Just wondering how many of you out there are in or have gone through a similar family situation like this: You grew up pretty close with your cousins as children. You were the good boy, the one who did well in school, good behavior, good grades, went to college and graduated with a degree, everyone in your family always complimented you and had high expectations of you. Your cousin was the opposite. He struggled through school, dropped out, didn't go to college, didn't get a degree, was hanging out with the bad crowd and had troublesome behavior, future outlook didn't look promising. Fast forward 15 years or so. You are still single, unmarried, no children/family, you have a job but nothing super successful or wow factor, mostly alone as you don't attend family functions and gatherings anymore because you live in another country now. Your cousin, happily married for 15 years, has two beautiful children, became the attraction of the family because everyone would talk about or want to see their kids, all kind of photos and videos being shared and passed around within the family and app networks so you constantly have to see how cute their kids are or how cute their family is on their latest family trip etc. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for my cousin, but we haven't talked or really spent anytime with each other for well over 20 years.... he's never been the kind of guy to rub it in or anything like that. He's just living his life and super cool. But the elephant in the room is always there. You know the comparisons are always there still. And what my life projected to look like and what his did, to see where we are both now, seems really bad for me (embarrassing/shame) while really good for him...being the successful family man, good career/living. Now most of my other cousins (younger) have all recently got married and started having kids so it's really amazing for them and to see that, but it's such an awkward thing for me to feel like I was once the "star" of our family but became sort of the lost and bottom of the rung dweller now. Of course, the story is still being written and it's never too late, but it feels pretty depressing.