As a guy what is the benefit of getting maried?

I have technically been single my whole life (as in never married) when I was younger in my 20s I thought to myself I will probably want to get married when I am older but now the older I get the less I want to haha.

never had a problem getting girls (I'm pretty good looking and charasmatic) but think why else would a guy want to get married unless he has a hard time picking up women?

I just dont see the benefit for a guy. You could potentially lose everything.

now the one reason I see is kids. Guys who want kids get married understanbly. Outside of that is there a reason?

and dont give me that "for love and devotion" crap either lol.

you can lose your car, house, and kids to a woman.

The whole marriage thing favors women considerably.

Am I wrong?

You won't be dying alone?

What you mean "benefit"?

Oukast said:

What you mean "benefit"?

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Some people are just benefit seekers. If there's no benefit in something, they'll ignore it.

I don't think there's much benefits.

If a marriage ends up in a divorce, the fucking bitch gets 50% of your assets unless if she's the one at fault (adultery, .etc).
But if YOU'RE the one who's committing adultery, then you're pretty much more fucked. You have to pay Child Support, and some "maintenance fee". That fee is something like.. still paying for your ex-wife's daily living as if the divorce never happened.

And what if she is the one committing adultery? Well, nothing much. She only don't get a cut of your assets. But she doesn't need to pay Child Support and such. Kinda fuck up, huh?

What's worst? If she wins the custody of the children, she can fucking toy with you.

I see not much benefits in marriage. Unless having children, and like ShadeDream said - not dying alone.
Or having more privilege to acquire certain assets.

Someone to wake up and kiss? someone you can talk to about your emotional problems. Some one who you can call yours and only yours. Sex every other day? lol idk im one of those guys who actually believes in love....

Marriage just makes it 'official'

You don't have to go through the trouble of picking up someone whenever you want boobs.

It's pretty much boobies on command I guess

Uuuh.. cos my wife is awesome, funny, beautiful, smart, sexy, balanced, reasonable..

the benefit is spending my life with someone I enjoy spending time with. Not sure what other reasons there could be.. green card? Passport?

If you don't understand that, I guess you haven't met the right girl, and you shouldn't think about getting married (just my opinion)

For many in your generation there probably isn't a point of marriage. Commitment, loyalty, honor, devotion as well as other admirable traits are missing in many from younger generations. I'm not saying this is true with the Op but if you don't see a "benefit" in living life with someone that is there for you no matter what happens then I'm sorry.

I couldn't imagine life without my wife. She's there when shit hits the fan and there when we find gold at the end of the rainbow. She carries me when I can't get up and vice verse. She's got my back when someone crosses me and she knows I've got hers. We've been through a lot of shit together over the last 18 years and I wouldn't trade her for anything. She's as loyal a partner as a man could ask for. I try to do the best for her that I can.

As for bad marriages and divorce and losing all you have; you're preaching to the choir here. My first marriage created two beautiful children that I love more than life itself. My wife of 13 years decided at 32 yrs of age I was to blame for her missing her youth. She wanted to be 20 again and took my kids, house and money leaving me to start all over again. I was no Saint but didn't deserve to be stripped of my kids except for 2 weekends a month and every other holiday. Bitterness is still there towards her that couldn't be mature enough to consider 2 innocent children but they turned out ok and her not so good. I paid my child support plus much more to help her raise those kids without me.

But if I was dealt the same hand I'd play it again. Those that have children know the miracle that happens at birth and nothing in this world can replace it. I don't like the fact she bailed out of the life contract but I made the best of it. I kept my end of the deal.

Marriage isn't for everyone but life sucks if you don't have someone to share it with.

One of the benefits is knowing there is no benefit

There is no real point in marriage. Marriage is an institution of the past. All these things people mention above: someone to call yours, love, commitment blah blah blah can be achieved without marriage. If you love someone you love someone and you don't need to be married to prove it.

mdsurf said:

There is no real point in marriage. Marriage is an institution of the past. All these things people mention above: someone to call yours, love, commitment blah blah blah can be achieved without marriage. If you love someone you love someone and you don't need to be married to prove it.

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I agree with this 110% marriage makes people feel secure in the relationship...and if you really think about it, were you really in love if you never felt secure in the first place.
to be honest most people will say...well i like to know that I'm spending the rest of my life with someone. OK?!? how would you not be doing that any other way if you just loved and lived with each other?

I think when people say the rest of there life they think some how there gonna Die at the same time and be put in a box at the same time to be placed 6 feet under, but in reality everyone will be placed in that box alone and whatever happens after that will happen but i can tell you what won't happen.

you won't be together forever that's for sure!

GreenGoblin said:

One of the benefits is knowing there is no benefit

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That was deep

mdsurf said:

There is no real point in marriage. Marriage is an institution of the past. All these things people mention above: someone to call yours, love, commitment blah blah blah can be achieved without marriage. If you love someone you love someone and you don't need to be married to prove it.

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No, but one has to be stupid to have all that and not get married to get the legal perks that come with it.

Marriage means you're not afraid of saying you're committed to each other for life, thick and thin, richer or poorer, sickness and in health, until death do you part.

Saying you're committed to someone but not committed enough to make a written and verbal contract in front of God, your friends and both your families is not a commitment. Your girlfriend can't shitlist your ass when you break the contract (in BHW terms).

Marriage is not a past tradition unless you make it so. I know most people don't have contract commitment these days but a life commitment is the ultimate contract. Of course it requires work which most couples today don't understand. All they understand is cost vs reward and what is in it for me. Ask one of them to take a bullet for the other and see how fast they run to cover their own ass. I'd run into fire for my wife and take her place any day. I don't expect most of you to understand the commitment of marriage.

kvmcable said:

Marriage means you're not afraid of saying you're committed to each other for life, thick and thin, richer or poorer, sickness and in health, until death do you part.

Saying you're committed to someone but not committed enough to make a written and verbal contract in front of God, your friends and both your families is not a commitment. Your girlfriend can't shitlist your ass when you break the contract (in BHW terms).

Marriage is not a past tradition unless you make it so. I know most people don't have contract commitment these days but a life commitment is the ultimate contract. Of course it requires work which most couples today don't understand. All they understand is cost vs reward and what is in it for me. Ask one of them to take a bullet for the other and see how fast they run to cover their own ass. I'd run into fire for my wife and take her place any day. I don't expect most of you to understand the commitment of marriage.

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http://www.cbsnews.com/video/watch/?id=50141834n

Divorce rates rise among baby boomers ^^

You know what the interesting part about this is....the baby boomers is the ones who reinforce the same logic you just posted..lmao

GreenGoblin said:

http://www.cbsnews.com/video/watch/?id=50141834n

Divorce rates rise among baby boomers ^^

You know what the interesting part about this is....the baby boomers is the ones who reinforce the same logic you just posted..lmao

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You can't have a divorce without a marriage; case in point

kvmcable said:

You can't have a divorce without a marriage; case in point

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HUH? the question is "what's the benefit"

kvmcable said:

Marriage means you're not afraid of saying you're committed to each other for life, thick and thin, richer or poorer, sickness and in health, until death do you part.

Saying you're committed to someone but not committed enough to make a written and verbal contract in front of God, your friends and both your families is not a commitment. Your girlfriend can't shitlist your ass when you break the contract (in BHW terms).

Marriage is not a past tradition unless you make it so. I know most people don't have contract commitment these days but a life commitment is the ultimate contract. Of course it requires work which most couples today don't understand. All they understand is cost vs reward and what is in it for me. Ask one of them to take a bullet for the other and see how fast they run to cover their own ass. I'd run into fire for my wife and take her place any day. I don't expect most of you to understand the commitment of marriage.

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I agree. The thing is that people are afraid of commitment. They rather go out and have sex with every other slut out there than have a wife that's all yours and will truly care for you and love you.

I don't want sluts in my life. I only want one girl that will be there for me until the end. A girl that isn't a slut and will only be with me and want ME. Well basically a girl that has all of the qualities that kvmcable's wife has. It's just a very beautiful thing to have. Your own family.

I don't see why someone wouldn't want that. I know I can be a player if I wanted to and have sex with every other girl I meet, but I choose not to. I've tried before but something in me just keeps me from doing anything. Because at that moment I begin to feel like scum. Knowing that i've only been talking to this girl because I want to get in her pants. It's just wrong to me. Idk how guys can do that, honestly.