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Are your parents understanding of your decisions?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Numbuh362, Jun 14, 2014.

  1. Numbuh362

    Numbuh362 Elite Member

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    I'm only asking this to find out if anyone else is in a similar situation as me. My parents are a little disappointed in me with my decision of becoming an internet marketer instead of getting a degree. I can't really understand why, I make enough to support my self, in fact I was recently able to purchase a Mercedes paid for in full. I don't mean to brag but I was actually pretty happy, I drove to my parents house and showed them, they said it was nice but it would be nicer if I became a lawyer or a doctor or even an accountant. It made me kind of sad, even if I became Mark Zuckerberg they'd still be disappointed because I didn't get a diploma. I can sort of understand that they wanted me to get a diploma so I could be something and people would look up to me but why does it matter if I'm still able to support myself and live a happy life? Personally I think my parents are upset because when people ask them what I'm up to or what I'm doing they can't say anything, they can't say "Oh my son is an online merchant" without making a fool of themselves. I'm 100% sure that if I was a billionaire my parents still wouldn't be happy with my decision. Do your parent's know about what you do for a living? Are they accepting of your career path?
     
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  2. elmostreet

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    I did finished my degree and got a diploma but I still choose to do IM because it offers me bigger earnings. With regards to my parents, they don't really care what my job is, as long as it's a good and honest job and you're are making more money than the average professional. In fact, when somebody asked my parents about my job, do you know what they often answer?

    They immediately say, 'My son is earning this kind of amount of money on his online business'.

    I really don't know about your parent. Maybe they just need some explanation. Tell them that you are doing an honest job which pays you good money.
     
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  3. Numbuh362

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    They'd rather have me make $30,000 as a really bad lawyer than $100,000 as a merchant. It's cool how your parents are accepting, I'm trying to follow in your footsteps and get my degree too but it's hard when you're sitting in class and all you're thinking about is "instead of listening to all of this and doing all of this work I could have made $XXX".
     
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    Some of my family members look at my online business as not a "real job" and when I was younger
    it meant something to me and I was always trying to prove and show them my efforts and how they
    paid off better than a so called "real job".

    Let me tell you how it ended for me. I decided that I had to not take it personal. They are not
    trying to purposely belittle your efforts. They are stuck in another frame of time and just can't
    understand how the internet business works. Matter of fact they are completely ignorant to what
    I call the online economy and industry.

    If you let it become personal it will actually hurt your feelings and its always a bad feeling when your
    parents do not approve of something. Sure you will get those guys who say "hell with them bank and
    make money" but that's not realistic now is it? Because some part of us do care what others think of us.
    Remember do not let it be personal and understand they are from a different time. Give it time and it will
    wear on them and they will be proud of you. :)

    Good luck and in enjoy the benz!

    -RK
     
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    OP, why don't you enjoy university? It's a fun place. Just get a passing grade and get it out of the way. Take extra courses to get it over with, whatever.
     
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  6. elmostreet

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    Yes, you are right. 'Time is gold' as they say.

    Anyway, if that's what your parents really want and what's makes them happy then perhaps getting your degree is the only choice you have. There are actually many members around here who are studying and at the same time doing IM. This is the good thing about IM, you are making money even while you are asleep, studying or away from your PC.
     
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  7. Retraction

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    I'm hip. Get a degree in HTML5/CSS or web encryption or something related to the Internet because it will sort you out from the scrubs and give you more legitimacy. I would trust my money with a college degree than a high school degree. Also, IM is a relatively new area. Who knows what will happen? One day something revolutionary will come out an replace the Internet or something.
     
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  8. pxoxrxn

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    I am getting a degree, not because anyone else wants me too, but because I like to learn. I do IM on the side because for me, my study is more important to me.

    If my parents didn't like what I did with my life, that's their problem not mine. I guess I would always take my mum's concerns on board, not just because she is my mum, but because I respect her opinion.

    Just do what makes you happy, if you keep trying to please other people, you'll never please anyone and most importantly, you'll never please yourself.
     
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  9. Numbuh362

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    It's just that I hate studying and going to class when instead I could be making money, I know I have to do it and get it over with but I just can't no matter how hard I try.
     
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    The internet is the future (if the future isn't already here). Internet marketing is something that's going to be around for a long time, tell your parents that there are hundreds of thousands of lawyers and doctors in the world; say you wanted to try something "new".

    My parents were the exact same way, they called me "lazy" and "unambitious". That was until I started paying 2/3 of the rent and they had a lot more leverage financially.

    It's all about how they look at it in the end, but if you're happy then everything is in its proper place.

    - A
     
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    So the internet is not the future?


    I agree with you but, as there becomes more and more money involved, people will start to research and nit pick the single best practices. The results will be published in academic journals and then taught at universities. Then people without the tertiary education will be competing against people that have been taught the best practices that have had the shit researched out of them. Some will trickle down to the people without the education.

    This has happened to almost every industry and the internet is next.
     
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    Well, I actually meant that the internet IS the future.

    Also that's very true, but by the time that happens I'm sure we'll have had our fair share of online income ;).

    - A
     
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    Without a doubt.

    Also, we will probably be the ones teaching it, wearing tweed jackets and smoking Cuban cigars.
     
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    Study something you want to study. You must be studying something boring. I study computer science and sell IM software, so I guess that goes hand in hand. Find something that will complement what you do. Even if you're studying to become a lawyer, build a legal service Adsense site and write articles on law, or whatever. Endless possibilities. Tie them together somehow.
     
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  15. Sunday Lunch

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    Numbuh were are you from? That's a very Asian (both American & English versions) and Middle Eastern mindset for parents to have. In a way I understand where they are coming from as the careers you mentioned will always be needed, even after something has replaced the internet.

    The more you can become a person who doesn't give a shit about what others think about you the happier you will be, I realize this is harder with your parents than just Joe Blogs. Most people spend their lives seeking approval from everyone when in reality that approval wont make a difference to your life in the slightest. This forum is a great example of that, people actually care about what other people they'll never meet think about them, to the point it affects their mood.

    Think about how crazy that shit is.
     
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    My parents support me. They are happy with whatever I'm doing as long as I am happy. It's sad to hear that your parents think that way, OP.
     
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    No. My parents support me. Actually before i start my IM they think online money didn't exist .But now they know the truth so they also want to work with me. My father always say to me "man i want to work with you i also want to earn in $$$$$" he he he.
     
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    It's your life, if you spend it trying to please your parents/other people you're going to have a bad time. Your parents won't be around forever and neither will you, make the most of it
     
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    when you bring home enough money they will be not disappointed any more ;) ..... so don't give to much about it. they can't imagine how great the life can be living out of the internet.
     
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    I didn't skip uni because of IM and thank god for that.

    The contacts I've made during 4 years in uni are priceless now.