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Change your everyday words from "I can't" to "how do I?"

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  1. stharthjw6j

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    This post may sound obvious to some but "impossible" is a word hoomons use a lot, so try changing your thoughts as per the title, because the quality of your thoughts determine the quality of your success.

    When you adopt the second approach, you start to open up avenues that wouldn't be there if you'd accepted the first. That being, your thoughts start postulating ways to break that new ground - then you attempt it - now you've created new theories and avenues to explore that wouldn't have otherwise been there, because you learned what you learned and created a new foundation of pathways to build more opportunities from, and the number of those avenues continues to grow exponentially the more you progress with the "how will I" positive approach.

    Case in point? Technology, history is full of impossible progresses. A few years ago some scientists tried, and for a while thought they'd succeeded, to break the light speed barrier by sending I think massless neutrinos from London to Italy (memory sketchy on the details). As it happens it turned out the instruments were miscalibrated so the results were off. But what is the real result of this "how do we" exercise? They now have a new foundation of learning to build upon, and new theories & pathways to explore from it, as opposed to if the conventional wisdom was to accept the "laws of physics" - whatever that's supposed to mean, and NOT forge new avenues to make it happen, because you believe it can't. Those guys who tried breaking the lightspeed barrier are actually scientific heroes and we don't even know what their names are. If they succeeded, their names would be up there with Newton and Galileo, how's that for how fame works! Everyone knows who the Wright brothers are, name one of the pioneers who failed? lol

    I went off into a tangent as I wrote that but long story short: change from "I can't" to "how will I?" This applies to seriously big things but also things like your IM biz, charming the opposite sex, or small everyday things like cooking a great meal if you think you can't cook for shit: How will I? You may not always succeed, but you will make progress, and a lot of it.
     
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  2. Trepanated

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    Although I agree with your sentiment, the example you gave wasn't quite correct.

    Those scientists weren't trying to break the speed of light. They were doing a different experiment but made the observation that neutrinos appeared to be travelling faster than light. The reason they published their findings was because they knew that shouldn't be possible but could not pin down where the problem was - so, as all good scientists should, they wanted their experiment and it's observations to be peer reviewed.

    Perhaps my question should be 'how do I stop being pedantic?'
     
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    I like to travel to the wilds of Ethiopia and tell those starving kids the exact same thing. I tell ya, they just need to change that attitude of theirs and magical things will happen.
     
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    Fair enough. No, thanks for the clarification.

    I hope the underlying point is still useful.
     
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    Referencing Dave Chappelle, archon10? :D

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    To be fair, I don't think that's what Whatrat was implying - and he did say at the end, "You may not always succeed, but you will make progress, and a lot of it."

    Plus, in business, the point he made is completely correct.

    Anyone who says 'I can't.... whatever' and stops, is never going to build a business.

    But people who say 'How do I...' are much more likely to build a business.

    And if a business sector is so stable and supposedly unchangeable, to the point where everybody thinks 'I can't change this sector', that's where billionaires are made.

    Look at someone like Elon Musk - he asked 'How do I...?' multiple times - and built Paypal, Tesla and SpaceX.
     
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    There is no such thing as magic but anyone, in any walk of life, can do something to improve their lot by changing their thought patterns, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. Can they become President of the United States with a positive mindset? Actually, yes.... but more realistically, they can improve their immediate situations in a way they couldn't with a negative "I can't" mindset. Even a shackled and tortured sex slave can do something for themselves with the I can mindset, even if only internally and nothing else. To repeat my last line: You may not always succeed, but you will make progress.

    But I'm really speaking to people on this forum, for people on this forum.
     
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    Oh yea :D hitler and lenin came really from nothing, so can you. OFC these days the idealogies are not so strong i would think.

    But this is true psychologically you can change your attitude and your though from the i can't to i can. Other thing i discovered myself few days ago thinking stuff was the saying "out of the sight out of the mind", it works both ways. So keep the distractions away and your goals close.
     
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    Put it this way, what if Martin Luther King stood up and said "I have a dream.....but I can't do anything about it."

    :lmao:
     
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    This would be an excellent speech for a children's cancer ward. Just let them know that they can improve by changing their thought patterns.

    @Zwielicht, Dave Chapelle is a god. He knew what's up. People who preach bullshit about positive thinking have obviously never had it rough and seen what it's like to really go through hard times. I want to punch them in the face.
     
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    But he didn't say thinking positive can cure cancer did he.

    I said in my previous post that in business, applying a 'how do I?' does work. And it works well.

    In fact, it's often what separates wildly successful people from everyone else and leads to some people becoming fabulously wealthy.

    Every one of the new breed of global, disruptive, sector changing, billion dollar valuation businesses have been created by someone asking 'how do I completely change and disrupt this industry?'
     
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    Bah, that isn't the point mate, it doesn't directly cure your disease, it improves yourself, your chances of success (yes, even your chances of pulling through an illness), and improves the life you have whatever cards you've been dealt. Again, the original post was really meant for BHWers in mind, but if you want to explore wider contexts then I'm sure the dynamics and results of positive psychology are fairly universal.

    Take your 2 examples, what would either people accomplish with an "I can't" psychology? They'd just spiral deeper and deeper into a depressive hole and further reduce any chance of an upturn, internal or external. It's a vicious cycle.

    And actually I'd be surprised if there aren't people in the predicaments you described who don't keep 'can do' attitudes, I'm sure I could dig up some news stories to that effect, and I bet they're that much better off for it than their negative-psychology contemporaries, internally or even externally.

    It's difficult, and that's why not everybody is doing it. It's not a blame or finger pointing thing, it's simply a logistical fact of positive psychology and it's results. All of us with the luxury of reading this on BHW can take on a "How will I" approach to their lives.

    That isn't akin to having food land on your plate, or unwanted cells getting purged from your body.
     
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    How about people with mental disorders. Do they need to forget the antidepressants and just tell themselves they can positively think their way out of their disorder?

    By the way, while you're on your kushy, first world soap box, you should also understand that smart business people also recognize their limitations.
     
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    So for the third time - he wasn't talking about positive thinking or miracle cures was he.

    So far you've used starving street kids, cancer and mental disorders.

    Is your next point going to be that positive thinking won't resurrect the dead?

    You will still be arguing against something he didn't say.
     
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    It's retarded and arrogant to sit in a nice, first world environment where the world is your oyster and tell people that they just need to think positively to succeed. Retarded. Life hands lots of people a shitty deck, and no amount of positive thinking will get them out of it.
     
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    Oh fuck, double post
     
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    Archon10, maybe I'm not making it clear or maybe you read so many Pewep posts that you thought this was more of the same (no offense Pewep), but I assure you this is very logical.

    I'd even say that you're probably proof of what I'm saying. Assuming you've had success in IM, the simple act of Googling something is "How do I?" in action. Then what happened is; you learned, you acted, you learned more out of the action, and things grew exponentially from there. There are a lot of failures in IM who have an "I can't" conclusion after giving up. See that difference?

    Now this psychology can and does get scaled up. I mentioned Martin Luther King and if he thought "I can't" bring about a change to racial oppression. Another example I mentioned is the one of science. Once upon a time, it was thought beyond human ability to make 300T of metal do this.

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    Those who said "I can't" never progressed, and those who said "How do I" started forging pathways to making it happen, a certain Da Vinci fellow asked himself that and mocked up this:

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    and eventually two brothers built and flew the live thing...

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    Which forged newer foundations and avenues to create this

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    And honestly it wouldn't surprise me if we end up with this

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    And how? Because progressive people ask themselves "How do I?"

    On an individual scale, we all can achieve success in our lives by dropping the negative "I can't" and replacing it with the other.
     
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