes not into you - The thought of YOU not being into HER will drive her crazy, and her perception of you will change. This will at LEAST get you laid 2-3 more times and give you an IN to try and work on something more if thats what you want.

But if I were you... just keep her in your back pocket. You don't want to start anything serious with someone who can be so wishy washy.

Go download some mp3s from our great Professor Tom Leykis, spend a weekend listening to some of the shit he aired 5-6 years ago and you'll emerge a chang-ed man with a bigger dick.
 
what she wrote you was what we call in the business "a shit test" meaning your response will determine the future of your relationship. (i use the word relationship to mean any interaction between 2 people)
respond in a way that is weak, supplicative, beta, toolish or try hard and your relationship is finished. Respond in a way that is strong, dominate, alpha, and demonstrates higher value than you can write your own ticket as to where the relationship goes.

iow ignore her email and proceed as usual. act as if the email said... "all i do is think about you, yourre so cool and im shy and am trying to play hard to get so you will like me more, just ignore my little rants and dominate me to distract my train of though, that gets me so wet"

peace
 
When I got the message at first, I was shit faced. I sent her pics of the night I had had. The next day, I wrote just basically telling her I respect whatever she says and that I was sorry.

damn, I want her back. I am such a effing pussy!
 
If it was about the sex, you would've noticed something during the intercourse:))), right?

Either you were too caught up in the moment to realize it, or you're just hiding something from us.
 
Shake your shlong a little bit, make note of her response, come back here and report it.
 
When I got the message at first, I was shit faced. I sent her pics of the night I had had. The next day, I wrote just basically telling her I respect whatever she says and that I was sorry.

damn, I want her back. I am such a effing pussy!

id say you failed her shit test.

take some time away from her with no contact. reinvent yourself and comeback a different
person so she can unlink her previous beliefs of you and you
might be able to start with a clean slate.
 
She's not feeling you...
You were a temporary relief from singlehood
She's saying in girl-language that I'm not mature of enough to hurt your feelings by telling the truth.

You've been 'next'ed'

In 10yrs or so you will have this same feeling when your wife divorces you, takes your kids, and your money...

Welcome to manhood ;)
 
Classic case of wanting something you can't have. If after a week she's still not feeling you then you must drop it or you will be a weirdo stalker.
 
I know this is gonna sound fuckin gayer than a uh.. well who knows. When I met her, I was thinking that I wanted to be with her indefinitely. She was so freakin sexy and smart.. ughh what the hell??

Yes, I think I am smitten but I was trying to be indifferent, fvuch that shit

She liked beer!! How often you find women who love beer??

And you screwed her - high five dude! Now put her in your spank bank and move on. If she doesn't want to know, then she's obviously not all that and you're obviously not such a great match. And it's not bad sex that caused this. True, it is possible to have pretty damned good sex with someone you just hooked up with, but truly great, mind-blowing sex is with someone who you know intimately. Trust me. Stop beating yourself up and go find yourself a smarter, hotter girl who likes beer and has the good taste to want to stick around with you. There are loads of them out there if you look.

The quote you were looking for, by the way, was "gayer than a picnic basket'.

Edit: To your original post - yes, this is her wimpy, pussy way of telling you that she doesn't want to be with you. If she was a real woman at all, she would be able to say this to your face without any loss of dignity to either of you. Women like this really annoy me.
 
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Pussy is a very addictive drug but you must stop obsessing over one girl you don't even know that well. You're infatuated with the idea of being in love. You're also more into her because you no longer can have her. It's natural.
 
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