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[Article] 9 Dirty Tricks Bosses Use To Make You Quit Your Job!

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  1. The Scarlet Pimp

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    this is why it's important to have your own business! :eek:

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    Passive-Aggressive Ways Bosses Get Employees to Quit

    Can you tell when your boss is giving you passive-agressive, or covert signs it is time to quit? What are they? What can you do?

    To find answers, I asked one of the world's leading executive coaches and managerial consultants, Dr. Kenneth N. Siegel. He is President of The Impact Group, Inc. a group of psychologists who consult to top management across the globe.

    The truth is it's rare that bosses have a "heart-to-heart" and level with you. Most do not sit down with you to say it's time to move on. The few bosses that do, really do care, and will work with you and help you find the next thing.

    But what about the boss, who starts saying nothing, or changes the way he or she communicates with you. It's like the classic song sung by Billie Holiday, "You've Changed." Suddenly the sparkle in your boss's eye has gone (or he may be avoiding eye contact). And certainly, it will seem to you that the boss's smile is just a careless yawn.

    So, here are the subtle (or not so subtle) hints that it is time for you to take action before your boss does. These are Nine Passive Aggressive Hints. They come in the form of covert, not overt communication.

    1. Assigned an Unimportant Fragment of an Important Project

    This is the boss who says we're going to have a global meeting ? I want you to make sure everyone has the right UBER billing number, and schedule their transportation to and from the airport.

    According to Dr. Siegel, "This is basically a way to be demeaning while keeping the appearance that you are part of the team."

    2. Mysterious Exclusion

    Finding that you have been left off of email strings, and occasional meeting invites that you used to be part of on a regular basis.

    3. Socio- Emotional Distancing

    You become aware of an emotional gap that you and your boss now have. This is manifested in the boss who no longer stops in to see how you are doing, or what you did this weekend. The occasional lunch becomes a distant memory.

    4. Stealth Responsibilities Change

    For example, weekly reports and preparing upper management used to be your responsibility. Suddenly, someone else is doing the assignments. In a stealth mode, the boss has changed your responsibilities.

    Dr. Siegel noted, "Worse, you discover this through someone other than your boss."

    5. Train Your Replacement

    You train a new worker, and then he's all but taken over your job. Your training became your train wreck ? you never saw it coming.

    6. Delaying Promises

    She's promised a raise and a new title forever ? forever never comes. When you ask, she's always waiting for something new. Or, she rationalizes, "I just can't give that promotion yet ? what would others think?"

    You are chasing a moving target you'll never catch.

    7. Distraction

    The boss will divert the conversation and does not give a straight answer to your straight question steering the conversation onto another topic.

    Each conversation becomes a frustrating game.

    8. Avoidance

    There is never enough time. The boss is always too busy to talk to you about the work you are doing. As Dr. Siegel said, "You will find this even on projects and matters you thought were very important. The project may be important, but the signs are that you are not."

    9. You Indirectly Find Out Your Work is Substandard

    You don't find out through the boss, you find out through others including peers, and even worse subordinates. You've been undermined.

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    to (hopefully) help, inform, or amuse!
    (also, i've had some of these pulled on me)
     
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    These are all indicators of a bad boss.

    If someone is not doing their job properly a good manager will find out why and figure out what can be done to rectify things:

    1. If a solution can be found everyone is happy and the company benefits.
    2. If a solution can't be found, the manager should take appropriate and legitimate steps to remove that person from their job or from the company. In the long term both the company and the employee will benefit.

    If the manager is unable to do either, then they are not doing their job properly and someone more senior needs to deal with them using steps 1 and 2 above.
     
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    true, but many bosses take the easy way out and just replace people.